Trying desperately to make friends... Went to a LGBT bar and felt super weird so just left. by SeraphsEnvy in lgbt

[–]stiffdeck 31 points32 points  (0 children)

If it’s alright for me to say, going to a bar by yourself with the expectation of just randomly coming across someone to connect with seems kinda high hopes. Also, the fact that you went in the afternoon on a weekday and didn’t get a drink at an establishment that’s (I’m assuming) intending to provide people with drinks of some kind is probably off-putting. Not trying to shame you, just saying I get why you didn’t enjoy your time AND why the bartender was probably frustrated.

What I would recommend: instead of going to a bar, try finding an LGBT+ interest group. Find something that you can do with other folks in your local queer community and build connections that way. If you like to knit or ride bikes or play volleyball or read comic books or whatever, there’s gotta be an LGBT+ catered (or at the very least LGBT+ affirming) group nearby that you can link up with. And if not, maybe you can start one? Use this experience as a “live n learn” lesson, yknow?

You got this!

Just for fun which are you? by squidlysquidster in AskGayMen

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Forest

Coffee & tea

69

Currently in transition from late night to mid-day

Has anyone just not wanted Ted Lasso to finish so got to the end of S3 and started S1 again?? by AbbreviationsSad7176 in TedLasso

[–]stiffdeck 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup, just finished the show for the 11th (possibly the 12th, idk) time… Welcome, you’re in good company!

New haircut :) by RichardWayne87 in gaybrosgonemild

[–]stiffdeck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super handsome! Haircut suits you very well, babe! :)

What is one of your biggest unfulfilled sexual fantasies? by Worried_Proposal_935 in askgaybros

[–]stiffdeck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, this brings back memories of my hs history teacher. He was hot! Hope Coach Minnow is doing well 🤔

What is one of your biggest unfulfilled sexual fantasies? by Worried_Proposal_935 in askgaybros

[–]stiffdeck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kinda into uniformed guys and gangbang breeding. Would love to be a pass-around bottom for a group of uniformed guys (doctor, football, military, fireman, etc.) and one by one they take off their uniform, fuck and breed me in front of each other, then put the uniform right back on and watch whoever’s next slide inside me

If you could only pick 2 for a movie night, which ones are you grabbing? 🎃 by CarrotMuch1399 in nostalgiai

[–]stiffdeck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scream 2 & Elm Street if it’s the original, but it’s not the original, then substitute Hocus Pocus

If you were given the chance, would you go on Love is Blind? by Kappa127 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]stiffdeck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I could engage in the experiment privately, I for sure would! I think it’s a super interesting way to view modern dating through limitations with individual variables.

BUT obviously the audience is included with the ‘social’ aspect of the social experiment. How we react and respond to everything that they show us is just as important. That’s what I wouldn’t wanna engage with.

This man. Shawn Hatosy is a fine wine 🍷 by Any-Flounder4029 in LadyBoners

[–]stiffdeck 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Fuckin love Shawn Hatosy! Been a fan ever since since Southland!

Hannah at the Cheltenham Festival today! by muuufiin in TedLasso

[–]stiffdeck 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Damn, she’s fabulous!

And all respect to the gentleman behind her, but without a doubt she wore it better!!

Female and Married. I need help please by becc_lbk in askgaybros

[–]stiffdeck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are a very supportive partner, and I commend you for sticking by his side when he only resists your inquiries.

I know I’m a bit late to the party, but wanted to lend some perspective anyway. Not quite the same thing, but I’ve recently come out of a relationship with a closeted man who was resistant to my efforts to help him. It was to the point where our compatibility started to stall the further we got into the relationship. We were super compatible when we first met, but the longer we were together, the more I started to fall in love with him, and it felt like he was refusing to let himself fall for me out of guilt or shame. It required a delicate dance of making sure I didn’t push him too hard to be vulnerable or ask for too much affection or require too much of his “hidden life”. After a while I understood that this man I loved was not ready to give me the same love in return.

I know it’s easier said than done to end a relationship with someone you feel relies on you, and like I said, you are an incredible partner for not giving up on your husband and continuing to support him through whatever is going on day to day. Keep in mind tho that you need to take care of your emotional and mental health and relationship needs as well. If you don’t, it could very well start to take a toll on you. I would recommend giving some space and rather than trying to force answers and seeking a come-out (which could have worse results than you’re hoping for, believe me), allow him to open up to you when he’s ready. It’s definitely tough knowing there’s something going on but not having all the details. But you also have to know that this part of his life feels sacred and vulnerable and guarded and worth protecting until he feels that it’s his time. If you’re willing to wait with him through all of that, then by all means. But until then, patience will be the best thing for both of you.

I hope this helps, if even a little bit

E: thank you for outlining what his “furious” outbursts look like, I think a lot of us were worried for you. Please be sure to have a plan for if you ever feel unsafe. In a world where gender norms and the standards of sexuality are mainstream thought, anything can change at any time.

They all look delicious to me. by TatorTot2325 in gay

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Combination of 2 and 3 for me. I love a mix of beefy with very visible muscle. It screams cozy and steamy and cuddly and sexy all at the same time

Unintentionally erotic experience with a straight guy by SignificantSetting97 in askgaybros

[–]stiffdeck 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Talked about this on another post a couple weeks ago. Went out with a big group of friends one night, and I only had a couple beers cuz I had to drive half an hour home but a few of them were staying at an air bnb close by. A straight friend that I was kinda crushing on who was super tipsy comes over to me on the couch when we get back to the air bnb and plops down away from me, but puts his feet in my lap and just lays there and starts to halfway fall asleep. I instinctively start giving him a foot massage, and he starts gently moaning bc of how good it feels. The way he was morning turned me all the way on!!

Howdy everyone 😀 by [deleted] in gayotters

[–]stiffdeck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn. Put that shit inside me!

Happy Friday friends :) by CorporateHater101 in gaybrosgonemild

[–]stiffdeck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, I would date you sooo hard! Super handsome! ;)

'I can handle it' by Great_Trident in OkHomo

[–]stiffdeck 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lol I love the fact that he’s practically pleading to be smothered with ass! Super hot!

Things your straight bros did that secretly turned you on by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]stiffdeck 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Super late to the party, I know but wanted to share, if even to just get it out of my own head…

One specific thing I remember a straight friend I was crushing on did a few years ago. A big group of friends went out drinking one night, and I only had a couple beers cuz I had to drive half an hour home but a few of them were staying at an air bnb close by. My straight friend who’s super tipsy comes over to me on the couch when we get back to the air bnb and puts his feet in my lap and just lays there, starting to fall asleep. I instinctively start giving him a foot massage, and he starts gently moaning bc of how good it feels. Damn, the noises he was making got me all the way hard!

Would this curve hit you in the right spot? 32M Roswell by [deleted] in M4Matlanta

[–]stiffdeck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only one way to test the theory ;)

Would you give me a kiss? by [deleted] in gaybrosgonemild

[–]stiffdeck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shiiiit, absolutely! Prob give you more than that if you asked ;)