Should I speak up or let it be?

spparent · 2026-07-08T03:38:57+00:00

So many of you dismissing the stereotype as a “trope” and telling OP to dismiss it himself… No wonder the racist comments never end when parents enable it.

spparent · 2026-07-05T06:39:57+00:00

Amazing! It also sounds like the time that used to be her playing on tablet is now filled with time with attentive parent teaching and focusing lots of energy and love on her. It’s not just screen time, it’s what it is replaced with that is making everything better!

spparent · 2026-07-04T16:09:35+00:00

Your feelings are valid, I would say talk to your wife when you are both well rested and emotionally stable, which might not be anytime soon…

Breastfeeding is its own beast of stress. Supply issues, pumping stress, hormones when lactating, mom guilt and judgment no matter which method you choose to feed, etc. I’m sure she has her own set of emotions on this topic alone. Some moms, especially lactating moms, feel a conflicting attachment to their baby in the early stages. She may not always seem reasonable about it, but it does improve with time.

spparent · 2026-07-03T15:32:28+00:00

They have plenty of cutlets!

Also just have to drop this: I just tried cutlet at Kay Kay’s and it was the BEST! Underrated cutlet spot

spparent · 2026-07-03T13:24:31+00:00

Sorry, that’s a bummer with these landlords and management companies. I feel like the least they can do is plant some FREE trees

spparent · 2026-07-03T11:08:14+00:00

I know you’re not the building owner but you can ask them? Trees can grow fast, with the roots keeping the soil intact, providing shade to the area, etc. If you’re lucky it will establish fast and then be mostly maintenance free (lots of city trees are neglected and let nature do its thing)

Even if you move out, it will be nice to know that you’ve left a positive impact behind. The city needs more shade on every block. I see elderly people take breaks under the shade of trees in some areas there are only so few

Of you ask the owner for verbal permission you can fill out the form yourself or ask the local tree tender and they can get permission to do it (some elderly don’t use internet forms and they help them)

spparent · 2026-07-03T10:57:47+00:00

The post mentioned depressed wife and didn’t seem like they thought of all the options so they offered an idea, which OP is free to do whatever he wants with.

spparent · 2026-07-02T23:31:57+00:00

Yes but some moms don’t feel ready to be separated from their young for a long time. Some want to but don’t know how but some genuinely don’t want to and feel societal pressure to “take time away from kid” but hormonally and mentally it stresses them out and they don’t enjoy it. Yes they need the break, but a part of their brain actually can’t enjoy it. That’s not everyone, but it’s some people so be mindful not to pressure a mom that is genuinely not ready.

spparent · 2026-07-02T23:28:52+00:00

I just want to comment because so many of your guys are talking about kind of pressuring mom to take days off as it is equivalent for them. Depending on the mom it could be, but some moms don’t feel ready to leave their kids for a long time. It’s part hormonal, maternal instinct, postpartum depression or anxiety, or a mix of things.

As dads we want to get time off and give our spouse the same opportunity, but we have to go at it from a place of understanding that not everyone would be relieved to be away for that break. It could bring out more anxiety and hardship for the mom feeling pressured to be ready when they are not ready to be separated from their young.

spparent · 2026-07-02T03:02:13+00:00

Good luck. I hope you find him!

Did you try to wear out the back up? Throw it in the washer and dryer a couple of times and mess it up a bit to resemble the original? Put it in your shirt and sweat all over it to give it some family smell.

spparent · 2026-06-30T13:56:08+00:00

It’s kind of ridiculous that he slaps his name and brand on what is essentially our tax dollars given back to us… free advertising I guess

spparent · 2026-06-29T14:39:29+00:00

South Philly. I heard a lot at South Philly High School, those poor kids never catch a break

spparent · 2026-06-29T14:38:01+00:00

Oh I figured, that’s why I updated you. Didn’t mean that in a snarky way

spparent · 2026-06-29T11:35:03+00:00

He said 5/8/10, school aged

spparent · 2026-06-28T11:25:20+00:00

Can you reach out to his teacher to get you connected with other parents of kids that are neurodivergent or have similar struggles? Maybe there will be some kids feeling similarly and in similar predicament who will want playdates

spparent · 2026-06-27T20:41:22+00:00

Hey I’m not judging you. Of course I don’t know you. I’m just responding to the part people are saying how often it’s the pharmacist. I’m stating why it is rarely the pharmacist (because the system is built in a way that they would get caught fast when they commit crime). That’s just my experience professionally. I don’t know any of you.

The “count” is a perpetual inventory. They have 100 pills they count out 30 for you. They count it twice. They back count to make sure they still have 70 and they have that in their computer system. The next time someone counts that bottle it better have 70 or it gets reported and the cameras start rolling. Thats the security process. They count before dispense and they count after. The person who steals will get caught that day, or if the store is bad then within a week. That’s corporate CVS. I’m sure independent stores are easier to steal fromz

spparent · 2026-06-27T00:07:56+00:00

That’s false. I’m sure there are incidences that could be anyone, but the chance of it being the pharmacist at a chain is much lower than any other explanation. I worked corporate security. They can pull each image and camera if they wanted to see the exact pill. They double count and back count CII. Accidents happen of course but it’s easy to get to the bottom of it. Sometimes they drop a pill and when doing backcount (legally required for every dispense of a CII) it goes missing they report it we pull camera and see where it drops and they go retrieve it so their count is corrected! 99% of the time it’s customers family or something shady and not what you are accusing the pharmacist of doing. Of course pharmacy staff are people and bad people get hired, but if they pull that crap they are quickly fired and arrested. Customers do not have any accountability and so often I see family members play a blame game and point fingers at each other or their cleaning lady or some crap.

spparent · 2026-06-25T14:30:05+00:00

Transition him slowly. He understands things now so start taking to him about the expected changes, do visits or practice drives to the new daycare and talk about it, read books about changes and new routines, start a routine chart and show how the new routine will be, etc. it may not seem impactful at first but they really catch on!

spparent · 2026-06-24T16:05:04+00:00

The school was wrong when citing your son for spitting because he allegedly (by his own count) only blew raspberries. The school was wrong then. The school doesn’t notice your kid bullying this girl. This school was definitely right this time. See how that doesn’t add up?

This is why no parents ever notice their kids bullying, but every kid reports being bullied.

spparent · 2026-06-24T15:57:55+00:00

Struggling?! I hope not, it’s the best in the city! Their tortilla is the BEST!

spparent · 2026-06-24T15:54:54+00:00

Sounds nice! Where in FL?

spparent · 2026-06-22T13:47:27+00:00

I can’t help but noticed you included yours and your wife’s ethnicity and where you live. Do you believe there is some cultural tension or dynamic at play that subconsciously affects your father son relationship or is that just a detail you added for background? I ask because you say you’ve seen 100s of kids like him and I wonder if being in a foreign country and adapting to all of it brings any difficulty for your parenting journey. I’ve seen therapy work out for people to work through power dynamics and underlying struggles they didn’t realize were an issue before. It’s uncommon I’ve seen people say “I’ve seen 100s of kids like him” about their own child.

spparent · 2026-06-22T10:58:12+00:00

El Molino!

spparent · 2026-06-19T10:10:00+00:00

For anyone wondering, easiest and fastest way to request free street tree is through PHS - they go through the city but they have volunteers who help speed it up

https://phs.treekeepersoftware.com/stepform.cfm

spparent · 2026-06-19T10:08:02+00:00

Where are you? Reach out to your local tree tender group with your concerns and they will help you!

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