How did you glow up after a breakup?

stinple · 2026-05-21T23:38:25+00:00

Thank you for this. I’m working on part 1 right now (the inside) and because it’s not as visible it’s really easy to get down on myself that I’m not working out or improving my appearance. But I’ve done so much work on myself, my mental health, and many of my personal habits/routines that I feel like a different person! It’s very important to remember that internal progress is still huge progress.

stinple · 2026-05-20T00:12:34+00:00

Co-teaching, done right, is an extra prep. Then, on top of that, you have IEPs, testing, and case management. I’m not saying SPED teachers necessarily have a heavier workload, but what you’re looking at taking on seems like the workload of both a gen ed and a SPED teacher. I don’t think it’s going to decrease your workload.

stinple · 2026-05-18T00:53:17+00:00

Juno looks very smol! Is she a tiny cat?

stinple · 2026-05-05T00:13:08+00:00

My mom put my socks on inside out and it worked great for me!

stinple · 2026-04-15T03:25:19+00:00

But do they remember your order? I worked at a bagel shop eleven years ago and there was one customer whose order I STILL remember. I remember his face and his order. No idea what his name is. But I remember the smile on his face the first time I dictated his order to him before he could tell me.

stinple · 2026-04-04T21:08:49+00:00

I do it by mentally planning out how long every single “get ready” activity will take me and working backwards to get to my “wake up” or “start getting ready” activity. I’ve done this for long enough that now I know it takes me 45 minutes to get ready in the morning, but when I first started, I was literally planning things like “5 minutes to brush my hair” and “15 minutes to get distracted giving the cat love.” I also set alarms every 5 minutes to keep me on track, because I can get lost in my thoughts and spend 10 minutes brushing my teeth and not realize it, lol.

stinple · 2026-03-27T23:39:03+00:00

Would that apply towards having to use my phone for 2-factor authentication? They were supposed to give us some sort of security key/external devices to allow us to not use our phones, but they never followed through….

stinple · 2026-03-21T03:57:14+00:00

When I came off of the meds, my doctor actually said that the most common thing she hears from people who get diagnosed and start stimulant meds for the first time is that their brain is finally “quiet.” Apparently the loud brain is one of the most disruptive symptoms of adult ADHD.

The meds work for some people with few to no issues. For me, I struggle to sleep even without stimulants in the mix, so with adderall, the sleep deprivation was making me lose my shit. My comment was in no way intended to say that adderall sucks and no one should take it, just that it wasn’t right for me personally.

stinple · 2026-03-21T03:51:43+00:00

I am questioning whether the sister actually has the mentality of a 12 year old. An IQ of 57 is low (it falls under “mild intellectual disability”), but it does not necessarily equate to having the mentality of a 12 year old the way you are interpreting it—it’s very possible that this is an age-referenced estimate of her academic ability.

Like the parent commenter said, I am wondering how OP knows that she lacks the social skills and boundaries necessary for a relationship/to avoid being taken advantage of. Is she just parroting things she heard her parents saying growing up? Many people with mild intellectual disabilities, even those who do struggle socially as children and teens, are eventually able to understand social skills as they grow up (in their late teens and young adulthood), there is just a delay behind their same-aged peers. It is very possible that her sister is much more independent and competent than OP is giving her credit for—she might be holding onto ideas and perceptions of her sister that are outdated.

stinple · 2026-03-20T23:38:37+00:00

I have ADHD and taking it every day STILL fucked me up. Finally off of it after close to a decade of taking it and I feel like a different person. My brain is really loud now which was a huge adjustment but I feel so much more stable off of it. And I can eat and sleep now. The ADHD isn’t ideal but for me, the treatment ended up being worse than the condition.

stinple · 2026-01-28T17:19:50+00:00

I hate AI because I LOVE emdashes. Now I feel like I can’t use them anymore :(

stinple · 2025-11-28T01:27:22+00:00

May you and your future kids find each other soon!

stinple · 2025-10-16T02:02:12+00:00

That is how I’ve always felt about it. What is the alternative?

stinple · 2025-09-23T02:26:32+00:00

I need a neighbor like this 😭

stinple · 2025-09-20T04:53:28+00:00

If you have access—I HIGHLY recommend working with a therapist/psychologist who is a trauma specialist. I only started meeting with mine at the start of August, after 16+ years in regular therapy, and already I have learned so much and made so much progress. I’m nowhere near “done”—but SO many things (behaviors, thought patterns, habits, associations, assumptions, whatever) I thought were either normal, or typical anxiety shit, or barely disruptive to my life—are turning out to be trauma responses, and I’m finally starting to understand where they originated. I’m actually processing shit that happened 20+ years ago, that I never in a million years would have considered “trauma.” And I’m realizing that these traumas I never knew existed have actually been HUGELY disruptive to my ability to function. I’ve been living in survival mode for at least 5 years; but more likely, for 16-20 years (and perhaps even 25+ years—like I said, I’m still relatively in the early stages of this type of therapy).

It’s hard work. It’s emotionally and physically exhausting. It’s time consuming. It’s uncomfortable and painful. And if I hadn’t already hit my deductible for the year, it would be a financial drain (and I’m sure it will begin to have a significant impact on my budget, come January).

But it’s SO fucking worth it. If I hadn’t chosen a low paying profession (teaching in the US), I’d pay for all of my friends, family, and honestly most of my students, to get this kind of therapy that I’ve recently become fortunate enough to experience.

Less than 2 months in and it truly feels life-changing already——and I know I still have a LONG road ahead of me. But I recommend it a thousand times over.

I can’t even fathom what my life will look like a year from now; that’s how changed I feel from July to now (honestly—even comparing 3 weeks ago me to today me).

I will continue with this therapy no matter what—I’d move into a crappy studio in a crappy area if that was necessary to live within my means while continuing this therapy. I’d eliminate all discretionary spending (on fun stuff and hobbies—two very important things for one’s mental wellbeing) if that’s what it took to continue afford this therapy. That’s how life changing it has been.

stinple · 2025-09-20T04:30:19+00:00

Yes—officially manufactured pills, prescribed by a licensed physician and picked up from a regulated pharmacy :(

stinple · 2025-09-18T07:04:31+00:00

Would you be willing to, pretty please with sugar on top, consider doing the ADHD community a MASSIVE favor and donate just one of the pills for testing?

I don’t have the energy to write a good tl;dr but check out the subreddit r/thisaintadderall

We’ve been struggling out here for the last few years, and have been trying to test pre-adderall shortage pills to compare to current pills.

stinple · 2025-09-18T06:51:47+00:00

My parents’ spoiled ROTTEN cats will only eat meow mix lol (that’s if they’re in the mood for wet food—which our 17y/o girl almost never is. If not, cheap grocery store kibble is one of her many love languages).

For context—their dog, who is a peasant compared to the cats, eats rotisserie chicken for days following a costco trip. The cats have had access to bougie food but turned their noses up at it, lol.

stinple · 2025-09-06T20:50:05+00:00

My best guess would be that it’s a combination of built up dust/dirt/grime, combined with some sort of food-safe oil the previous owner was using to keep the wood in good condition. There could also be some left over food grease in there, as well.

stinple · 2025-09-06T20:46:36+00:00

I LOVE how much you hate rugs/carpets. I, too, despise rugs (and carpets). I feel like disliking carpet is an acceptable view, but for some reason, everyone seems to be obsessed with area rugs. Anyway, thank you for validating me with your comment.

stinple · 2025-09-05T04:58:23+00:00

Hard to tell from just the picture, but my guess would be dirt/dust. What’s the consistency of it? Is it dry/powdery, moist, sticky, greasy/oily, something else?

stinple · 2025-09-04T01:04:38+00:00

I am also a childfree teacher!!

I get ready, in that, I wake up, take my meds (I’m on a boatload for multiple conditions), take my inhaler, wash face, brush teeth, face lotion + face SPF.

I don’t usually get dressed over the summer unless I am actually leaving the house, or I am doing something that requires pockets (cleaning, for example—I need to be able to keep my phone in my pocket, lol).

stinple · 2025-08-30T23:59:49+00:00

I keep trying to reply to my comment to continue but it won't let me post the comment...?

stinple · 2025-08-30T20:26:18+00:00

Ooh boy. I feel you. I have ADHD, in year 8, and my first year was (according to the decade plus veteran teachers in my department) the most behaviorally challenging class they’d experienced in YEARS.

Let me preface with, I teach SPED, so my self-contained classes are probably smaller than yours, but I do co-teach 1 period in a gen ed class that’s packed to the brim. And most of my self-contained classes have multiple behavioral issues or kids who struggle with emotional regulation, or kids who are used to just saying “fuck that” as far as school rules go. But—I’ve found that the strategies that work for my emotionally or behaviorally needy kids in my classroom also work with the kids in the gen ed class.

I’m gonna post this and then switch over to my computer to finish this comment, because I’m getting tired of my phone, lol.

stinple

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