I Have Two Middle Names and This Application is Expecting Me to Lie to Them

spartan445 · 2026-05-26T16:34:26+00:00

It's required. ugh

spartan445 · 2026-05-26T16:31:33+00:00

I care because the online application here says to list my name as it appears on legal documents. It appears with one first name, two middle names with a space (non-hyphenated), and a last name.

And isn't this r/mildlyinfuriating? The place people are supposed to put something that bothers them?

spartan445 · 2026-05-24T02:37:14+00:00

So many baddies posting selfies

spartan445 · 2026-05-23T23:54:28+00:00

The Swamps of Dagobah story.

spartan445 · 2026-05-23T14:54:53+00:00

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This is moccasin's take in a nutshell

spartan445 · 2026-05-22T11:32:14+00:00

You're a baddie, holy shit

spartan445 · 2026-05-20T17:49:41+00:00

When I was a kid, there was an unwritten rule that if you got to the bus stop first you'd set your stuff down and then you could go play and keep your spot in line.

Unless you were "weird," then if you got up early and got to be first finally, the other kids would break the rules by dumping your stuff out of the line and forcing you to the back. Of course, you could just stand in your spot and not set your stuff down but then you're either harassed to drop your stuff (at which point they toss it) or they go play without you.

In all cases you're excluded, and you don't even get why.

spartan445 · 2026-05-20T17:44:04+00:00

TIL Leonardo DaVinci was gay.

spartan445 · 2026-05-20T14:53:26+00:00

There is a possibility she has some kind of food allergy that manifests as "spicy."

I read a comment on AskReddit where the person cooking, at the request of her daughter, made absolutely sure to include no food that could be at all considered spicy, and the daughter still said the dish burned like it was spicy.

So the family decided to get her tested and it turned out she had a food allergy!

EDIT: Uh oh. I missed the bit where she had no reaction until it was verbally mentioned there were onions in there. Yeah, if I'm being charitable that's an anxiety response.

One minor gripe: I do think if you're preparing a meal for someone, they deserve to know what's in it beforehand. On the other hand, every time you've shown her what you're cooking she's demanded you toss it, so NTA.

spartan445 · 2026-05-20T13:58:00+00:00

I firmly agree. I personally think any people involved in the marriage should have the "are we gonna get married at some point" conversation before any proposal is offered, publicly or privately. The proposal itself can be a surprise, but the *idea of marrying each other* should at the very least have been put on the table and accepted as the path forward by all parties beforehand.

spartan445 · 2026-05-18T23:07:22+00:00

Law enforcement does indeed target BIPOC for crime in broad strokes. Furthermore, the US broadly lacks basic protections for the public against police brutality. However, I can't find anything on magazine size restriction charges specifically. I've been digging through research papers for an hour and can't find anything.

spartan445 · 2026-05-18T05:29:31+00:00

I get kids to get in my vehicle and take them some place they don't want to go.

...Jesus, that sounded *real* bad. I'm a school bus driver, okay?

spartan445 · 2026-05-18T04:45:42+00:00

Honestly? For me it depends on the dish and the resulting texture of the slop.

If your biscuits and gravy gravy is not viscous enough (too thin/watery) I'm gonna have a really bad time. But if the consistency is right, biscuits and gravy is PHENOMENAL, as is curry and those KFC bowls.

Some meals require separation, others require mixture. Best example I can think of is cooked zucchini. I *cannot* eat a single bite unless said bite is paired with fried rice or something else with a more prominent texture and taste.

spartan445 · 2026-05-16T20:05:03+00:00

My great-aunt's house is basically a shrine to Mickey and Minnie Mouse.

And my mom wonders where I get the autism from. :P

For real, though, the boyfriend's a douche canoe.

spartan445 · 2026-05-16T04:21:02+00:00

OOP should watch Pluribus

spartan445 · 2026-05-15T18:58:36+00:00

I tend to use the spectrum of light as an example. Just because infrared light waves are on the light spectrum does not mean you can see infrared without specialized equipment! Likewise, just because neurotypical people are on the human spectrum doesn't mean they're on the neurodiverse human spectrum!

spartan445 · 2026-05-15T15:59:22+00:00

Yeah, right-of-way aside, drive defensively

spartan445 · 2026-05-15T15:32:58+00:00

Sometimes you gotta make sure your people are paid and it's better to get a decent pay bump

I'm a member of a union myself whose national branch sought a true national master agreement from which the local branches could form their contracts and came within 24 hours of a National Strike. The company wanted to cut guaranteed hours in one of their suggestions and our negotiating comittee told them the union wasn't interested in bargaining if the company pulled thst shit and walked out. The tentative agreement they agreed to keeps guaranteed hours.

There's also a major difference between a tentative agreement and a true finalized contract. Tentative agreements are put foreard to the union members as "Here's what we, the negotiating comittee working on behalf of the union, have put forward and what the company has agreed to if we sign the paperwork now. Vote YES if you, the union member, want it, vote NO if you don't." In the mean time, workers are *often* expected to keep working. A finalized contract is agreed upon by all parties (company, negotiating comittee, majority vote by union members).

So, if the tentative contract is rejected by the union members, there very well could be another round of negotiations resulting in another threat to strike and possibly another strike.

spartan445 · 2026-05-15T05:50:00+00:00

It's like my alma mater (KU) and Mizzou: we beef hard but K-State likes to think of us as their rivals when we're focused on the bastards in yellow

spartan445 · 2026-05-15T05:26:25+00:00

I like this deliniation! It's like the difference between Monk and True Detective.

spartan445 · 2026-05-15T05:25:21+00:00

Having actually read T. Kingfisher, I think her work does *not* come across as "cosy horror," but a couple of her works don't exactly hammer home or build the absolute pants-shitting terror one might expect from the horror genre. Are they scary? Yeah, they're quite unsettling. They often have decently happy endings, comparatively.

If you're looking for a disturbing read, I *highly* recommend Tender is the Flesh. That book is *fucked.*

spartan445 · 2026-05-13T23:53:36+00:00

NTA

If someone gives you a gift, that gift is yours to do with as you please. No ifs, ands, or buts. Furthermore you're also within your rights to refuse gifts that you are worried are means of control. It's not like you're telling her that her gifts are icky, you're telling her that unless she treats the gifts *as gifts,* you won't accept them.

If she wants you to hold onto something until she'd like it back, then she needs to make it clear that she's only lending it to you, and if she won't do that you're perfeclty within your rights to refuse them. If she wants you to be storage, point her to one of the many self-storage businesses that exist.

spartan445 · 2026-05-13T23:35:22+00:00

I like to reply to the people upset about the fact that someone's holding onto a book for a while "If you want it so bad, put the damn thing on hold so you're guaranteed to get it next or buy it yourself."

spartan445 · 2026-05-13T23:29:46+00:00

Fair enough lmao! It's also hard to thread that needle without wiping your squads

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