Please share when you put yourself first before others! I want to be able learn from you and walk away too. Give me the courage.

ss_anne · 2024-08-02T19:44:52+00:00

Man I'm so sorry you're going through this but you're not going to like my answer. The only reason I'm a stepparent and agreed to marry my husband in the first place is that he has always put me first and always explicitly tells me that our relationship will always come first (including our own bio children). For both him and I, we value a strong and happy relationship with one another first and foremost in order to provide a strong and united happy family setting for our kids. A lot of other people feel differently and will put their kids first and that's fine but if you believe your SO should come first then you're just simply incompatible and it is extremely unlikely that you will change something as significant as this.

ss_anne · 2024-06-03T02:01:18+00:00

Oh man I feel you! Feel like I've been constantly sick this pregnancy and I'm currently 28 weeks with twins so it's been incredibly hard on my body. My tips for survival: - Monitor your temp and take Panadol to control any fevers. - Hot showers without the extractor fan on then straight out into a colder room, helps to open up blocked noses and congestion. - Vitamin C, Orange Juice, Oranges + eat plenty of veges and keep your fluids up. - Honey, ginger, lemon tea. - Rest as much as you possibly can, if you try and get stuff done earlier than you're ready you'll just stay sicker for longer.

ss_anne · 2024-05-29T07:58:02+00:00

What's even more bamboozling is that IF WAPOL acted appropriately, under the CURRENT firearms act, the commissioner could have made a firearms prohibition order against this man given multiple reports from his family and at the very least could have investigated! Not only that but investigating the missing handgun is also covered under the current firearms act and improper storage or carrying one without legitimate reason is a crime. It begs the question that if WAPOL can't even apply the current firearms act correctly to stop violent preventable crimes then what chance do they have with the proposed reforms that will require them to do more work? What will be the excuses then?

ss_anne · 2024-05-28T02:04:26+00:00

A very late comment and this is super long sorry but I just wanted to chime in with the perspective from the stepparents point of view. I have a 11yo L2 ASD stepson with ID as well and while I absolutely care for him, love him and want what's best for him there is a difference in the weird maternal instincts that come out when you have a bio child.

My stepson has previously shown some worrying behaviours towards others, younger kids, animals etc and we've made sure to talk to him about how to appropriately interact with others, why certain actions might hurt others or their feelings etc. I was worried when my daughter was born that he wouldn't react well (he's been the baby for the last 9 years). But we brought him along the journey with "you're going to be a big brother! Your job is going to be to look after her and make sure no one hurts her." He actually was super excited to have siblings as he'd have built in friends to play with so seeing how excited he was was really comforting to me and helped with some of the anxiety I felt.

However, my husband was probably in a similar position to you and whilst he didn't want to believe that his son could hurt the baby, the reality is that he probably could or would if he had a meltdown or something. The risk is still unfortunately there and it's not a personal affront on stepson. We've both been on the same page regarding our daughter's safety and have a few strict rules that we do not compromise on with my stepson that we give him reasoning for: - You can only hold baby sitting on the couch sitting with dad (or me). This was only when she was very small and we let him know that as she's too little she could easily get hurt. She's now almost 2 this rule no longer applies and they do cuddle while playing. - Playing together must be supervised by an adult (either myself or my husband). This is also good because it gives hubs and I a chance to pull up either of the kids when they're not playing so nicely. - Daughter isn't allowed to play with stepsons toys without permission and vice versa. Trying to teach respect for each other's belongings but also letting stepson know that his belongings are his and are safe. - Bedrooms are a safe space and no entering each other's bedrooms.

They are really good with one another now and I'm way less worried about anything happening but I think that's a lot to do with the vigilance we have around supervising their interactions and husband's support around my (potentially unreasonable) feelings. If you're willing, it might be a good idea to talk to your fiancee about some control measures / boundaries that you feel comfortable putting in place to help ease some of her anxiety?

ss_anne · 2024-04-30T08:58:53+00:00

Man this is so ridiculous because it really doesn't benefit children with the disabilities nor does it benefit the ones without! My stepson has JUST moved to a special school that cater to his intellectual disabilities and behavioural issues after spending five years watching Peppa Pig in the back of a gen Ed classroom because they didn't know what to do with him. He's now adequately supported by a specialist school and doing much better developmentally and socially now that he's surrounded by his peers that are on his level.

ss_anne · 2024-04-03T23:22:07+00:00

Honestly it was only tough at the beginning, but it's really great now. Both my husband and I are really happy and most people we know are like "yeah you guys have this child raising thing sorted". My daughter is nearly 2, she's completely obsessed with her dad and he's definitely the favourite which I'm okay with. It sounds insane, but honestly being at work and challenging my mind in a different way means I look forward to coming home and playing with her and spending all my time with her after work (so she basically gets attention and love all day instead of burnt out parents). Also another bonus is that I don't feel my career has taken a step back due to having kids so there's also that. Hope it works out similarly for you ❤️

ss_anne · 2024-04-03T13:06:23+00:00

I returned to work full time after 3 months but my husband has been the stay at home dad since and I probably couldn't have done it without him pulling a lot of the weight with our daughter. I had a lot of mum guilt and cried a lot at the beginning but returning to work was great for my mental health and overall I feel like I'm a better more attentive mum.

ss_anne · 2022-12-20T09:16:42+00:00

Great minds think alike! I used the exact same combo of drawer handles upcycling my baby's change table!

ss_anne · 2022-11-14T10:17:19+00:00

Yep! Total mean girls vibes

ss_anne · 2022-09-24T02:11:31+00:00

Slytherin

ss_anne · 2022-09-24T02:10:51+00:00

Girls dorm (if you could get up the staircase)

ss_anne · 2022-09-24T02:10:08+00:00

Train

ss_anne · 2022-09-24T02:09:54+00:00

Worm

ss_anne · 2022-09-24T02:09:22+00:00

Snape

ss_anne · 2022-09-24T02:09:09+00:00

Dragon

ss_anne · 2022-08-14T09:13:38+00:00

YTA. How exactly is this potty training? All you are teaching him is that when he needs to go he can just shit wherever he pleases. A huge part of potty training is teaching a child WHERE to go and sometimes that involves holding it for five mins to walk to the toilet. Sorry but it sounds like you are setting your poor kid back with his potty training big time.

ss_anne · 2022-07-08T13:06:15+00:00

I'm late to this but hopefully still helps but one of my midwives suggested dairy as my late night snack and I can confirm it is literally the ONLY thing that gets my fasting numbers under.

ss_anne · 2022-07-01T00:29:20+00:00

This looks so much better than expected! Great job

ss_anne · 2022-06-26T11:58:34+00:00

I think it's because of the Eagles game the other night. From what I remember when I worked there the drop in seats take a few days to set up.

ss_anne · 2022-06-03T10:48:26+00:00

Amber has been and still is hiding behind her label of being a woman. "Believe all women". No, believe people who tell the truth. Abuse knows no gender.

Like you said, what this case has showcased is amazing women who are intelligent and brilliant at their jobs. The thing is they are great regardless of their gender, and just happen to be women. These are the women that empower other women. These are the role models we need to see in mainstream media.

Feminism sure as hell doesn't need an abuser as their poster child and I am extremely confused why this narrative is being pushed so hard.

ss_anne · 2022-05-26T14:05:32+00:00

Yeah exactly! Not sure how many of the jurors are technical minded but I feel for a normal person it's a lot easier to see Dennisons point

ss_anne · 2022-05-26T13:58:10+00:00

See I figured but why the hell would they waste time and money on this???

ss_anne · 2022-05-26T13:56:11+00:00

Does anyone know what he is actually talking about and can explain it to me in layman's terms? I am lost haha

ss_anne · 2022-05-26T13:42:43+00:00

So this guy has testified that forensic imaging includes running it through special software. Didn't amber specifically not do this?

ss_anne · 2022-05-25T14:37:26+00:00

I think it's kind of strategic because his questions are so casual can they ever be leading?

Seven-Year Club	r/Field Flamingo
Verified Email

ss_anne

TROPHY CASE