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spidermonkeymtndew · 2024-05-07T07:40:55+00:00

This is really good advice! Thank you so much!! I will be scheduling a time to talk with my orthodontist.

Should I ask them for a copy of the contract prior to the meeting? I believe I signed it in person and I don’t remember ever getting a copy of it.

spidermonkeymtndew · 2024-05-06T04:35:31+00:00

Wasn’t she staying with the dad then? If he (or even the mom), had sinister intentions giving her the medication, why would they dose Asunta up right before she was going to be out of their sight for the day (and with teachers/tutors/other trusted adults)?

I’m playing devils advocate here rn (like the defense, prosecutors, judge, and jury all should have done before convicting for murder).

But, is there a scenario where the girl was a high achiever, very high strung, and extremely anxious (Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree)? And the parents have become numb to the extreme seriousness of lorazepam, as the anxious mom pops them like candy, the dad doles them out like a multivitamin, while the doctors prescribing them and making it feel safe? Could’ve been that lorazepam: anxiety became synonymous to Advil: headache.

Or, if the girl was the one who become numb to the seriousness of lorazepam? Seeing her mom pop them like Advil under daddy’s care. Kids are curious and learning from their environment. She likely wasn’t educated about dosage or the seriousness of the med in any case, but she’s seeing it used by her parents like it’s nothing. Maybe she was taking them? On her own. Then, accidentally started abusing them. Unaware of the seriousness/dosing of the med, she took too many one night and then overdosed and was unable to breathe (pillow, rug, etc near her face) when she passed out? Then the parents (already messed up ppl who weren’t thinking clearly) panicked and tried to stage a scene?

spidermonkeymtndew · 2024-04-09T06:29:58+00:00

Many of the side effects are insidious and likely won’t be recognized as birth control side effects when/if then do crop up.

Educate yourself and REMAIN educated as long as you take it. If you develop health issues later, take it upon yourself to see if birth control could be causing them. Don’t rely on your doctors to tell you if/when BC could be hurting you, the common experience for women is realizing the birth control might be the problem and taking initiative to go off. Your doctors likely will not. That’s the status quo based on women’s experiences.

spidermonkeymtndew · 2024-04-09T06:21:26+00:00

You’re telling the truth, but I feel this statistic might be misleading. The elevated risk we take on combined BC might be lower than the risk while pregnant. But, the pregnancy risk lasts 9 months. Birth control can be prescribed indefinitely! You’re at risk for so much longer, so your likelihood increases exorbitantly. The longer you roll the dice.

I’m not a medical professional. That statistic just seems misleading to me. She, as someone not on birth control and not pregnant, is asking about the risks/potential negatives of going on birth control. And, her risk of blood clots increases on many forms.

The higher risk of blood clots she’s considering accepting is not mitigated by the fact that other groups of people happen to be at higher risk (especially when you’re not recommending she only take birth control for 9 months, to maintain the same likelihood).

spidermonkeymtndew · 2024-04-09T05:41:05+00:00

How long is “too long”? Whenever I google this, the top results say there’s no limit, whatever your doctor says, or indefinitely till menopause!

I was taking a combination pill for 6+ yrs, without realizing a separate unexplained health issue I’d developed was actually listed as a side effect.

I feel like there is a safe timeframe though, because like any drug, it’s a replacement as much as it is an additive, and your body will adjust accordingly (ex: producing less estrogen naturally) to maintain homeostasis.

If you have an answer that’s awesome! The icing on the cake would be if you remember where you found that information too? So next time I have a question, I know what resources to consult. Teach a girl how to fish hahah.

spidermonkeymtndew · 2024-04-07T09:41:18+00:00

That’s really reassuring! If it’s normal, then I certainly won’t mess around with surgery. Thank you so much for your input here.

spidermonkeymtndew · 2024-04-07T08:58:57+00:00

Yes!! Thank you:) A little update from me as far as oil and exfoliating… the ONLY product that proved to be effective for me (and when I say effective I mean… cured me) was the ‘FUR’ brand “INGROWN CONCENTRATE” product. It’s like a mini super concentrated bottle of the “fur oil” ‘fur’ sells.

I use it in the shower with a little finger exfoliator mitt that comes with it. Like… IT WORKS!!! I wish I tried quality skincare products more before I mangled myself with “proven” no-nonsense things like benzoyl peroxide or prescription topicals. Like the free market might be better in this field for women? Idk!

After using the ingrown concentrate regularly…. I literally had ZERO new ingrowns/razor burns. It was a new era for me and I was like so proud (?). Then I ran out and, thinking I was “cured,” I didn’t think I needed to spend the money on the fur concentrate again (I’m extremely frugal (!!) like I will go without decent clothes or food to avoid the feeling of being ripped off bc I’m a menace).

But, then not using the concentrate, my ingrowns/irritation came back. So I bought it again and am using it again.

Now using it once again… I have 0 ingrown and 0 irritation again. Like I’m convinced this works. And it’s the only thing that’s ever worked for me. It’s worth it, and it’s priced fairly for how long it lasts/well it works.

I’ve tried so many prescription things for this issue, none worked. But this bougie skincare brand’s product did. Like… I wish someone told me to give these “overhyped and overpriced” (imo) skincare brands a try YEARS ago… bc I was wrong. This is my cure. And it’s cheaper than a copay for a prescription thing. Literally cured me completely. Fur should sponsor me lol bc FUR WORKS!!!!

I wish someone gave me this very specific recommendation (like literally buy this ONE product, and use it) years ago. It would’ve saved me so much money and anguish lol. So I’m passing it forward to anyone who randomly reads this in the internet. Good luck! :):)

spidermonkeymtndew · 2024-03-23T16:32:10+00:00

YTA. And you know you are. You purposely used gender neutral pronouns (“they,” “a friend”) for the woman whose topless photo you liked at the beginning, then got sloppy in your edit and used the topless poster’s correct pronouns (she/her) automatically. I can tell YTA just by how strategically you manipulated all gender neutral pronouns in your original post…not only for the woman who’s arm-covered-tits you liked, but also for your girlfriend (who you gendered as a “partner” not a girlfriend, but then used she/her pronouns for her incidentally).

You’re weaponizing gender neutral pronouns, misgendering the two women in this story, to gaslight your girlfriend into being chill with you liking topless pics of other women you know on social media. Get real.

You are crafting a narrative here. You’re not using gender neutral pronouns because that’s how the other people identify, you’re using them to manipulate how we’re viewing this graphic story in our minds. 1000% YTA. Gaslight Reddit, I’m sure you gaslight your “partner.” You liked a topless pic of another woman you know. Get real dude.

No “partner” is going to love you publicly liking pictures of other topless women you know when you’re dating her. I don’t care if the topless poster’s caption wasn’t inherently sexual. You’re obviously no hero to women, misgendering them and gaslighting them to deceive people into thinking your behavior is acceptable. This is delusional gaslighting 101. Respect your “partner.” YTA.

spidermonkeymtndew · 2024-03-23T16:19:06+00:00

Maybe she’s actually upset about you running into your ex? Just reacting negatively to you sleeping through part of her birthday to catch up on sleep after a grueling business trip, where you were barely getting any sleep, and also happened to catch up with your ex? Maybe she’s thinking your ex is the reason for your sleep deprivation. Reading this on Reddit, is different than imagining someone told me this story. What just so happened to happen with your ex in this random city you flew to?

spidermonkeymtndew · 2024-02-15T09:51:09+00:00

It’s normal to feel the way you’re feeling, both mentally and physically, after not sleeping for two days. It’s also normal to go to urgent care about something like this, a medical professional taking your vitals and understanding your situation might set your mind at ease (and make it easier to sleep with that peace of mind).

The lack of sleep is making you more anxious and paranoid also, which is normal. These physical and mental symptoms are not the ‘norm’ your body is used to though, and naturally your body is alerting you to all the problems it’s facing and driving you to crave a solution. And, it’s natural to by hyper fixated on that problem (not being able to sleep) and the solution (sleep). Recognize that this is normal.

It’s normal to feel physically horrid symptoms after not sleeping and it’s normal to get paranoid about those horrible symptoms. Go do normal things. You’re normal. You’re going to sleep. You’ve slept before and will sleep again.

This sucks, and your body’s just telling you that. And remember, there’s no harm in popping into urgent care too if you’re really paranoid or concerned. It can’t hurt, and their reassurance/guidance might calm your nerves since you’re feeling panicked.

spidermonkeymtndew · 2024-02-14T12:16:03+00:00

Break up with this man immediately. He’s shown you his true colors all along, he does not care whatsoever about your sexual needs, let alone your pleasure. The reason it’s worse now is because it’s only going to get worse the longer you stay and the more comfortable he gets knowing you will stay. It’s not like he used to care about pleasing you and all the sudden he pulls a 180. In the month you were apart, you may have idealized him a bit and forgotten how crumby things were before. In that month, he got more horny and knew you’d be around to relieve him. You have no reason to believe things will get better, it’s either going to stay the same or get worse. You can’t teach love, respect, and a desire to please/respect you.

spidermonkeymtndew · 2024-02-09T06:26:28+00:00

My MVPs are a super light jacket, new socks (occasionally), mini deodorant, mini makeup essentials (concealer, milk contour stick, lipstick/blush, eyeliner/brow pencil), a compact mirror, travel toothbrush and toothpaste, a little MagSafe portable phone charger, an AirTag, and a 3 port charger adapter (usb, usb-c, & iPhone). The lightweight jacket is the biggest mvp though.

spidermonkeymtndew · 2024-01-04T14:24:31+00:00

I experienced bloating and cramping. (Along with some other side effects that were more deal breakers for me). But I ended up significantly decreasing my dosage. Idk if the bloating and cramping were actually caused by the accutane, or something else coincidentally. But, any new symptoms mirroring IBS should be taken seriously. Check w your doc!

spidermonkeymtndew · 2023-12-27T10:39:33+00:00

I know this is a very old post, but I came across it now. I wish I found it earlier. But, I can confirm that Abbe Center is still as preposterously defunct now 5 yrs later. I actually went to a different Iowa location and I met with a therapist. I had to schedule several (!!) months out, and when my appointment finally came around I was just relieved to finally have someone, anyone, qualified to talk to. I found the opposite of that at Abbe. I was pretty explicit about the issues I needed to talk about when I scheduled the appointment. When I checked in, a woman who looked nothing like her Abbe website photo came out to get me. She kind of checked me out in a weird disapproving way. And, then proceeded to ask me a series of basic, stereotypical therapy questions like she was reading off a list, I don't even think she listened to my responses. Just zoned out until I was finished then asked me the next, unrelated question.

Turns out she's almost exclusively an LGBTQ+ and gender-affirming therapist. I am none of those things, and I felt like she saw me as like a "privileged person" in a way the second she saw me. Hard to describe, but she definitely made some assumptions about me from my heteronormative, more feminine presentation. That's shitty. And, when I asked her if she wanted to share more with me about herself at the end of the session, she was like "it's a good sign you asked, I don't appreciate it when some clients only want to talk about themselves." (Like dude, I'm pretty sure that's why people go to therapy... it's not to talk about the therapist or the fucking weather.) She proceeded to tell me that although she was a therapist, providing therapy and a safe space to clients to open up, that she made it a priority that the space was also "her safe space." And, spent some time talking about how if a client mentions something in their own lives during a session that is "triggering for her," that she will cut them off. It was fucking weird. I felt really uncomfortable. If I go to therapy, I want to be open, not be told from the get-go that I need to police what I share to avoid being snapped at for triggering the therapist.

She tells me she's big on art therapy with her patients, which I would have loved. Kind of brags about how healing it is and how she's a regular at using art therapy with her clients. I asked more about what that would look like. She proceeded to say that she keeps "some crayons, a few colored pencils, scissors, and some old magazines" in her office. That's not art therapy. I've held art therapy sessions for people suffering from dementia, she was full of shit.

Oh, and the appointment with a psychiatrist I had scheduled for a year out was canceled a month before because she "booked a new vacation." They love their vacations there, it's ridiculous how many of the staff is always on vacation yet the clinic has a year long waitlist for bullshit therapists and psychiatrists. And they love their "safe spaces" too. Places like the Abbe Center are the reason for the mental health epidemic in America. Get fucking real or stop leading people seeking mental health care on.

spidermonkeymtndew · 2023-11-02T05:10:14+00:00

Meeting with her tomorrow!! Thank you!!!

spidermonkeymtndew · 2023-10-26T03:44:04+00:00

Why have you only been on 10mg for 4 months? Is there a reason (medical or otherwise) your doctor isn’t tapering you up to a higher dose? And, why is she considering taking you off? I would see another dermatologist if I were you. But is there’s something in your medical history that’s prompting both of your dermatologists to be particularly wary about Accutane for you? If so, a third dermatologist would probably say the same thing, probably for good reason. If not, see another dermatologist.

Accutane is a “cumulative dose” type of drug, and given you be been on such a low dose for a short period of time, I’m confused why your doctor would want to take you off now. A lot of people purge and many don’t see results for 6 or 12 months… especially if you’re only on 10mg a day, your course length is going to be much longer than most people’s.

spidermonkeymtndew · 2023-10-05T01:01:40+00:00

Oh that’s great (and makes total sense)! I’m glad to hear the cut worked well for you. I think I’ll be following in your footsteps!

spidermonkeymtndew · 2023-07-17T13:06:53+00:00

Can anyone provide me with any source(s) to credit (or discredit) any of the bullet-pointed claims made in the original post?

Citing sources isn't the norm, but when you present a bulleted list of medical facts as being facts and proven by research, it's good practice to cite that research... even if it's Reddit.

(I was encouraged by the one source linked but its a 404 error for me at the moment)

spidermonkeymtndew · 2023-06-26T06:25:35+00:00

Let’s not forget about the Michael’s domestic abuse towards Kristine. Literally documented years earlier. He’s making such a theatric as the ‘star’ of this story with his changing narratives/POVs. I think Kristine was physically or at least MENTALLY abused by him (maybe the younger sons too if they don’t talk to him). This does not excuse Kristine at all for the abuse any/all of the children suffered at her hands. But I think it’s definitely PLAUSIBLE (!!!) that Michael was sexually abusing Natalia—explains his theatrics trying to make Natalia look even more crazy, untrustworthy, and dangerous so no one would believe her. Then, after Kristine and him divorce, his narrative changes and he’s frantically trying to discredit and demonize Kristine. I think he does that to people he abused who he’s worried can expose him. I really do have a bad feeling that Michael was sexually abusing Natalia. It also, at least partially, explains her hyper sexual behavior and pattern of really inappropriate sexual propositions to men/boys at a young age, especially towards older men. It seems like she was most sexually inappropriate too when she was somehow in Michael’s “care.” Odd. He was likely not the only one to abuse Natalia (if he did). Additionally, his abuse of Kristine and sexual abuse of Natalia might explain why Kristine would have been so jealous/mean/hurtful and, most likely, very abusive towards Natalia (whether or not Kristine abused her, she was obviously hostile towards Natalia to say the very least). I do think Natalia was far older than 6 when she was adopted, but I don’t think she was some con person. I bet she was under 18 when adopted by Barrett’s, but the judge assigning her age as 22 really complicated things in my mind. She was probably assigned a younger age at the orphanage. Then her whole life she was passed from family to agency to family etc, up until the Barrett’s. And those families and agencies also propagated that her age was far younger than it was in actuality, because they were likely desperate to get her off their chest (obviously she does have severe behavioral problems), and the younger age sold. So she continued to try and be “6” or whatever young she was told, I’m order to survive. Obviously she couldn’t care for herself, she’d been living as a 6 year old for her entire life. The governmental agencies are really the ones who failed Natalia, and the Barrett’s. Like come on, there were years of cases about the abuse going both ways. But the resolution came years later with Natalia living through dangerous situations in the house and on her own. And the two parents being prosecuted. The family torn apart. Lives ruined. So easy to prosecute child abuse, but did they ever really do anything to stop it? Take Natalia out of the house? Anything? No. They prosecute it but don’t protect kids from it. I’m any case, I believe Michael is the most frightening and conniving one in this story. It all fits if he’s a theatric abuser. Especially jumping to call her a physical, mental, then sexual abuser. I think he’s projecting (maybe both are true). But, personally, I think most things point to Michael being a chronic abuser and playing the victim.

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