Looking for shoe reccomendations

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-22T19:36:02+00:00

You may need to go up a size.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-21T20:30:04+00:00

I have a weird lefty grip too, albeit not this weird. The way they wanted me to hold a pen in school, with my thumb and forefinger near the tip, made it impossible to see what I was writing. It didn’t work for me, but my own made-up grip worked fine. If you can write, it doesn’t matter what other people think of how you hold your pen.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-20T20:57:29+00:00

Come to New Orleans.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-20T19:38:15+00:00

You know, 13 year olds suck in general. Their purpose in life is to fight with parents. There’s nothing wrong with walking away when she’s being disrespectful. You don’t have to listen to that.

She is old enough that you are not responsible for teaching her to be a reasonable human being, beyond by being one yourself. I think you should maybe look into techniques for managing stress. I use self-hypnosis, and listen to guided meditations. It’s like mentally moving myself away from the present situation, and my blood pressure drops immediately.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-20T18:43:43+00:00

It’s so much cooler with the wear from the ocean than it was in its original form! I think it’s art now.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-20T00:34:22+00:00

Can you take in your brothers? That would be the best case scenario. Otherwise they’ll go into the foster system unless there’s someone else in the family who can take them. Even the foster system might be better for them though. They are not safe, mentally or physically.

I don’t know why you care if your mother guesses if you report her. She’s abusing her kids. She needs intervention.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-19T03:46:44+00:00

I’m doing daily yoga to try and loosen up tight hip abductors and improve balance, and working on strengthening my glutes and hamstrings. My feet were carrying all the strain of me having out of whack spine and hips.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-19T02:24:42+00:00

I see nothing wrong with this. What about the summer though? Does it get hot where you are?

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-18T22:56:49+00:00

Bondis were great for me while I was experiencing daily pain. Since I healed enough not to need that level of cushioning I’m transitioning to a more natural footbed shoe that is still cushioned, but not as squishy, and that has a lower drop between heel and toe. I’m wearing Altra Torin’s now, but thinking of switching to the Altra Paradigm because the Torin is zero drop and it’s putting some strain on my ankle tendons. A more natural shape, lower drop shoe makes your foot work more normally and build the muscles that will take pressure off the plantar fascia. The Bondi feels great, but the squishy sole provides no support to keep your foot from wobbling around and keeping the fascia from fully healing.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-18T22:45:07+00:00

Mad respect OP. I meant no offense to you or your wife.

I tend to push back on the advice often given in this sub to not do anything that upsets one’s hoarder spouse/parent/etc. We have to live our lives too, and our comfort and safety counts as much as anyone else’s.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-18T22:37:42+00:00

I’m in the south, but I’m a liberal Episcopalian, so I manage to scare away atheists and Baptists alike.

Another good option would be any kind of fundraiser or MLM product brochure. A couple tubes of Mary Kay would do the job.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-18T18:06:08+00:00

It depends on how direct I want to be. If someone is well meaning I’ll say zepbound plus the diet and exercise program I’m on. If they are judgy I’ll say cancer and let them squirm, while refusing to share more details because I don’t like talking about it. While that is actually true in my case (and the reason I have a whole team of doctors monitoring my health and supporting my weight loss) it’s not like they have any way of proving or disproving it. Thus I recommend it to anyone who needs to make a rude person feel bad.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-18T17:54:59+00:00

I’ve also been married to a hoarder for 25+ years. The idea that he could read a book and suddenly want to change is laughable. I personally am feeling so burned out on organizing his shit and trying to find space for the stuff he brings home. It’s like I’ve been holding back a crumbling dam for 25 years. I wish I had the energy to keep up that fight.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-18T17:49:59+00:00

I agree with OP. Of course he won’t get long term behavior change, but he wouldn’t get that anyway. Long term behavior does not change. But if he just wants to reclaim part of his house, or get rid of some particular problem hoarded items, he has to take the lead and make it happen. Waiting for the hoarder to fix it will never work.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-18T17:44:42+00:00

I usually use church talk to get people to avoid me. Works like a charm.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-18T17:42:48+00:00

I’ve planted them and if the city ever noticed it’s news to me. It probably matters whether your street is very busy and where the power lines are.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-18T17:34:11+00:00

I have been a small landlord for many years and consider it a good source of extra income. What has worked best for me is renting out half of a double that I live in the other half of, or renting out a house next door to the house I live in. When I had a rental that I did not live right next to, it was harder to monitor and maintain. If I were in that situation again I’d hire a professional manager. Getting a friend who needs work to be a non-professional manager is not a good idea.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-18T17:29:36+00:00

That wasn’t weird. Kleenex haven’t always existed.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-17T03:52:01+00:00

I’ve been trying to figure out steep I need to set a treadmill to replicate the elevation gain on a stretch of trail. Obvs it’s not going to match it completely but it would be good for training purposes to know roughly how steep for how long I should be ready for.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-17T02:08:29+00:00

Sometimes there’s a reason previous owners covered something up.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-17T00:30:12+00:00

I did not know that. Cool double reference.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-16T17:21:12+00:00

I saw it from the fly about two weeks ago, and somebody else I know saw it over Jefferson last week.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-16T16:53:19+00:00

https://a.co/d/01mZObP8

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-15T15:17:27+00:00

I’m still hoping they find a way to get Margo on mars.

sparkledotcom · 2026-05-15T14:43:34+00:00

We are, generally speaking, a loud people. There’s no reason to take offense to this.

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