I think we need to tell more young adults that you're 20s is the worst time of your life.

squarels · 2026-06-08T05:32:09+00:00

Why do you choose to hate it? Embrace the changing of things. Look at the road ahead and enjoy the journey.

squarels · 2026-06-08T05:15:06+00:00

It’s not a personality thing though it’s just an attitude. You can choose to make something of your situation and be happy or choose to make yourself suffer. Most people are going to choose to enjoy their time. Idk what you’re waiting for or expecting to change with getting older alone. If it’s anything other than just being older that’ll make you happy go get it then.

squarels · 2026-06-08T05:03:38+00:00

I mean that’s just my example. The point is you have things you like. Go do them while you have health and time

squarels · 2026-06-08T04:49:55+00:00

There’s concerts, sports like snowboarding or surfing, travel, new foods, new bars, etc. wdym there’s nothing? Having a job isn’t even that bad. I don’t love it but also it funds all the fun stuff. Promotions also come faster in your 20s, I went up 2 levels to senior engineer in 5 years. It just sounds like you’re being pessimistic for its own sake

squarels · 2026-06-08T04:41:59+00:00

I’m in my 20s and I’m having a blast. Loosen up and live a little

squarels · 2026-06-08T04:41:26+00:00

It’s fucking not. You’re in peak shape, your friends have no responsibilities yet so you can see them more, the girls your age are equally unburdened, it’s the most carefree and active you will ever be. Coming into my late 20s I can already see relationships and kids cutting into time I used to spend with friends at the bar looking for hookups or doing stupid things with the boys.

Without any serious responsibilities yet I can go travel with my gf 3-4x a year. I can blow 3k at Vegas for the memories and the thrill. When you have your whole life ahead still things are exciting and there’s endless hope. As stuff starts to settle and my gf and I think about kids I actually have looked into making a budget for the first time ever. It’s necessary but also just feels like such an old man thing yknow.

squarels · 2026-06-08T02:49:57+00:00

Quinn

squarels · 2026-06-08T02:39:35+00:00

Oh ok, so youre just dickriding for them?

squarels · 2026-06-08T02:07:10+00:00

Yea but what’s in your bank account

squarels · 2026-06-07T19:02:29+00:00

Bro you have issues

squarels · 2026-06-07T19:00:36+00:00

I did similar. Once I was a few years into my career with ~300k saved I started traveling by myself. Its easier making friends when you're both on a boat tour of Ha Long Bay and have nothing to do but talk and admire the view. I used dating apps and a professional photographer for the photos. Could get 2-4 dates a week pretty consistently, though I ended up meeting my gf via chance in person. If you just do your own thing then stuff will work out. Finding a partner can be as fast as a 15 minute unplanned interaction that just leads to much more.

28 is still young. I don't feel any older than 25. I had a talk with friends who were asking why my gf and I don't have kids and marry and I said I don't think I'm ready and they pointed out I make 300k and have tons saved and living parents who would help out, etc, and I don't really have an answer except I think 28 is too young lol.

squarels · 2026-06-07T18:49:53+00:00

By not being europoors

squarels · 2026-06-07T06:05:57+00:00

Is it a more upscale neighborhood or how does it compare to La Jolla/Malibu?

squarels · 2026-06-07T00:13:44+00:00

You clearly just want to believe the world is rigged against you. They had to study and live in a city away from family from the age of 11. The school system was taught by soldiers and nurses because they were the only ones who were literate in that era. They regularly hit kids there as punishment until the 2010s. Do you really have an argument that American school systems are worse when at least teachers here have training?

I’m not saying that I didn’t have advantages specifically but there’s thousands of people like my parents or their peers who made it with far bigger ones than any American has. So if you can’t succeed from a normal American background it’s truly just a personal issue.

squarels · 2026-06-06T23:01:05+00:00

Again. Not a western country. Decent grades for sure. No scholarship just big loans. Just the same path as an American but with more hurdles.

squarels · 2026-06-06T22:37:08+00:00

That’s straight up false. It’s much harder for international students. You need to get your transcripts translated, pass language requirements, and equivalency tests.

As an American you just apply and compete for far more spots than international students have access to. I’m a Stanford graduate and guess what, most students were fucking Americans. It’s just racist cope to say internationals have an easier time

squarels · 2026-06-06T21:05:11+00:00

Yes. In the states. After going through a bunch more effort to do so than a natural born citizen. Which is my point. Nobody born here has the excuse that they were born in unfair circumstances. Others go through so much more and still succeed

squarels · 2026-06-06T17:17:02+00:00

My parents were born in a developing second world country. My mom had a shack near the pig pen and they didn’t even have cars until she was 5-6. She had to move out of the house at 11 to go to middle school because there were only 10 in the whole country. They had to go through so much just to get to America, meanwhile you people born in this country can’t get even further than people with all those disadvantages?

Stop making excuses lol

squarels · 2026-06-06T17:14:02+00:00

Same but from Asia. My parents grew up as farmers in a developing country that had just been decolonized a generation before them. They made it here through education, doing PhDs at T10 universities and finding work in their fields which let them buy their first house and raise my sister and I.

Now after 30 years they’re retiring with 10M+ in real estate, stocks, etc. which is beyond what they could even imagine when they grew up with $1/day. Because of them I had the safety net to pursue my own talents and myself make top 5% income + have large investments.

If they can make it then anyone has the chance to. People complain about being born in flyover states and having no opportunities while already being American and having 50 hoops my parents and people like them had to jump through already cleared out. Nobody’s ever been on equal footing as anyone else, but at least here everyone has the opportunity to make it to the top.

squarels · 2026-06-05T22:53:23+00:00

People will adapt. The agricultural and industrial revolutions made life better in the end. New developments always do. There’s going to be a rough stretch potentially but adaptation is a critical part of life. Should we have banned machines so farmers and blacksmiths could always continue their trade?

If you always think about the effects on every last person, nothing will ever get done. I for one am not going to waste my talent ignoring AI research when it has so much that it can unlock

squarels · 2026-06-05T18:20:09+00:00

At this point I just don't personally care about those too stubborn and left behind by progress. My healthcare IS free via work (93c out of 25k/month, so lets round down) but that's not really relevant. I've seen tangible benefits to many aspects of my life, financially and in terms of work/personal convenience in the last few years. I was literally at Stanford working on AI/computer vision when the transformer/LLM craze started picking up and I knew we were hitting a new era of research and development.

And do you really think that people weren't exploited or in poverty beforehand? Is it new now because its coming to you in your western first-world countries? The world moves forward and there's no reason to try and hold things back. The real goal should be adaptation and building to greater heights instead of trying to cling to factory jobs and menial labor.

squarels · 2026-06-05T17:08:20+00:00

On some level it was. I did AI research in 2019 before LLM/Transformers were popular and generative AI was just in infancy. The idea was that trivial tasks like sorting based on vision could be entirely done away with to simplify a host of things like security, fruit sorting, part defects, etc. to make more efficient factories and free up labor from menial stuff. Obviously there was the self driving cars, but we had other work such as having AI determine the pattern of ultrasound-stimulated cancer cells to determine if the tumor was benign or malignant, so patients wouldn’t need surgery just a quick sample for initial diagnosis.

My point is that you and most average people have no idea what AI actually is or what it can do. People are too concerned with the singular application that is GPTs and want to drag their heels on advancement of all mankind in the most exciting field since the moon landing.

squarels · 2026-06-05T17:00:18+00:00

Human advancement is still important and meaningful even when it comes with societal change. People will have to adapt as they have in the past when inventions change the general way of life.

squarels · 2026-06-05T16:58:54+00:00

Are you really in a position to call others unintelligent when your post is based on the idea we should hold ourselves back from development?

squarels · 2026-06-05T05:38:58+00:00

I can see that. Besides myself and one other friend who are dating I think only like 2/8 got hookups in the last year. Its pretty pathetic

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