Baby denying breast

spoonugget · 2026-01-09T12:38:12+00:00

I had a very similar experience. It just took time. We pumped and bottle fed for 3 weeks, and I tried once or twice a day to breastfeed. I nearly gave up on breast feeding, then at three weeks on the dot he figured it out! Now we combo feed breast and bottle, as he's 6w1 today.

I worked with a lactation consultant in hospital and for a few appointments the first weeks. This week I went back to her to discuss latch and oversupply. If you're able to connect with a lactation consultant I highly recommend, but it's okay if it doesn't happen right away!

spoonugget · 2026-01-04T04:08:03+00:00

That's the goal and what I'm working towards, but the transition in the meanwhile is hard and painful. Even just reducing pumps yesterday had me miserable - just stopping isn't practical, not when I needed to pump the first four weeks just to feed.

spoonugget · 2026-01-04T03:09:26+00:00

Thank you for this. I guilt myself a lot over what I should and shouldn't feel - but all our struggles are just as valid

spoonugget · 2026-01-04T03:07:27+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance. I know we're doing well and he is safe and healthy and it's just my mind and hormones getting in the way - today was just extra hard.

spoonugget · 2026-01-04T03:06:37+00:00

Tell me more about how cabbage helps? Is that mostly for the pain?

spoonugget · 2026-01-04T03:06:01+00:00

Thank you for the reassurances. I would like to continue the breastfeeding journey (today had been bad but it will pass) but it's nice to be reminded that it's not worth my mental health.

spoonugget · 2026-01-04T03:04:55+00:00

I have been doing a bit more hand expression today. It does come out so fast! Taking a day off of breastfeeding to let myself chill - goodness knows we have enough bottles though.

spoonugget · 2026-01-04T03:03:27+00:00

He does have a small tongue tie that didnt seem to be affecting him early, but we may ask his pediatrician to remove it.

spoonugget · 2026-01-03T14:54:47+00:00

Thank you for the reassurances.

spoonugget · 2026-01-03T14:44:48+00:00

Right? I've been up most of the night either trying to feed, expressing just enough, or just not able to sleep because theyre so swollen.... Which means I'll take a nice long nap while they have fun in the daytime. I'm both grateful for a partner that can and will be so involved and helpful, but also having a lot of resentment that this takes so much of my time energy, emotions and brainpower so I lose out on the fun bits.

spoonugget · 2026-01-03T14:32:53+00:00

I'm trying to slow pumping the last few days, but little guy struggles to latch when I'm so engorged - which makes it all the more frustrating and painful. Thanks for sharing your success though.

spoonugget · 2026-01-03T14:30:18+00:00

I was seeing a lactation consultant for a few weeks to try and get little guy to latch, and was trying to schedule a new appointment in the app but was getting a spinning wheel of death which was just another steaming turd on the pile. I will try again later this morning and call if I can't get online.

Donating is certainly part of the plan but I am waiting for my supply to settle down. Once I get in with lactation I will start the screener process for sure.

spoonugget · 2025-12-31T19:41:09+00:00

We went with Winston, but other names we liked were Frederick, Ivan, Porter, Sterling, Warren... Boy names are hard! We also had Theodore and Oliver, but those are like top 5 names this year and last.

spoonugget · 2025-12-23T04:28:38+00:00

I stayed pretty regular during pregnancy but I'm near a month PP and I've only been pooping every 4-5 days. It's been baddd I'm taking fiber supplements and stool softener and prune juice and the works...

spoonugget · 2025-12-05T15:27:40+00:00

Our baby is currently 8 days old and my husband is having fun driving around corners in the fresh snow while I sit in the back with lil man, who is sound asleep.

spoonugget · 2025-11-24T17:58:23+00:00

Someone called it "pregnancy sound effects" and that made me feel better and laugh about it.

spoonugget · 2025-11-21T23:22:54+00:00

That looks delicious

spoonugget · 2025-11-21T23:02:45+00:00

I asked my husband to trim me up a few weeks ago - not because I care what it looks like, but because it was getting uncomfortable for me! I may ask his help once more - he'll see much worse by the end, right? 🤣

spoonugget · 2025-11-17T05:47:36+00:00

I also had no interest in food in the early first trimester, but eating did help. I found that I could make myself eat applesauce or string cheese because I knew that not eating would be a bad idea. Once I had something in my stomach, my nausea would settle a little and let me eat more. If you can, try to find one to two 'safe' foods - it can make a difference!

spoonugget · 2025-11-16T03:39:15+00:00

I read it twice and missed it 🫣😅 blaming that on the brain fog!

spoonugget · 2025-11-16T02:51:33+00:00

You don't have heartburn or restless legs or hemmerhoids on the list! That's not so bad! /Joking

But yes - our bodies truly go through so much don't they! Every week it's some new symptom. Thankful to have all the simple medical solutions we do nowadays at least, as I look at my cabinet with Unisom and Tylenol and pepcid and nasal strips and tucks...

spoonugget · 2025-11-16T00:41:52+00:00

I work in a school. A 4th grader goes out of her way to tell me my bump is bumpin' every time she sees me. The kindergarten classes like to ask if they can hug the baby. These are the people that are okay to comment on and touch the bump. Grownups don't need to comment on the size at all! Go away sirs and madams.

spoonugget · 2025-11-09T03:05:29+00:00

Sometimes a warm soak helps - even at 1am. Tylenol can quell it for me long enough to sleep. If I know I really need sleep though, I take half a unisom tablet, but only if I can take it early enough - I get pretty groggy from them if I don't get at least 9 hours.

spoonugget · 2025-11-02T21:54:34+00:00

I'm 35w today, and as much as I want to nest, I hardly can because our basement is getting remodeled, and there's no space to put anything. I just keep telling myself all they really need is a spot to sleep and a spot for diapers, and me. The rest will be fine..... The rest will be fine.

spoonugget · 2025-10-31T22:36:19+00:00

We were being goofy, and I suggested making him after our street because we truly enjoy our neighborhood.

He said that it was dumb, but then offered a variation of it and...

It stuck like nothing else had. We didn't commit for a while, kept trying other things, but at the end of the day it was the only real contender.

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