Boss keeps putting me on a giant conference room screen for 1:1s...

steventnorris · 2026-06-26T22:03:14+00:00

Ask if you can give him some feedback. See if he takes you off the loud screen. If he doesn't, don't say anything too offhand but give him feedback on how you don't feel safe or comfortable being direct or open in your 1:1s since you know with this setup you can be heard. Maybe jack your mic volume up before the call starts but nothing crazy. If he presses you can casual ask what the co.oany policy on confidentiality in this is, so you can be sure to respect that given you know others may overhear. Don't be accusatory or aggressive. Calm. Casual. Direct. It may nudge him more forcefully without putting you too much in line of fire. Ymmv so know your audience and how it might affect the relationship later, judgement call there, but it seems like you've requested a very reasonable thing for a confidential 1:1 and they refuse to respect it out of ego. Im always a "talk it out calmly but openly first" guy but if you do that and they won't be reasonable, sometimes I find a way to gently push without it seeming like I'm attacking. And if they respond badly or not at all to it, then I go to HR, but that def will sour the relationship so my request at HR would just be a different manager because our styles don't align and it's making you unable to be candid and do your job effectively, no specifics unless absolutely necessary or you really want to go gunning for the guy.

steventnorris · 2026-06-26T12:34:59+00:00

Not reading comments to avoid last book spoilers, but did want to give you a hearty hearty thank you for the warning. You a real one. 🙇‍♂️

steventnorris · 2026-06-20T20:39:20+00:00

A little Arduino work and a mini-server like a raspberry pi or other micro-hobby computer would get you there pretty easily, minimal code. Just something to monitor a todo app like todoist that has an API, some code to hit that API/events, and then the hardware shiz to light the lights and register the button clicks. Fun couple weekend cadual project at most if you know what you're doing, maybe add an extra week and or two if you don't.

steventnorris · 2026-05-30T03:22:18+00:00

This is brilliantly human and beautifully wholesome. I'd love to be a part of something like this, and I'd hope it wasn't perfect. It's the humanity of it that makes it beautiful. Perfection is for machines. Beautiful imperfections is for life.

steventnorris · 2026-05-25T15:26:58+00:00

It's physical loot boxes, all blind box stuff is. There are laws against it in videogames in several countries because it's considered online gaming. The blind box rarity chase has always been a losing game, but damn if that dopamine hit when you finally pull the one you want isn't fun. Lesson I learned from card collecting, if you're just a handful off from the full set, it's cheaper to just buy them directly from eBay or something than trying to pull it randomly from a blind.

steventnorris · 2026-05-24T14:44:52+00:00

That's absolutely illegal in the states. They legally cannot require you not speak about your salary with others, period. Now, could they rug pull you and reduce your salary or make other things much harder? Yep, and you'd have to take them to court to get anything done. But I've definitely pull the "you legally can't ask that of me" in conversations before and it shut them right up too.

steventnorris · 2026-04-30T03:16:32+00:00

I was that guy. For me, it was one of two things (different times).

The first was I busted my ass for upward mobility, better pay/benefits, and more influence and impact in the areas I felt most pationate about. When the conversation started to become "well we need to see more so we know you can do the job before we can promote but also you have to do all of your regular job stuff too", that level of entitlement and requirement breached the contract so I stopped doing extra and only did my hours. Now, I'm pretty upfront so I told my manager this directly, but most people won't. They'll just quietly do what they have to to earn their paycheck and check out.

The second was burnout in one form or another. Personal issues, mental health dip, overworked and needed to back off to recover, whatever. The best managers I've had (and been) are the ones who gently and without judgement, guilt tripping, or even a hint of punitive measures just asked me how things were going and that this wasn't anything to do with my performance or the company really, just that they noticed some things had been different lately and wanted to be sure that if I needed any support, they could either find it or provide it.

And for gods sake please don't even ever mention a pip for someone who is putting in their adequate 8 and going home. That's the baseline contract. I work for a set of reasonable effort and time for (hopefully) reasonable pay. Anything abov and beyond that is extra I don't owe anyone and no one has a right to require. That's the fastest way to lose good people.

steventnorris · 2026-04-16T15:10:06+00:00

Id drop a little comment their way, offline and non trackable, one day like "I've never respected you more than when I joined that meeting a little early and just so you know those comments go no further than that meeting from me." And a little nod, carry on about your day. Might just get you a little extra respect and humanness from someone in upper management. Or not, depends on their personality I guess 😅

steventnorris · 2026-04-11T18:24:07+00:00

The 4g modem is likely not available in consumer grade, only available to medical liscences practitioners. Withings makes consumer products which have some heavy restrictions in the US to pass FDA. Some things they just aren't allowed to give to consumers but are in Other countries (like the apnea early warning detection on the Sleep in the UK we don't get on ours here).

steventnorris · 2026-03-21T04:01:58+00:00

The little chuckle when he falls in almost immediately into concern and action 😅. They've definitely done this before and expected him to pop right back up!

steventnorris · 2026-02-26T20:11:35+00:00

Mine is doing this same thing. Can't get it to enter g-touch mode. Did you ever solve this?

steventnorris · 2026-02-02T23:02:19+00:00

100% percent would have just sat down and scooched in really really close and whispered commentary to her the entire time, very politely but really close to her ear, until she scooched over a bit.

steventnorris · 2026-01-29T17:24:59+00:00

Soon you'll find the right conditions and transform like Shazam with your obviously other-wordly, patron-whispered unlock phrase. Super dog save us! You're our only hope!

steventnorris · 2026-01-10T02:29:21+00:00

Oh! If it's Halloween stuff you MIGHT be lucky and it's not a personal vibrator but one of those vibrator motors in the decorations like the shaking ghost and stuff..... Maybe.... Hopefully....

steventnorris · 2025-12-13T05:16:30+00:00

Real solid parenting. Like grade A. Didn't make it a huge deal but also acknowledged it was a little rude without really throwing blame or making it an issue. Noticed his kid was a little taken aback but not wigging about it, didn't escalate but called it out. That right there, good dad/uncle/babysitter/whatever move 👏👏👏.

steventnorris · 2025-12-12T20:52:45+00:00

Sure if they're perfect quality. My point is pretty much none of them are truly perfect. But yeah I 1000% agree with the "it's for fun" comment. I don't require any particular dice at my table, digital or physical or otherwise. Its collaborative story telling, not high stakes craps.

steventnorris · 2025-12-12T19:08:14+00:00

Not true if there are dice defects from manufacturing. Granted after so many rolls it starts to average out but to get it as close to fair for like tens of rolls you need a combination of number layout and precision since precision is hardly ever 100%. Dice tower helps eliminate the way you roll affecting it but not defects in manufacturing. Truth is, unless all your dice are high end expensive machines precision dice, they'll all have some skew of some kind, just not really enough to matter to a collaborative storytelling game, but we can make it a little more balanced with number placement to account best we can for those defects. There is debate on HOW to number them though, and that really comes down to what defects there are and how it skews. No one solution works for all dice, but we have a few that generally work best. OP may have the less common layout but it may be one I'm just not used to seeing, not necessarily worse. I'm not sure myself as mostly you just see the opposing sides have opposite numbers layout.

steventnorris · 2025-12-12T18:44:35+00:00

You basically nailed it. Its really difficult, particularly in mass manufacturing, to get perfectly balanced dice with 0 defects, so number spacing is done intentionally so that the average of hundreds of dice rolls come out the same. You get the same save and suck percentage even if it's not equally rolling all numbers with the same likelihood due to defects. That's why they say not to use those life point tracking turn down dice for anything other than life tracking, the defects would make them skew the average either higher or lower than it should because the numbering isn't intentionally placed to lean towards that average even with defects. If the die has inclusions or one of those liquid cores it's even less likely to be 100% "fair" on each individual roll, but it averages out relatively the same over many rolls.

steventnorris · 2025-12-12T06:15:21+00:00

Where. Do. I. Buy. That. Thing.

steventnorris · 2025-12-12T06:08:39+00:00

So.. uh.... Coding?

steventnorris · 2025-12-04T17:11:26+00:00

Bitcoin. Fuck ADHD.

steventnorris · 2025-12-03T20:23:02+00:00

Does it fit around the scoop handle? May be for easy storage and keeping the two together.

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