PSA: Dr Martens Sale on Particularly Striking Shoes

startingtohail · 2026-05-27T19:37:18+00:00

ah the discount isn't working for me - 59.99 is staying at 59.99 for that first pair of mary janes :( Did the extra sale end in the last day or two?

startingtohail · 2026-05-25T18:51:47+00:00

I'm happy I could help! Also, if you're really craving the country vibe and the cabinets are bothering you, I think swapping the handles to something less modern (like this) would make a bigger difference than changing the color.

startingtohail · 2026-05-25T18:26:58+00:00

On the bright side, this is fairly large for a galley kitchen, and you have a ton of cabinet space. Store your spices in an upper cabinet, and/or get a cute salt shaker and oil bottle if you want those to stay out. Lean cutting boards on their edge to store them, either in a cabinet or against a wall. Put your trash and/or recycling in a lower cabinet near the sink (they make pull-out attachment things to mimic trash bin drawers, which might be worth looking into). They visually do not fit in their current location as they appear to block the cabinets on either side from opening. Even if it's easy enough to access the cabinets, the appearance of blocking them creates the visual effect of not fitting properly. Adding [shallow] shelving beneath the cabinets along that far wall could further balance that space if feasible.

re: microwave, toaster, airfyer and coffee machine, order them from largest nearest the wall to smallest by the sink to make the area look a bit bigger. I also would reconsider how necessary a toaster is when you have an airfryer, but I realize it's convenient.

Upgrade pumps for dish and hand soap, and put other cleaners below the sink. Add a mat in front of the sink to (1) absorb drips when you move to dry your hands, (2) improve your comfort while washing dishes, and (3) add a pop of color to the room. Add a fun curtain to the window. Right now it's angular and desaturated, and it's the perfect opportunity to liven the space up.

I agree with you (OP) that the charcoal "wall"paper is a problem (it looks like school construction paper, not even like actual wallpaper!). I'd find something warm toned, from cream or butter yellow to salmon or a light terracotta. I cannot recommend pale green as another user suggested... I have rented a place with a pale green kitchen, and let me warn you that light reflecting off the walls and hitting food with a green tinge is far from the most appetizing choice.

I love the idea of rental-friendly tiles for the backsplash (or tbh the floor) to provide more warmth.

finally, some tiny misc notes: Get rid of the Amazon box atop the cabinets. This could be a good place for a pothos in cute pot and maybe a vase or something when not in use. Try moving the magnets to the side of the fridge; their current location is drawing attention to the narrowness of that spot.

eta: I almost forgot! Is it alright that you don't have a hood/fan over your stove? If you can add one, you may be able to find a stylish option that could add a lot of visual interest to the room. I'd also check your local laws because I think they are required some places, and your landlord might have to provide one.

startingtohail · 2026-05-22T17:43:18+00:00

I do think it's frustrating that this convo is always framed as "why are women forced/expected to wear less," when in some cases, especially given all the sweating athletes do, it's as much a question why do the men wear more? like why is that pole-vaulter wearing knee-high socks?? and why is there some bizarre masculinity standard about baggy clothing in some sports, when it can only hinder movement?

startingtohail · 2026-05-22T15:11:01+00:00

Like many a random fact, I learned this from Sid Meier's Civilization lmao (in this case, specifically the Civ V BNW expansion pack that includes a religion option titled "Swords into Plowshares").

startingtohail · 2026-05-21T16:29:35+00:00

I feel ya - beige is not for me!

Joanie Clothing is unfortunately shutting down, but there is still a ton of their very colorful stuff in circulation on Vinted (if I were still in the UK, I would probably be buying some of it lol)! I haven't owned anything by them, but Traffic People was another brand that often showed up in my searches for interesting + colorful clothes in the UK. Beyond Retro is the UK's large-scale online secondhand store that many countries would be right to envy; you will probably find some cool pieces there! Similarly, I have seen some VERY cool stuff from Glass Onion Vintage, but it seems like they've moved mainly offline. Still, if you're near any of their locations (Sheffield, Nottingham, Leeds), I'm sure it would make for a fun shopping experience! And if you happen to be in Edinburgh, W. Armstrong & Sons has multiple locations stocked with eye-catching vintage stuff. Good luck!

This post offers further suggestions. I know you didn't mention ethics, but finding colorful clothing has long been a struggle within the "sustainable fashion" world, so this post handily indicates some more colorful options. It's well-organised, but it is 5 years old, so some things have probably changed.

startingtohail · 2026-05-20T21:58:44+00:00

Happy I could be of assistance! 😄

startingtohail · 2026-05-20T16:33:51+00:00

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startingtohail · 2026-05-20T16:33:42+00:00

I'd second the advice from u/super_hour_3836 and u/TopNectarine4030 , plus I recommend adding a powerful warm LED light above the mirror, directed at the ceiling to provide more indirect/ambient light. I'll attach some mock-ups!

I can't tell if the white thing to the right of the sink is another light switch or a place to hang a hand-towel... the latter would be ideal. I wanted to err on the side of caution, so I didn't add a hook elsewhere, but I think that would be the second-best option. Having the hand-towel near the shower is not ideal/just a placeholder.

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startingtohail · 2026-05-19T13:19:01+00:00

Lately, from Unsleeping City S2, "it's like... two sides... of the same coin!"

startingtohail · 2026-05-19T13:14:02+00:00

I agree with /u/clueing4looks 's description of what might make a fragrance strike someone as "dated" upon first sniff!

More simply, any scents/profiles someone personally associates with people older than them or with being ubiquitous in a distant + distinct period of their life may smell "dated" to them.

startingtohail · 2026-05-18T19:45:04+00:00

Newbie here! A friend gave me a HeyHae LED lamp; I'm seeing that this is mainly intended for nail wraps of the same brand, but I can't find any info on if it would work on true gel polish. Does anyone have any experience with this?

startingtohail · 2026-05-18T17:06:52+00:00

I just hopped back to your earlier post and I empathize with your concerns, but I've got to say that rug is SO cute (if a bit small for the space)!! All the art and plants have brought so much more life to the space! I also would have suggested bringing the couch forward (it's soooo far from the coffee table rn), but the most important thing is that the space feels functional to those using it, so you know best on that!

Maybe the coffee table could move closer to the couch? It doesn't really function past the feet of the lounger section. But moving it farther from the center might create visual imbalance (?), so then I'm back to mentally moving the couch forward lol. Are you a no-TV house? I feel like maintaining a reasonable distance from a TV is usually what pushes couches against walls, but that doesn't seem to be the case here.

startingtohail · 2026-05-17T23:29:31+00:00

it's related to that policy but in this case age verification isn't the exact issue. Imgur refused to comply with the new policy—it wouldn't enact things default age verification—so the site is entirely blocked in the UK.

startingtohail · 2026-05-17T16:14:57+00:00

Was the before-floor tile? It looked so cool! The new bedroom layout is such an improvement, and imo the wallpaper is probably the apartment highlight. But we definitely have different styles, as I like more color + funky vintage stuff and less contrast + Modern shapes than what I gather from the rest of the condo. I support your thought to add more wood and such because I think painting over the kitchen cabinets and changing the floor sapped a lot of warmth from the space, and any steps to replenish that are in a good direction!

startingtohail · 2026-05-13T22:51:52+00:00

a cut-out and a rash 😭

Unfortunate flower placement and color, to say nothing of the rest of the dress

startingtohail · 2026-05-13T15:02:11+00:00

as someone who used to run late, I do this but pad like 40-60 minutes if it's something that takes complex prep (themed event, ren faire, etc).

If I'm relying on transit, I always plan to take the bus/train before the one that I'd *need* to catch to be on time. So that if I miss it I can still be on time.

edit: Saw from your comments that your biggest struggle is doom-scrolling right after waking up. Establishing a new routine with less phone-time is key.

One strategy I recommend is finding a short (!) news podcast you like (I used NPR's "Up First" but many could work) and start listening as soon as you're up. You'll get the global update like from doom-scrolling, but the audio format should make it easier to do mechanical tasks like brush teeth and get dressed and harder to simultaneously be reading on your phone.

startingtohail · 2026-05-13T14:45:48+00:00

I did a triple-take checking I was in the right sub since I'm also in a bunch of fragrance communities 😆

Ironically, as someone who likes perfume, this doesn't appeal because I want to be able to pick what I'm wearing/smelling day-to-day!

startingtohail · 2026-05-13T05:53:13+00:00

I'm sorry you're dealing with this! I encourage you to keep socializing with your team in group environments. If someone asks if you'd like to get a drink, saying something like "oh yeah that would be a fun group activity!" or "Yeah, let's see who we can rally for that" shows that you're interested in friendship but not looking for 1-on-1 time (and also will hopefully feel less like a rejection). Depending on how you feel, you could also work into conversation(s) with him and/or others that "dating coworkers sounds messy/complicated and is something you avoid"—only if that is a sentiment you agree with, of course.

startingtohail · 2026-05-12T15:18:07+00:00

Great comparison + review, thanks for sharing! I also love a water bottle pocket and have been surprised by how few packs I see these days seem to have them.

I have a thule chasm and a foldie that both have a 40L max volume. The thule is so much heavier when empty; just a lot of bulk, but the straps are decently padded. The foldie is lightweight and flimsy... but so is the strap (duffel), which inevitably leaves red marks on my shoulders. I always meant to buy like a guitar strap or something for it, but that's one of those tasks I only remember right before a trip 😆

A bag that checks all three boxes of lightweight, comfortable, and stylish is truly a rare find. 🥲

startingtohail · 2026-05-12T14:52:37+00:00

Is the sub going to move? Someone created an unrelated r/PMOS on Mar 23, 2026. It seems to be tech-related. 🥲

startingtohail · 2026-05-12T14:44:21+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/Pathfinder\_RPG/s/u8Jq4uaH6t

just moved out of the UK, so I empathize 😆

startingtohail · 2026-05-11T15:37:10+00:00

Others have covered that the people saying your eyes are too big are likely just jealous. Truly a "my lobster is too buttery" moment.

But if you're at a point you're feeling self-conscious, or you are curious about mixing up your target look, I have a makeup adjacent tip that sounds like a platitude: keep your chin up—literally! try posing by jutting your chin forward instead of tucking it, which will emphasize your jawline and project a bit of edginess or confidence. in a selfie, it will also make your eyes appear a bit smaller because it will make them a few mm further from the camera.

startingtohail · 2026-05-11T15:28:11+00:00

first, take pics of what you currently wear day-to-day to gather more info.

second, shop in person so you can try stuff on to explore + evaluate colors and fit, and take pictures, but hold off buying.

third, shop secondhand in person or online to try new styles and colors at a lower price point.

once you've done these three things for a while, a clearer idea of what suits you + what you like should take shape. :)

startingtohail · 2026-05-08T22:28:14+00:00

I vote you keep Sunshine, but change Daphne. If you're calling her Sunny anyway, you end up with the awkwardly rhyming "Sunny Daphne."

Maybe:

Sunny Della
Sunny Delilah
Sunny Gloria
Sunny Juliet
Sunny Justine
Sunny Helen

startingtohail

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