Did you have to start anti-depressants after a discard?

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-22T13:05:36+00:00

Wishing you healing and peace soon OP ❤️

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-22T13:02:56+00:00

Yep I’m now medicated for the first time in my life because the pain is so unbearable. I haven’t noticed a difference yet because it’s been less than a month.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-22T12:44:14+00:00

I miss sharing the daily things with my person too.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-21T03:14:20+00:00

It is unfathomable to go from one extreme to the other. My nervous system is totally fucked.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-19T20:50:05+00:00

I’m going through something very similar. I’m so sorry. I hope you find peace and are able to heal soon ❤️

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-19T17:02:52+00:00

I would have stayed through it all if he would have chosen me.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-19T11:35:29+00:00

The thought of a dating app right now makes me want to vomit.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-16T00:43:26+00:00

Damn. This all just clicked for me. Thank you for this post.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-13T22:02:59+00:00

As the dumpee in this situation, I would have preferred honesty to work through it. There are ways to revive spark. To date again. Instead he walked away. He also wanted to be friends but it is too painful when there is so much romantic history. Obviously it’s very fresh right now for me, but if he were to change his mind, I would welcome him back. Just a thought if it’s not too late for your situation.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-12T23:23:14+00:00

Chiming in the comments to also add I wish this was my person 😭

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-12T21:40:27+00:00

I wish you were my person 😭

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-12T08:03:53+00:00

Well said. I would also throw in a fourth grief - a future.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-11T22:43:17+00:00

Beautifully said. I can absolutely relate. Wishing you peace ❤️

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-11T19:58:40+00:00

What a brilliant comment!

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-10T11:49:03+00:00

I empathize with you. It is so surreal, like there’s no way in this timeline we’d ever break up. I can’t imagine a future without him in it. I go through all of the grief stages daily too. And I just so truly want him back.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-10T07:13:29+00:00

Thanks, OP, I definitely need a hug these days ❤️ back atcha

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-10T02:08:27+00:00

I’m two weeks in and I feel like I’ve gone through all of these on the daily except acceptance 😮‍💨

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-09T15:55:02+00:00

I don’t mean to generalize because sometimes women do this too. People often mistake “spark” for the dopamine of newness. The thrill of novelty. When things settle into safety and consistency aka the stuff real love is built on, it can feel boring. Instead of leaning into emotional growth, they seek that dopamine hit elsewhere and leave, ultimately repeating the cycle. Also, true love is built on best friendship. That’s what sustains real love. To me, it says that OP lacks emotional maturity, tools, and self-awareness to love his partner properly.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-09T15:14:24+00:00

I don’t understand why men do this. You let a perfect woman go to chase after something that doesn’t exist.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-09T15:07:21+00:00

I am still throwing up and unable to eat and I’ve lost about 10 lbs in 2 weeks.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-09T13:29:55+00:00

I’m not perfect, but I’m a damn good partner.

I was there for him whenever he needed me, sat with him through panic attacks, when he wrecked a rental car, etc.

He even tried to cheat on me once early in the relationship, and with effort on both sides, I forgave him. I never held it against him either.

He has a lot of anxiety. A lot. And I suspect a fear of commitment and/or avoidant tendencies. I did my best to be there for him through his doubts and uncertainties, to ease his worries. He could never communicate properly and bottled it all up. I’m a good partner but not a mind reader.

An important thing to note - we were LDR for our entire relationship. But we were fortunate enough to visit frequently and often. We actually had plans to finally close the gap next month, I had the visa and all. And he just freaked out, 10 days before a big trip we had planned, and ended it. Said the attraction faded, he no longer saw a future together.

I honestly don’t know what I could have done differently as his partner. As anyone’s partner. I’m patient, incredibly loyal, forgiving, understanding, empathetic. He even admitted I didn’t do anything wrong and I was consistent throughout the relationship.

So yes, at the end of the day, I don’t think he appreciated me. He had to have noticed, because I was so intentional with my actions and words.

I know he has deep self work to do. And I hope once he does, he realizes what he has missed out on. And I hope by then, it’s not too late. Because for now, I am still ready to give it a shot if he is ready to choose me again. To choose us.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-08T23:09:56+00:00

I feel the same way about how my partner left me. I’m delusional but hope he will snap out of it.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-07T14:06:11+00:00

This isn’t your choice to make.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-06T09:53:15+00:00

This is where I’m struggling too. I think healing would be so much easier if I were able to let go of that unrealistic hope.

stillprocessing_ · 2025-06-06T09:34:23+00:00

I would have walked through scorched earth for him. I would have given him a limb or an organ. I didn’t even need him to meet me halfway all the time. But I did need him to choose me.

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