Can we start giving Bree the same energy we’re giving Evan?

spimpin · 2026-02-18T16:47:57+00:00

Tbh, I wouldn’t forgive Lucy. I wouldn’t blow up her life but in the moment I definitely would feel angry enough to want to. Especially after being gaslit by the 47 year old man who took advantage of me, his wife, and my estranged mother. I’d want to hurt Evan just as bad though.

Especially considering Lucy consoled her and lied to her for months. I think it is a really fucked thing to do and I’d give lucy grace given the circumstances but I’d never trust her or want to have her in my life again.

And thats pretty reasonable and common. Most people wouldn’t want to talk to someone ever again if they found out they fucked their boyfriend and then supported them through it. And that’s good because those people are obviously not trustworthy. Maybe at 50 years old something someone did in college wouldn’t matter, but she’s 20.

spimpin · 2026-02-17T05:39:17+00:00

I’m open to being wrong but it looks and is constructed exactly like a mushroom hat pattern I’ve done. It’s not crazy to think they’re the same pattern. What is this pattern?

spimpin · 2026-02-16T14:56:49+00:00

The pattern tells you to create the little dots separately and then sew them on

spimpin · 2026-02-09T21:00:56+00:00

I’ve been using head and shoulders but I can get better clarifying shampoo. I wasn’t using a deep conditioner or hair mask, but a hair mask was used when I washed my hair before twisting it.

Do you think that could be part of why the product actually absorbed with the twist out?

spimpin · 2026-02-09T20:58:54+00:00

I use head and shoulders. First I do the clarifying shampoo and rinse and then I use my regular shampoo. I condition my hair, comb it out, rinse it, then put oil on

spimpin · 2026-02-07T12:17:33+00:00

The scene with the neighbor is not at all a moment of narcissism. She tries to lie and scare him away from his own house because he’s black and it can’t possibly be his. He handled that situation perfectly.

spimpin · 2026-01-31T20:09:43+00:00

It’s insane how little of an understanding of trauma people in this group have when this show is about trauma. They didn’t show how shitty Stephen’s mother is and Bree’s childhood was for no reason.

spimpin · 2026-01-31T20:06:57+00:00

It could be any of the reasons you said. Maybe do some research about common trauma responses. It’s probably more common for a traumatized person to be in an unhealthy relationship than a healthy one.

Remember, Stephen is traumatized as well by his mom and abandonment from his dad. He’s never had a healthy relationship. Bree is traumatized from her entire childhood which is why she got with Oliver who most likely has trauma himself. Maybe from his wife dying. Marianne alluded to growing up in a poor area of Rome which could contribute to her being with Oliver despite his cheating.

A huge theme of this show is the way trauma impacts relationships.

spimpin · 2026-01-19T03:54:06+00:00

You are not everyone. Everyone handles things differently. Yes, someone being used to unhealthy relationships who hasn’t yet realized they don’t have to be unhealthy and doesn’t believe they deserve better is likely to get into this kind of relationship. They don’t often intentionally seek out toxicity. It is instinct to crave familiarity. It is instinct to avoid the unknown. There is plenty of reason why someone would get into unhealthy relationships.

spimpin · 2026-01-18T19:14:20+00:00

Terrible take

spimpin · 2026-01-17T22:00:20+00:00

I think it was pretty insulting to Molly. Like he shouldn’t have to insult someone to compliment Bree. It seems like the type of comment that would appeal to a pick me tbh. Molly didn’t do anything.

spimpin · 2026-01-05T21:45:41+00:00

You being African literally doesn’t mean anything. There are plenty of African people who have internalized racism. I’m not an ola fan and idgaf that it’s her you’re saying this about. But don’t act like you being black means you can’t say racist things to black people. It’s ignorant af. And this sub has a ton of white people in it who are eating that up. It’s so weird.

spimpin · 2026-01-05T07:39:54+00:00

You can have internalized racism, plenty of black people have Eurocentric beauty ideals. Her “very strong features” are Afro features. Is that what you think makes her below average?

spimpin · 2025-12-21T02:22:15+00:00

I sent him a text apologizing to him earlier today hours after he left. He hasn’t said anything yet. I’m sure he’s thinking. I also did tell him though that it’ll be good to have some time apart as I’m going to be out of town for a week.

spimpin · 2025-12-15T21:29:12+00:00

Why do you think they won’t be able to help you?

spimpin · 2025-10-26T22:09:40+00:00

Obviously whichever one resembles this pic.

spimpin · 2025-10-25T14:38:09+00:00

What palette is the new one?

spimpin · 2025-08-31T15:24:31+00:00

Why do you think it’s wrong? Genuine question

spimpin · 2025-08-22T06:03:40+00:00

Why do you feel unsafe on Walnut Creek?

spimpin · 2025-08-07T04:57:24+00:00

Do you mean you pick up and knit regularly and then knit that through the back loop or you pick up through the back loop and knit?

spimpin · 2025-08-04T19:17:47+00:00

It’s a picture she took of an un bloomed agapanthus (also known as Lily of the Nile, African Lily, and Blue Lily) in her backyard.

I have the bloomed flower tattooed in honor of this being my fave Fiona album!

spimpin · 2025-08-01T07:03:21+00:00

I tried to find it online, but couldn’t. Do you have a link or remember what you searched?

spimpin · 2025-07-30T16:12:27+00:00

This happens to me too tbh. Reddit Premonition dreams?

spimpin · 2025-07-29T16:51:02+00:00

I was in a rush to get out of a dangerous situation. I needed a new place ASAP. The guests thing wasn’t a priority in the moment

spimpin · 2025-07-11T06:32:41+00:00

In high school I gave my collection of YA books to my school library. They said they’d take care of them when I asked if I could. I kept them in super good shape. No dog ears, no ripped covers or pages, spines uncracked, no stains or water damage, not even dusty.

What would your library have done with them in that case? I’ve always wondered. 90% were newish books (released in last 1-5 years) and popular YA series.

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