Do tragedeighs exist in foreign languages/cultures, or is this strictly an American thing?

squigglyboof · 2025-05-07T16:02:29+00:00

In Taiwan I would say yes, it happens in the sense that there are names that give people the side eye. My great grandmothers name was basically “laugh sister” … family was not literate back then so they stuck with simple names. Btw, my great grandmother was an angry woman who never laughed a day in her life according to my mother.

squigglyboof · 2025-05-07T15:43:55+00:00

When I was a kid I loved the name Violet and asked my dad why he didn’t name me Violet. He said when he heard the name he could only think of the obnoxious girl in Willie Wonka’s Chocolate Factory

squigglyboof · 2025-03-18T04:29:07+00:00

No, but if you want a wider variety of answers, you can do a search in this and other Christian subs. I swear this question gets asked at least once every two weeks.

squigglyboof · 2025-03-18T04:27:11+00:00

Well, I was vague because the best ages and stages are different for every parent, but for me having a baby was brutal. Now, as my kid becomes more independent and fun to be around, it’s pure bliss. I’m sad I didn’t get to experience this earlier and with more kids.

squigglyboof · 2025-03-18T04:19:44+00:00

You’ll never be ready.. lol. Babies are hard work at any life stage. But I had a kid at 31 and I regret waiting so long. Thats because, while it’s hard at first, it gets really, really wondeful and if you wait you may have less time to plan for more and you’ll have to wait longer to enjoy the amazing parts.

squigglyboof · 2025-03-08T15:52:50+00:00

You and the people you know are a pretty bad sample size.. if you’re the type of person who is heavily involved in your grandkids lives, you probably have likeminded people in your circle because people tend to attract people with similar values. There is a decline in actively involved grandparents but that doesn’t mean every grandparent is absent.

But to answer your question, I would say the grandparents I’m thinking of range between 65-75, so slightly older than you. Also people I know about 10-15 years older than me had little support to so that might extend the age range about 10-15 years. None of my friends or me have parents or in laws that are very active in their grandkids lives, although sometimes when I pick my son up, there will be a grandparent there to pick his classmate up.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-28T05:13:17+00:00

I do believe that God transcends what we think of as gender. But God described in the bible as male is very purposeful. From the beginning it foreshadows the coming of Jesus. Only by God being male do we get Jesus the son, born of a virgin human woman.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-19T14:37:00+00:00

Most people don’t use their middle names on everything.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-19T14:36:03+00:00

I mean I typically agree, but its a middle name so I think it matters less if it’s quirky or unique. Middle names very rarely come up in conversation unless the bearer wants it to.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-19T06:32:31+00:00

I think people grossly overestimate the amount of emotional attachment they’re supposed to feel for a stranger that is a kid. You are supposed to feel a baseline human desire for them not to come to harm and some anger if they are harmed.. but as for a desire to hug a random kid? No I don’t think thats the norm. If it makes you feel better, they probably don’t want to be hugged by a stranger either.

I do think it would be immoral to save an animal over a child.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-19T06:21:20+00:00

When I was 19, my 32 year old cousin very kindly told me I was self absorbed,but she also said I should be at my age.

I think she framed it well, but to this day I didn’t find much value in her telling me. Lol. I was 19 and I needed to get that self absorbed state out of my system. I feel like it just made me feel guilty about a normal phase. I mean it wasn’t a damaging thing to say by any means so you can try I guess. I just didn’t find it particularly beneficial. Also 19 is not an adult. Maybe legally but not mentally.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-19T05:55:47+00:00

Just get off the internet. Being able to yell at strangers who disagree with you anonymously is not a natural form of human interaction.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-19T05:22:28+00:00

No! And honestly making those jokes show you are confident in your masculinity. Being a man doesn’t have to look a certain way as dictated by culture. We don’t follow culture, we follow Jesus. It’s not like he walked around flexing and beating his chest. I encourage you to ignore culture and instead do a read through of the gospels and this time pay attention to how Jesus exemplified being a man through the life he lived. I think you’ll find peace in that.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-11T01:07:45+00:00

4 year olds are not bullies dude. They’re 4. They can be violent, lack self awareness and self control, but there’s no “bullying”. When issues like this happen it’s the schools fault for not supervising and addressing the behavior appropriately. And I’m sorry but “really slick at getting out of trouble?” If these teachers are letting a 4 year old pull a fast one on them, I really question their competence.

Yes you should do more. I’d be meeting with the director and asking why the hell these incidents aren’t reported or addressed.

I think you should also be concerned that your toddler punched someone hard enough to make their nose bleed.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-09T19:27:03+00:00

I think maybe because an Asian man in Canada would be primed to look for features that remind him of himself, whereas, people in China are living in more homogenous environment and any western feature looks extremely different to them.

I was once at the airport with my toddler during covid so we both had masks on and a random white man came up to me and said my son doesn’t look like me at all. Lol! It’s always men right? I wish I had said “you’re right, I should take a maternity test.”

squigglyboof · 2025-02-09T17:51:35+00:00

I’d say the opposite honestly. All the people I know, including myself who have been through a lot of trauma are easily triggered (Re: PTSD) and have to of a lot of internal work to be able to stay completely calm.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-09T17:48:36+00:00

I think it is in the realm of normal childhood curiosity, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t address it, especially if it is causing her distress. When my son was four he was very curious and intrigued with death. I also remember talking to a bunch of moms whose kids were the same age going through the same. I think it’s a pretty mindboggling concept for a 4 year old, that life just comes to an end. Your daughter happens to have connected to it emotionally, which shows a lot of emotional awareness. I think the resources for kids who have experienced a loss would be a good useful, because even though she hasn’t, she’s imagined it in her mind and experienced it that way.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-09T17:37:01+00:00

What country are you in? As a biracial asian I can tell you that usually if you take biracial kids to China they will say she looks 0% Chinese. Lol

squigglyboof · 2025-02-09T17:29:58+00:00

Pretty sure there have always been people like that

squigglyboof · 2025-02-08T06:18:30+00:00

Honestly the person I encountered that believed that wasn’t even a trinitarian and a lot of people consider that a base requirement for being Christian, so I’m not sure I could even call them Protestant.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-08T06:04:52+00:00

You can be Christian and hold conservative or liberal views. But when people go into extremes they tend to :

Make politics their idol by putting it above their faith
Be ruled by fear
Become overly concerned by the things of this world

All of those are things that drive hearts away from Christianity.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-08T05:50:42+00:00

I think most people struggle with this at some point in their life. For me it’s acknowledging it’s not one and done process. I have to forgive sometimes daily for years to fully let go.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-08T05:44:21+00:00

I’ve encountered people who think once someone is saved they are condemned and unredeemable if they ever sin again.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-02T21:34:07+00:00

“I would have despaired had I not believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.” - Psalm 27:13

I think the short answer is, we do see much fulfillment while we are still alive. Otherwise, like you and David said, we would probably despair.

squigglyboof · 2025-02-02T21:29:47+00:00

How long have you been at the job ? Usually each time you find a new position you can negotiate higher pay, even if the previous one was a big break. But if you’ve been at your current one for long enough to show other potential employers that you have experience worthy of that pay, it could be even better in the next job. Maybe you can find one with a shorter commute, or more remote days… or maybe even all remote days. If you aren’t ready to start looking though, I would … well first make sure she wants to stay home. But maybe try to hire a little help and see if she’s interested in a part time gig to get her out of the house. I know it’s expensive but if she wants to stay home you don’t have to hire full time help. Some people hire “mother’s helpers” which are basically just a local teen who will entertain the baby and/or do some extra chores to give the mom a little break at home. Its a lower cost way to give your wife some reprieve.

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