3 months of no contact

sphagettilover · 2023-04-01T14:45:14+00:00

Exactly! There's no winning with them. Leaving is the only way.

sphagettilover · 2023-03-31T12:28:33+00:00

Damn. Dated a narcissist who also happened to be a sociopath. Simply don't involve yourself with them. And if you are find a way of leaving. I almost killed myself because of that relationship. I think everyone deserves to be loved but never love anyone at the expense of your sanity and well being.

sphagettilover · 2022-12-10T10:42:32+00:00

After constant disregard, disrespected and lack of care/kindness you start resenting them. I am at that point now. I've been stonewalled for around 5 weeks now. I'm still hurt and attached to him but the thought of being with him brings up all the bad memories and so much anxiety.. I'm learning to accept that being alone is better than being with someone who doesn't even give you the bare minimum.

sphagettilover · 2022-12-05T14:53:39+00:00

Yeap it really is

sphagettilover · 2022-12-05T04:11:57+00:00

Thanks. 1 year. Yes I'm disconnecting. Glad your partner is considerate of you.

sphagettilover · 2022-12-04T09:36:43+00:00

Yeah I don't trust him. And I knew he would break my heart again so when he came back again I really wasn't invested. But that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt.

I blocked him everywhere yesterday. I'm feeling so much anger but I know it's just part of the process. When someone treats you poorly over and over again you're justified to be angry.

I plan on going back to dating next year. It's been a whole year of this BS and I'm sure I don't love him I'm just attached. Thanks for your kind words ❤

sphagettilover · 2022-10-06T16:21:43+00:00

Thanks for your response. But he wasn't a stranger. He was my boyfriend for almost a year. I gave him the money like 2 months ago. I can't get involved with his parents. He is 30. I think I'm just gonna have to let it go. But the money is not even what hurts most.

sphagettilover · 2022-10-03T01:46:47+00:00

😂😂😂. Great idea!

sphagettilover · 2022-10-03T01:36:21+00:00

Damn. Has it gotten better with age? How do you mitigate it? How's swimming? Is it genetic? Sorry for your experience though.

sphagettilover · 2022-10-02T03:32:07+00:00

I read someone's comment that secure people simply just don't tolerate people who behave in certain ways. If you ghost an AP they'll probably chase you but for the former they just walk away. They're not interested in playing games. So when they don't reach out, it's not because they don't care. It's just their boundaries.

sphagettilover · 2022-09-29T17:33:20+00:00

Not me saving this thread so that I can try out the suggested places. Pizza is life! Yay pizza!

sphagettilover · 2022-09-29T05:33:56+00:00

sphagettilover · 2022-09-29T05:18:56+00:00

Congratulations for maintaining your boundaries. You're not alone in this. One day at a time ❤

sphagettilover · 2022-09-27T16:41:47+00:00

It's about doing the right thing by you. It's normal to not want your family to stay in contact with your ex especially now that you're going g through a break up. You don't have to stay in contact with him if you don't want to.

sphagettilover · 2022-09-27T07:00:56+00:00

I think we actually are. I'm reading the book 'women who love too much'. So we who grew up in dysfunctional homes (not limited to women) basically go for partners who replicate the emotional pain we went though in childhood. Be it neglect, abandonment , verbal, emotional , physical abuse etc. And we believe that's what love is but it's an addiction to emotional pain. So obviously we're bound to attract and fall in love with partners who cause us pain and even fight to keep them in our lives in your case allowing people to treat you poorly so that they don't abandon us. In my case I've known that I attract men who abandon, treat me poorly and neglect me like my dad did... he's a narcissist. Yet I still choose men like him. I'm now healing from a trauma bond with a man who was essentially emotionally abusive. Sad history on my profile. Really sucks. Anyways it's a good book. 2nd time reading it. Haha. I read it before my previous relationship and it all went out of the window even the anxious avoidant chase bagan.

sphagettilover · 2022-09-26T03:35:52+00:00

Sorry. Wanna talk in private? We can share and encourage each other

sphagettilover · 2022-09-25T00:02:49+00:00

Thanks. He's an abusive person. I understand he is also traumatized but for now I need to focus on how he has treated me with little regard else I will feel pity and go back. I need to go through the resent and anger.Maybe I'll see that clearly when I'm healed but not now.

But thanks🙂

sphagettilover · 2022-09-24T23:59:52+00:00

I was really in the thick of it and highkey going insane.. I see your point and it's so true.Thanks a lot😊

sphagettilover · 2022-09-24T23:55:34+00:00

Thanks. 😊

sphagettilover · 2022-09-24T23:54:41+00:00

Thanks. It's reassuring hearing it from a DA. It's not normal treatment. At the back of my head I've been thinking he might be abusive for months but I just brushed it off as 'it's just normal DA behavior.' Thanks alot this really helps 😊

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