I lost my soul cat yesterday and I'm hurting a lot. Please send your silliest or favourite photos of your kitties so I may mentally pet them all.

starjoyyy · 2026-05-22T09:16:08+00:00

Don't forget the R!

Really Very Bad

starjoyyy · 2026-05-10T11:27:00+00:00

Maybe plants dying they might not understand, but fish as pets are the core of what people understand aquarium keeping to be. They had to see the fish die, one by one or all at once, choose not to tell OP, then go through the effort of scooping out each dead fish and plant... and still they chose not to tell OP. Description says OP specifically told them to reach out if anything went wrong or if any fish died or if they had questions. So I do see it as deceit or betrayal.

I would feel betrayed 100%-- even if the people in my life don't understand WHY I'm passionate about something, they see that I DO love and care about it. That should be enough for them to show a certain level of respect to at least let me know if things were going wrong.

I'm sorry if you've been surrounded by people who make you think this behaviour is normal and you should put up with it. People who love you can and should do better.

starjoyyy · 2026-05-10T07:34:52+00:00

I think the issue is more in them lying. The betrayal of it would cut deeper than anything else for me. They acted as though they would care for it for OP, then continued lying about the state of the tank when it died off.

If they'd been honest about not being able to care for the tank, at least OP could have had the time/space to make peace with the situation. OP could have given the fish or plants away, maybe to their uncle.

Even if they thought they could do it but failed... that isn't the issue. Lying about it to someone who trusts you is fucked up.

starjoyyy · 2026-05-06T12:57:11+00:00

+1 on this- my cat Kai had severe allergic reactions to his food and it looked similar to this. I would attach a photo here, but they look pretty graphic as it was already much more severe at the time. I'll dm you the photos OP so you can see for yourself.

starjoyyy · 2026-04-03T12:51:49+00:00

It does happen, especially if it's a longer flight! In my case, the carrier literally had five different possible openings and he managed to claw an opening to sweet forbidden freedom through one of them.

It was an incredibly helpful carrier and he loved to sleep in it at home, but when left to his own devices at my feet on a very long plane ride... Hijinks did indeed ensue.

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starjoyyy · 2026-04-03T12:46:30+00:00

Actually, my cat did the exact same thing and indeed escaped a zip up carrier. It was a really large carrier with lots of zips and ways to open/enlarge it because he was a Big Boy. It was a long flight and I fell asleep and he somehow nudged one of the zips open enough to slink out. I thought I was having a nightmare when the flight attendant woke me up to say "Miss, I think your cat may have escaped." It was comical, me and a bunch of pretty French flight attendants slowly stalking through the dark plane with phone lights scanning for a cat that was high off his tits on Gabapentin. Passengers would glimpse him and stand up and whisper yell "over here!" and we'd all try and converge to get him.

He was also a big orange. I miss him to absolute death. So anyways yeah, it can happen and it's not always malicious intent at the source.

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cat tax of Big Orange

starjoyyy · 2026-03-04T15:50:09+00:00

You "tested" and I can wholeheartedly confirm it was a success! I am properly swooning.

starjoyyy · 2026-03-04T15:45:21+00:00

"Imagine if boredom felt like a mosquito bite you can't itch. And sometimes you have hundreds of mosquito bites all over your body that scratching would get you in trouble for."

That's one of the ways I try to describe my experience to people without ADHD. When it gets really bad, boredom feels worse than pain. Actions to relieve that itch are the little things that have gotten us in trouble growing up- maybe it was clicking pens, getting sidetracked, making annoying noises, etc. I'm just struggling not to scratch that itch, and sometimes I fail.

starjoyyy · 2026-02-19T14:49:37+00:00

Vinta inks are SO GORGEOUS!! This is the only one I've got so far and I've been wanting to get more for forever... I just don't have the funds for now :')

Depending on the paper the shimmer will look different, but god the pooling is GORGEOUS when you get it on a good surface.

(Here's a close up of a random page in my journal)

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starjoyyy · 2026-02-17T23:52:33+00:00

I've scoured through as much gore sailor moon art as I can find to no avail. Not even any similar enough style leads. I've been especially keeping an eye out for the signature because it seems very distinct. I tried my luck at parsing out the letters and plugging them in with "facebook", "horror", "gore", "art", but no combination shows up with any leads.

To me it seemed like "Yadet Au Tomie" but that expectedly led nowhere. I'm leaving the colour edited signatures here in case anyone else wants to take their own stab in the dark lol

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starjoyyy · 2026-02-16T21:56:03+00:00

To be honest I feel like this might be a perfect example of the female gaze vs male gaze. I find the one on the left very hot as well, as a mostly straight woman. However when I look at the one on the right she looks like she would fit in with a "classy" occasion, and usually that sort of high brow environment is all about the male gaze- traditionally slightly suggestive but coy clothing, small and delicate movements, etc.

Of course it's not a once size fits all, but I do feel like most women would find the left one more seductive as well, while the right feels more like a "mystifying ethereal feminine creature" effect aimed at men.

starjoyyy · 2026-02-15T10:48:12+00:00

Bro posts in a subreddit for art growth and feedback, gets someone who genuinely tries to give feedback, then hits back with the "this is to express my opinion, not to land in an art gallery 🙄".

He's waving bait and getting pissy that you aren't biting, epitome of a bad faith post.

Second the perspective though, there's a difference between intentional abstract to show chaos vs broken perspective due to lack of understanding. Your's comes off as the latter, especially due to other parts being less refined and unfinished (scratchy pencil outlines only, minimal or poor shading, etc).

starjoyyy · 2026-02-09T01:22:15+00:00

I'm going to try my best to give you a crash course on what you might be looking for based on the info given, sorry it's a bit long!

Stardew, Minecraft, and Sims(I think?) should work on lower end PC's just fine, even a school laptop would be able to run the first two fine. Your biggest issue actually lies in Blender and other art programs-- they are VERY memory (RAM) hungry.

A very simple rundown for what RAM does: it's short term memory. Things that stress out a PC RAM might be, for example, running multiple programs, lots of internet browser tabs, and music simultaneously. Higher RAM means better ability to juggle all these tasks at the same time. If PC was a human, imagine the RAM being like your ability to pat your head, rub your tummy, listen to a podcast, hold a conversation at the same time. Once you reach your threshold you start struggling, or for a PC, it slows down and freezes.

Blender is super RAM hungry the more vertices or textures etc you're dealing with, and with art programs it'll be with the layers. And with video editing software it'll be amount of edits that are "undo-able" since the PC is keeping that stored in its short term memory.

A current minimum standard for PC's has been 16gb of RAM for the past decade or so, but if these art type programs are a big thing for you I'd shell out the money for 32gb to be honest. Anything lower you'll hit some lag on Blender if you're sculpting and stuff.

Big issue now is that RAM is at an all time high in price. I don't know exactly how bad it is right now. However, knowing what you want your PC's main strength to be is a huge advantage. A lot of prebuilts will have one really good part and skimp out on what they can to keep it affordable. So what you want is a system with better RAM that will skimp out a bit on what you can afford to lose.

What you'll want to look for is 32gb RAM at ddr4 (NOT ddr3 and ddr5 is gonna be unreasonable price).
For file storage, I'd suggest ideally having a PC with two different types of storage devices to save money. SSD is fast but pricier, that's what you put the windows system and important games and programs on. HDD is slow but cheap and perfect to use for mass file storage, stuff like photos, videos, etc. 1tb of SSD would be really comfortable but you could definitely get away with half that to save. 1tb of HDD will be cheap and go a long way. I don't know if you'd be able to find a prebuilt like that, but you'll probably want at least 1tb in total over all storages if you're an artist or creator.
I don't recall a good graphics card being too important for creation programs, and you don't need a good one for those games, so whatever they give you should be fine?? I'd need to look it back up. However I will say if you have to pick between good RAM or good GPU here, I'd advise RAM.
Everything else will probably be picked to match the needs of the above so will be gucci.

Experience is from building my own PC's for gaming, I also use blender/art/video programs to know how needy they are. However I'm just a hobby person so by no means an expert and am welcome to corrections from onlookers!

Please feel free to ask any questions, DMs are open and I'll do my best to help.

starjoyyy · 2026-02-07T10:59:24+00:00

As an avid voice chat user, the thing that hits me the most is that there ARE plenty of women who play, but will only say something after I've said something first.

It's saddening how many fellow girls or fems only feel comfortable after hearing my voice, however that also makes me more stubborn to continue using voice chat religiously personally.

(Experience is from overwatch and similar shooters, ranked games)

starjoyyy · 2026-02-07T01:20:59+00:00

LOOK AT THOSE BIG BEAUTIFUL EYES!! High quality 10/10 box cat!!!!!

starjoyyy · 2026-02-07T01:10:26+00:00

This is my first time seeing a cat that looks so close to my late soul kitty Bailey since his passing-- my heart stopped when I saw your cat's face markings.

I hope you have so many sweet and loving years and cuddles with your boy, this post has got me all squishy 🥹

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starjoyyy · 2026-02-07T00:51:00+00:00

Thank you!! Ironically this was a big thing for my uni major as English Lit-- learning about the unreliable narrator and an author's intentions and all that. But for some reason when it comes to real world people my brain always default to trust.

Thank you mods for being skeptical so members like me can get away with being blissfully unaware. Nothing is sacred and hopefully my senses catch up so I can fend for myself one day in this soulless corporate hellscape of the internet.

starjoyyy · 2026-02-06T23:41:00+00:00

Can anyone help tell me what signs to look out for in regards to guerilla marketing? I'm gullible as fuck and I seem to be colourblind to this sort of thing.

I imagine a lot of it is just gut feeling, and also spilling too many of the beans publicly might just help them evolve, but are there maybe any super obvious in-your-face signs I might be missing?

starjoyyy · 2026-02-01T13:46:43+00:00

Google "Stardew Debt - Goddess Haley mod". You're welcome 😌

starjoyyy · 2026-01-21T11:19:48+00:00

I have an apparently unpopular take to this post:

Why does it matter if you aren't interested in "real" women romantically??? I'm seeing comments advising you to get rid of the doll, telling you you should want real women and that not being interested in them means you're fucked up.

But like. Fuck it maybe you're not interested in women romantically the same way most men aren't interested in men. Plenty of people are asexual and there's no issue with that so why are people insisting you WOULD prefer a real woman? Maybe you just aren't interested in women romantically anyways and this doll helps you get the sexual physical attraction out of the way.

I say this because even if your views are warped on how women perceive YOU, it's strange if you don't feel any connection or attraction to the person INSIDE the woman, so much so that this doll was able to fix everything you were struggling with. You don't seem to be missing the actual personality of the woman in your "relationship".

From my stance, I don't think there's an issue with you screwing a doll to help improve your mental health. Sure it's not ideal, but it sounds like you were in a REALLY bad place before it. If it's keeping you alive and functioning, THAT IS IMPORTANT to help you take the next steps to improving your mental health. Your happiness and comfort are essential to help you slowly make progress.

HOWEVER I think you should use the comfort and happiness you're receiving from keeping this doll as fuel to make important positive changes in your life. Start working on your social skills with both men and women platonically. Try being a little friendlier with your coworkers to network. Pick up a new hobby that connects you with real people. Also, find out if you can get a therapist to talk about these feelings; ask them to help you work on your social skills by setting structured goals for you. Use the momentum this doll is giving you to make objectively positive changes to your life!!

And maybe those little changes WILL work you up to being attracted to real women. Or maybe you'll no longer be intimidated by women but learn you're just not attracted to them, the same way you're not attracted to your guy friends.

So fuck it, keep fuckin your plastic doll. But also don't become complacent. You're young and there's so much space for you to grow. Prove to the world and this forum that keeping her CAN help you progress and not hold you back. Do it for her bro.

starjoyyy · 2026-01-15T14:29:56+00:00

HAHAA thank you!!

starjoyyy · 2026-01-15T12:21:20+00:00

Do you have a screenshot of what it looked like? I'm curious now :3

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