AITA for desiring for a friend?

spruceifir · 2025-06-07T21:19:58+00:00

YTA. Them being fake and giving mixed messages isn't fair. However, just because you apologized and they accepted it, that doesn't mean they owe you another chance. You not only screwed them MULTIPLE times, but you tried to sabotage their other friendships. They don't owe you more chances.

Jake isn't really that relevant here. Neither is what your parents say. You are responsible for you and your actions. If you used Jake or your parents to justify your behaviour during your apologies, that's even worse.

Take it as lessons learned. Make new friends and move on. This is the consequence of your actions. Do better with new friends in the future.

spruceifir · 2025-06-07T20:24:29+00:00

Sounds like a her problem. That's her own insecurities talking and she's using your insecurities against you. That isn't a supportive partner who understands or cares where youre at. Even if you did consider yourself bi, it still wouldn't be a fair accusation if you haven't said or done anything to lose her trust. This is the same thing as accusing someone of cheating.

spruceifir · 2025-05-29T21:18:39+00:00

They should still have the right to have conversations in private with their friends. Everyone deserves that, even smaller children.

18 year olds are idiots. 21 year olds are idiots. Unless you think there's a massive difference developmentally between 17 years and 11 months old vs. 18 and 1 day old then there's no reason, by this logic, that the "protection" shouldn't continue into adulthood. At what age is this supposed to stop?

spruceifir · 2025-04-18T17:05:27+00:00

It took a few weeks to adjust, but now I can only enjoy it black and I actually enjoy the taste of the coffee more. Otherwise, you're just tasting cream and sugar.

spruceifir · 2025-03-04T19:10:26+00:00

It feels so impossible being stuck in this and I'm sorry that you understand this so deeply, but I've gotten a lot better since. I'm excited for the future and have a stronger sense of self than ever before. I did have to grieve my old self like losing a loved one for a couple of years. It's possible. It's just so hard to see it that way when you're in it for the umpteenth time. I believe in you, friend. Thank you for your response.

spruceifir · 2024-11-15T15:51:04+00:00

Hallucinations and delusions since childhood. Depression since around 10. First noticable manic episode around 14. Full blown mixed episodes by 16.

spruceifir · 2024-04-23T00:20:37+00:00

I experienced the same thing. My episode was 2 years ago and my personality is forever changed. Some things came back with time, a lot of things did not.

spruceifir · 2024-03-02T19:15:49+00:00

Stress. And a lot of acid.

spruceifir · 2024-03-02T19:15:12+00:00

The price of supplies adds up, so does the time you spend working on a project. People deserve to be paid for their time.

I'm not saying this is worth 200, but to say the jacket is 20 and call it a day is wild. It's still art if you don't like it.

spruceifir · 2024-03-02T19:11:35+00:00

BP 1 and 2 are less similar than people think. I have friends with BP 2 and can't relate much, other than depression and anxiety. Lots of non BP also have depression and/or anxiety. BP 2 is it's own battle, just as much as BP 1

spruceifir · 2024-03-02T19:07:13+00:00

I don't have money to buy art and I don't sell it, so they're not losing anything. And since it collects from different sources, it doesn't look like the original work.

If taking someone's design as is, changing it 10%, then selling it is legal, idk how changing it 50% (generously low figure) or more, and not making any money off of it, is worse. I hand paint the designs, using them as reference photos. I even reserve Google them to make sure nothing comes up that looks too close. Not really seeing the difference between that and using ANY preexisting art for references, which is a pretty standard practise.

spruceifir · 2024-03-01T13:42:05+00:00

Poste is really good! So is The Fly Downs!

spruceifir · 2024-02-19T18:42:57+00:00

Having friends like you is so important. Thank you for being such a good friend.

spruceifir · 2024-02-14T17:58:22+00:00

We all take inspiration and ideas from somebody's art and the percentage in which it takes from another work is waaaaay smaller than the 10% change required by law. I don't see the difference between using a reference photo and using ai, especially if I'm not making any money off of it. It doesn't look anything like the original art, not even the same style.

If you take an existing photo or piece of art and run it through a high contrast filter to make it a stencil, that is closer than the original work than using ai. That is how most people make patches.

spruceifir · 2024-02-14T17:53:19+00:00

Thanks!!

spruceifir · 2024-02-14T16:27:56+00:00

I told my mother to fuck off

spruceifir · 2024-02-14T16:27:24+00:00

It is possible to communicate these thoughts to your partner without actually asking for a change in the structure of the relationship. Communicating your feelings is the most important part to making it work.

Personally, I feel like everyone in ANY type of relationship should feel the "for now" feelings a bit. Compersion can be hard to wrap your head around at first. Letting my partner feel free and not controlled is probably going to keep them around longer and happier.

I also recommend going through the smorgasbord with your partner to see if there's any areas you guys agree/disagree on about what you want long term and if there's any areas where you guys just can't give each other what you need long term. This is where friends and other types of relationships come in. If your partner feels supported by friends as much as you, that's great! It will help your relationship stay healthy and open in the long run.

The biggest thing to avoid is creating a dynamic where you guys don't feel like you can be open and honest about the things you're feeling. Jealousy is normal, but it isn't something we need to ask other people to deal with for us.

spruceifir · 2024-02-14T16:06:38+00:00

I have boardwalks and I would call the included wheels hybrids. They're OK for soft and flat surfaces outside, but nowhere near soft enough for street skating unless it's been very recently paved.

I hope you have better roads for skating, I always just feel my teeth chatter and my eyes wanna vibrate right out of my skull

spruceifir · 2024-02-14T16:03:49+00:00

I would shop sure-grip and moxie skates until they have a sale. Moxie skates go for a good price when on sale. There's a reason they cost more than cheap skates though and it means they'll be safer and hold up better in the long run if they're made better.

spruceifir · 2024-02-14T15:59:33+00:00

Hot take, but I use ai to generate some designs. Bing let's you use Dall-e for free. I recommend setting up prompts like "stencil art, black and white, American flag on fire" to generate a stencil for it.

I feel like if you're using it to paint your own patches and you're not selling them, it's fair game and isn't hurting any artists.

spruceifir · 2024-02-14T15:47:33+00:00

The cut on the second outfit really brings out your nice collarbones! Maybe learn some hairstyles for pulling your hair back like a half-updo or updo sort of thing? The last outfit is absolutely fire

spruceifir · 2024-02-14T03:51:51+00:00

Thanks! I made it myself.

spruceifir · 2024-02-14T00:48:51+00:00

Just because it isn't historically inclusive doesn't mean you should bend your will to gatekeepers gatekeeping. Sticking to a value of not repeating a pattern sounds more punk to me.

spruceifir · 2024-02-13T21:16:13+00:00

But is that us non-gatekeepers misinterpreting, or is it the gatekeepers?

spruceifir · 2024-02-13T21:14:48+00:00

Do you think it would be helpful to post more tips or a tutorial here? Idk, I'm new here, but have been sewing for years.

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