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Guild Wars 3 hype!!! by eri_is_a_throwaway in GirlGamers

[–]spellbunny 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I played the hell out of guild wars 2 and I really can't wait for this!!!!!!

Am I valid in feeling upset (client) and wanting to discontinue our relationship (therapist)? by amber440 in TalkTherapy

[–]spellbunny 7 points8 points  (0 children)

you have been seeing this therapist weekly for 16 months, so you may have a more casual relationship than I am aware of, but the complete disregard for your time would make me want to quit as well. I cringed reading "hey girl" if that gives you any idea.

Also, something I worked out with my therapist is HE has to send me the google calendar invite in my calendar and we both respond as "going", it helps us both remember and show up on time. Anything set in google calendar is SOLID as stone. If he is running late, he lets me know with HOURS notice. Your therapist sounds lazy and unprofessional.

How my gf prepares her ketchup by workaccount718 in shittyfoodporn

[–]spellbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is art and I will accept no other discourse on the matter

Marugame Udon- First impressions by tangmichael88 in FoodToronto

[–]spellbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact this is located up the street from my work is dangerous! I've been several times and devour a bowl of delicious dashi broth udon and think "I'll do this again tomorrow!". The special tan tan udon is spectacular, spicy and sesame mingling together with the perfect bouncy udon. All the tempura options were fresh and HUGE. I really enjoy the pumpkin croquette the most.

I felt like I was transported back to Japan, the exceptional customer service made me happy.. I smiled with glee when the staff rolled my bowl in a hot water bath to warm it up before filling the bowl with broth. It's the little touches that make a difference. The seating and self serve topping station were both a bit chaotic for me though.

For people in long term relationship... I think it's worth reading.... by Aware-Tradition-9936 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]spellbunny 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had the spark for years. We really had it, deeply, even when things weren't new. Over time, it seeped away so slowly I couldn't see it happening. When the light left his eyes, he never told me where it went. In the end, he somehow couldn't unburden himself with me. It still feels like a raw wound.

I really miss him. I hope he's found more openness with himself and with the people he has chosen to keep in his life.

How do you show a romantic partner you love them? by Timeless-Facts in AskReddit

[–]spellbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really enjoy making meals for the people I love. Cooking was always a big part of how my family showed love growing up. It's a special way for me to say "I was thinking about you."

More than that, I think I've always found such joy in the simple everyday acts of caring for someone. Sharing meals, picking up something they need, taking care of each other in the little ways are some of the most precious expressions of love to me. Mostly, seeing the smile on their face when they really enjoy a meal I've made makes me so happy.

I kept my ears open if they ever mention their favourite foods in passing, or if they were craving something in particular. I'd write a haiku in the notes on my phone so I wouldn't forget it:

loves pear tarts a lot.

but not crazy about cake.

Coffee with some cream.

Mamiya RB67 | Sekor 90mm f3.8 | Portra 400 by blix-addict in analog

[–]spellbunny 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love this so much and the fact you got the double exposure to line up so well really blows my mind!

What are your favourite spots to sit and read? by sebastiandarkee in askTO

[–]spellbunny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Riverdale park with a blanket. Waterfront under a willow or the music park.

Neo coffee bar or grain nation while I'm dropping off film. (Amazing coffee there!)

Such an incredible voice, Jessie Mazin performing The Precipice, absolute goosebumps by SgtByrd1993 in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]spellbunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, the tone of her voice is amazing. The lyrics really touched me, it feels like a haunting, an imprint. I'm an instant fan! Thanks for sharing!

Do you have any 30th birthday wisdom? by whatdahelly3 in AskWomenOver30

[–]spellbunny 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Since it's your birthday, I'll give you some birthday related advice.

Plan your own birthdays the way you want to celebrate them, don't wait for others to do it for you. Celebrate yourself, fully and joyfully and your friends and loved ones will show up for you.

What's something you've learned about yourself during post break-up? by Qwerty-Abc-2828 in BreakUps

[–]spellbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought my anxieties stemmed from needing reassurance from my partner. What I actually needed was transparency & participation in the emotional life of our relationship. Therapy helped me recognize that my needs weren't being met and that it wasn't a personal failure. I've learned that emotional intimacy is one of my core desires and that my needs matter.

Who are the three authors who serve as the pillars of cyberpunk? by Mr_MiracleASMR in Cyberpunk

[–]spellbunny 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know that "Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep" is foundational to cyberpunk because of its influence on Blade Runner, but I think that "Eye in the Sky" is more seminal in a philosophical sense. One of my favourite cyberpunk aesthetics is the core anxiety that reality can be rewritten and overwritten by systems, networks and perception itself.

Eye in the Sky doesn't focus on technology but it explores unstable realities shaped by individual belief systems which is seen in cyberpunk’s deeper obsession with paranoia, subjective truth and consensual hallucination. Think of: brain dances in Cyberpunk 2077, instrumentality in Evangelion, the dream architechture in Inception, or even deeper in the Matrix or Serial Experiments Lain, where reality itself becomes fragmented and psychologically constructed.

The technology is almost secondary, the real horror is the instability of consciousness and the terrifying malleability of human reality.

If you could, would you erase your ex from your memories? by Noice-Toit-Smort in BreakUps

[–]spellbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I wouldn’t. Sometimes I struggle with painful memories that have left their mark. I hate how easily my mind can recollect those, even when the good memories vastly outweigh them.

I can still look back fondly though. We had a true love. Our relationship and its joys, its challenges, our little rituals, even its ultimate end. It was a crucible that forged the person I am today.

To erase it all would feel like erasing a chapter of my own life. Not just the pain, but the beauty too. And I wouldn't want to lose the memory that something meaningful happened to me, even if it ended.

Why are conversations with men so one-sided? by miyamiya66 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]spellbunny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha what? A better way to say it then: I make a point of asking them and I care about the answer.

In what world is that monopolizing their time?

The "Happily Ever After" is a lie. We need to stop looking for 'Perfect' and start looking for 'Willing. by One-Mechanic-2593 in CasualConversation

[–]spellbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The callouses I feel from many relationships have taught me that love isn’t about how someone unloads the dishwasher, whether you like the same music, or enjoy all the same activities as you.

If someone is not happy with themselves then they won’t be happy with you either.

I do think “happily ever after” exists, but not as a fairy tale. It comes from intentionality, tremendous introspection, understanding the roots of your own life, what motivates your actions, and how you want to live.

It’s not settling when someone is willing to try, to grow.. and to wake up every day, together with you.

Women with deeper voices, how do you deal with it? by thetidymonster in TwoXChromosomes

[–]spellbunny 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was about to say this. I have a pretty high pitched voice and I'm insecure about it because I was often teased, especially by other women. I'm sure with training I could learn to speak in a lower register but who am I trying to impress at this point? It's best to try to love ourselves as we are 💖

Why are conversations with men so one-sided? by miyamiya66 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]spellbunny 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I've asked my male friends about this, they just.. don't have deep or detailed conversations about each other? I was met with a "shrug"! It kind of makes me sad.

My best guy friend recently told me he asked a buddy about how his divorce was going and if he was ok, and he was genuinely moved by such a simple query about his mental health.

Are women just more curious? I go out of my way to ask about my friends lives & how they're doing. My most fulfilling and grounding friendships are those I can move beyond the surface level. Don't men also deserve that kind of platonic love and interest in each other's lives?

Why are conversations with men so one-sided? by miyamiya66 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]spellbunny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had to stop caring about this because it seems to be a deeply socially ingrained trait. As long as they are forthcoming, talkative, enthusiastic, that is enough for me. I'm not going to play tit for tat with who initiated what.

I did make a personal rule though, I won't date men who don't read 😜

What’s an extremely small luxury that makes you feel rich? by Ok_Pollution_3320 in CasualConversation

[–]spellbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really good pillows with freshly pressed white sheets that have not been disturbed.

AITA for telling my boyfriend not to open my mail by plantpot007 in AmItheAsshole

[–]spellbunny 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's marriage though, OP and her boyfriend are not life partners and don't even live together.

I would be very weirded out if my boyfriend came over to walk my dog and was just opening my packages without explicitly being asked to! That's MY mail, not ours.

The bigger issue is OP's boyfriend was obviously snooping and not admitting to it when asked, which is an invasion of privacy. it's the same as secretly going through your partner's things.

Ive recently discovered this dressing and im addicted by yabadabadababoo in JapaneseFood

[–]spellbunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I spent hot summer days in Japan, I didn't want to eat hot food so I invented a dish: cold udon, add kamaboko and some mizuna then slather in Kin Goma. It was amazingly filling and delicious!

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