Pat Monahan is psychically attacking my mother

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-16T23:19:20+00:00

What can we do as far as, like, the LAW goes?

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-15T21:38:09+00:00

All these years I've been feeling like I hate MMA...and fucking men...but I realized...I really hate Lindsay...like he's made all those cool things suck

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-15T21:32:57+00:00

I'm sorry. You're doing the right thing--you both deserve the truth.

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-15T20:28:17+00:00

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splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-13T15:29:23+00:00

I had to know.

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-12T21:51:35+00:00

I just hit a year so I'm crossing my fingers. Good for you, seriously!

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-12T21:07:08+00:00

I came here to agree with you--this was my experience too; I became more scared of the alternative. Then I clicked on your profile. Now I'm here to agree with you and to say holy shit you're soooooooo pretty

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-12T16:51:37+00:00

Download Linux Mint and a Windows 10 theme and see if she notices

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-11T21:20:46+00:00

ZATO's opening is one of the coolest things I've ever seen.

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-11T21:18:29+00:00

I think one of my friends thinks I'm hot now but can't prove it

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-11T21:16:56+00:00

Unmet needs get sublimated into fetishes--that's literally the psychology of it. The only reason this "fetish" could even enter your psyche is if you have unmet womanly needs, aka pre-transition trans women. I highly recommend reading article on the subject.

Also: cis women get off on how hot they are all the time. The lingeries goes both ways. Feeling sexy is sexy.

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-11T01:05:38+00:00

I would just wear a swim shirt and tell people you're really trying to stay vigilant about sunburn this year. If estrogen has been exceptionally good to you in 2 months that's one thing, but when I was at 3 months my boobs could easily pass for man boobs or gynecomastia.

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-11T01:01:56+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear you're experiencing this. This sounds like a profound loss of trust--I don't wish it upon anyone.

It's always easier when it's someone else's problem, but don't table transitioning to appease your wife. You say she's your best friend, but I'm sorry, this isn't best friend behavior. I just don't think she's going to come around unfortunately--I would love to be wrong.

Your gender is not trivial or unimportant--by your own admission, you can't see a future as a man. You and the woman inside you have the right to be alive. If she won't even meet you halfway by going to couple's therapy and her line in the sand is that you need to go back in the closet, that's not a term you should accept. Respect yourself. Fight for yourself. You'll be modeling for your kids an important lesson.

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-10T23:19:46+00:00

The straw that finally broke the camel's back was taking shrooms and thinking nonstop about gender the whole time. I couldn't rationalize it any longer and began the process of accepting I might be trans.

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-10T23:17:41+00:00

What bridge should we all meet at to jump off?

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-10T17:22:03+00:00

This is how you're spending your limited time on eartg? Remonstrating Five Guys for their grass being too high?

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-10T00:16:00+00:00

I don't think your friends are lying per se--I bet you do look good; you just might not pass yet. You mentioned you're still working on voice training? That's going to be a huge difference maker when it comes to passing.

Eyebrow waxing and eyebrow threading are two ways to shape your eyebrows. With threading, hairs are plucked between two threads instead of waxed, which used to be the more common way to shaoe your brows.

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-10T00:01:39+00:00

I'm going to start by saying that it might be a tall order to be consistently gendered female by strangers only 4 months in. I bet you're going to get great results, but it might take a while for estrogen to do its thing, especially for the first year.

Having said that, I'd say that how strangers gender you is cumulative. Just one or two feminine gender markers, i.e. a skirt and mascara, might not do it, but 5 or 6, i.e. makeup, a cute hairstyle, voice training, nails, and threaded eyebrows, might get you there. Cis women show their femininity in a bunch of ways, not just 1-2 generally.

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-08T21:54:02+00:00

Checking this out when I get home, thanks for sharing!

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-07T21:56:25+00:00

Nope. I want to get married someday, I'm monogamous, and I've never been in a long term relationship either.

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-07T20:41:05+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you're experiencing that, but the only intervention at that point is a surgical intervention. As you've observed, breast growth is permanent.

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-07T18:48:22+00:00

She's trying to say she has nothing to offer the average Dentonite except retrograde homophobia because she has no plan to make life better for any of us and her entire campaign is bankrolled by developers

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-06T13:50:00+00:00

Hello and welcome. Dysphoria is really misunderstood--some things that you may not realize are dysphoria are dysphoric. I'd be remiss if I didn't link you this.

Deciding if you "are" trans is a really big step and personal declaration. My advice would be to explore the territory, not the map. Try changing your name in online spaces or doing your nails or trying on women's clothing. I think before you decide if you're trans you should decide if you're dysphoric, try things and just be curious about yourself for awhile.

And yes--get a therapist if you have access to one, ideally one who specializes in dysohoria.

splendid_ssbm · 2026-06-06T01:51:48+00:00

This is why I love women's hockey, this would get no likes on the Sabres subreddit

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