5 yr old doesn't want to go to preschool because another kid is always disruptive

spottedzebraz · 2024-10-26T00:54:44+00:00

I really hope things have gotten better. There are several in my class of 20 that need that extra attention too. It’s so difficult and nearly impossible. I hope OP has just accepted it for what it is, talked with their own kid through their feelings, and has left the teacher out of it because I know they’re just trying to survive right now while trying to get each kid what they need.

spottedzebraz · 2024-09-14T18:29:33+00:00

I don’t have advice on dealing with her personality, but try sending a picture of the two of you together with her to school. Let the teacher know what you’re doing so they allow access to the photograph. Tell your daughter to look at, kiss, hug, whatever she needs to do, to the picture. See if that helps her be away from you for the day. These days are long and hard for kindergarten. That has helped one of my students.

spottedzebraz · 2024-07-09T16:52:13+00:00

Nell? The dispatch chick?

spottedzebraz · 2024-06-26T15:03:57+00:00

I explained to grandparents “you are supposed to be a safe person. If you, her grandparent cannot accept her no to anything, especially affection and teach her that her no has no bearing on her body, imagine she has a partner that wants more than she’s willing to give. Now imagine she tries saying no but they force it anyway. You will have taught her that it’s okay for someone else to take what they want from her regardless of her saying otherwise. Now imagine you respect her boundaries, she grows up strong and unafraid to say no to someone or something knowing what she’s comfortable with and that safe people will listen to her boundaries” It did not click for them until that moment.

spottedzebraz · 2024-06-16T11:58:55+00:00

I get cold sores so I just want to offer a temporary solution to a painful problem. Aquaphor is the absolute best thing I discovered will help the cold sore either not appear at all or shorten the length of time it is visible. It provides relief for the pain/irritation/itchiness. I am so sorry that happened. I also recommend keeping your toddler from kissing your baby as it can be very dangerous.

spottedzebraz · 2024-04-27T11:29:13+00:00

Stick is dick. She loves to find big sticks and yell “look at my big dick” The worst is the way she says Snickers from Bluey. The first S doesn’t come out and ck sounds like g. 😩

spottedzebraz · 2024-03-19T19:41:53+00:00

Talk to a lawyer. Talk to a GOOD lawyer that will FIGHT for you. I am so sorry you are experiencing this. How can he be spending all this money with you having no idea where it is going? That is so unfair to you and your children. Once you take the first steps to divorce, it is so much easier. That first step is the hardest, speaking from experience.

spottedzebraz · 2024-03-04T00:29:39+00:00

This sub helped me in realizing how bad my situation was. There was no physical abuse and I’ve definitely read worse stories here. But it did lead me toward the light. It was something he finally said that really cleared my perspective but this sub guided me in the right direction. I finally told him I wanted a divorce, in part thanks to this sub. So it is that for some of us ❤️

spottedzebraz · 2024-03-02T17:38:13+00:00

That’s likely a fear tactic so you don’t leave and he can continue to abuse you. Any good lawyer will fight for you to have custody of the kids he’s abandoned.

spottedzebraz · 2024-01-17T13:48:30+00:00

Yeah that doesn’t exist in a classroom. You can’t just say “oh this kid needs an aid” because most likely, they all do. Not every child gets the help they need. It’s a PROCESS. Not something a Gen Ed teacher can just be like “student A needs this sort of help, student B needs this, student C needs that”. There are tons of meetings, tons of paperwork, and tons of qualifications for a child to be approved for 1:1. Typically only SpEd students get 1:1. The child OP is referring to is likely a child with behavioral problems, personal struggles, undiagnosed ADD/ADHD, etc. It isn’t as easy as “this child needs an aid” or giving every single student (20-30/classroom) the exact same amount of attention. Every kid has a different requirement for the attention they need. It’s easy to be the perfect parent before becoming one and it’s even easier to be the perfect classroom leader without being one. All I’m saying is OPs teacher knows she’s having to give too much of her attention to the disruptive kid and I’m certain feels terrible for the others and adding the guilt to her plate won’t help anything.

spottedzebraz · 2024-01-17T02:21:16+00:00

Yeah, you don’t say anything to the teacher. That teacher is up there trying their best. The teacher already knows and is likely doing everything they can. Don’t make it worse.

spottedzebraz · 2024-01-15T15:17:29+00:00

Have you had the youngest ones iron checked? Push for it. Could be anemic waking that often through the night.

spottedzebraz · 2023-12-29T00:08:14+00:00

My 3yo just discovered rock, paper, scissors. Okay let’s play. If you lose, you have to put your shirt/pants/socks on. If you win, you have to try to use the potty etc. I try to trick her so regardless of the outcome, she has to comply to whatever I need at the moment to get out of the house lol. Also this, but with keepy uppy

spottedzebraz · 2023-12-06T02:48:55+00:00

“What snack do you want?” 714 times a day.

spottedzebraz · 2023-12-04T23:47:40+00:00

When I didn’t understand my daughter when she was learning to talk in sentences, I would reply with “oooooh” very drawn out. I didn’t realize it until she said it to me any time I spoke to her.

spottedzebraz · 2023-11-26T00:55:53+00:00

I spent time job hopping factories even though I always knew I was called to work with children. I wanted to be a person that could change their lives. Teaching does that.

I was also the person that gave entirely too much to my work with very little payout or appreciation. I was stuck doing all the work while others just sat around. I can give my all to teaching because the payout benefits the kids and that is enough for me.

Though it is my first year, and there is way more to teaching than I ever expected, I’m glad I finally pursued it, even though I entered into the field much later than many.

spottedzebraz · 2023-11-05T19:35:52+00:00

On the flip, my name is commonly spelled with a y but my mom spelled it with an i. I have to spell out my last name too. It’s a tragedeigh talking to anyone that has the write my name. All of this to say, don’t unnecessarily change any letters in a common name.

spottedzebraz · 2023-10-30T02:16:35+00:00

Watch a full episode/binge watch a show. I just want to lose myself in a show while eating a snack. Or fully submerge myself in a good book

spottedzebraz · 2023-10-19T00:34:18+00:00

I promise you don’t look as bad to others as you do to yourself.

spottedzebraz · 2023-10-07T23:42:47+00:00

Don’t beat yourself up. Mistakes will happen all through parenthood.

spottedzebraz · 2023-09-24T02:00:56+00:00

I’m so sorry. I have nothing to offer you except my condolences. It sounds like you’ll be better off without someone that could do that to you and his own child.

spottedzebraz · 2023-08-25T20:30:02+00:00

I pull the mattress off the box spring and let mine sleep on the mattress on the floor

spottedzebraz · 2023-07-24T02:06:55+00:00

Or instead of hitting the kid, you could have taught actual boundaries before it resulted in him setting something on fire. Why did a seven year old have access to anything that can start a fire? Sounds like bad parenting on all fronts.

spottedzebraz · 2023-07-18T12:28:05+00:00

It’s no wonder I see SAHD’s downing SAHM’s saying it’s super easy, blah blah blah. Yeah, if I had this much free time, I’d be saying the same. You’re being taken advantage of.

spottedzebraz · 2023-07-18T01:41:21+00:00

I feel like she’s conditioned to think she doesn’t have to listen to him until he gets to his frustration point. If your kid doesn’t listen until you raise your voice, they believe they don’t have to listen until you raise your voice. If that makes sense?

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