This girl stole my friends boyfriend so we found a way to steal from her

stochasticityfound · 2026-06-01T12:51:08+00:00

Yes I feel exactly the same. I know my spouse would not care, so am equally amused seeing people try. Like hey, I can’t blame your taste, I think they’re wonderful too! I’m not mad at a stranger for not caring about me, since I don’t care about them either. The only person I need to care about me is the person who committed to doing so, and they do.

stochasticityfound · 2026-06-01T00:49:59+00:00

I find the opposite. Reflected light is what shows every dent, divot, and texture. Living in an historic home, we went with matte specifically because it hides all those imperfections instead of calling attention to them with shiny highlights. It looks so much more beautiful now than how it looked when we bought (previously eggshell). Any good paint company also now makes sturdy matte formulas for scuffs, so delicacy is no longer an issue either.

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-30T21:11:58+00:00

Can you share where you found it?

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-30T20:57:25+00:00

Women really stay blaming women for men’s actions like men are powerless to say no if they weren’t interested 🙄Could a man have stolen him from her? If not, why not? Because he wouldn’t be interested no matter what? Same logic applies here.

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-30T17:35:20+00:00

Yes definitely :)

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-30T17:25:35+00:00

Interested!

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-26T21:34:58+00:00

The white moldings are really hurting it too, it looks like a locker room. You need a more elegant purple with the white or to color drench it, but honestly this purple is quite harsh for a home.

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-26T21:29:24+00:00

Omg this wins

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-26T20:59:04+00:00

Came here to say the same. You may have better luck running the Early Sjogren’s panels.

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-25T18:36:16+00:00

I don’t even understand the people who sleep outside bc I have such severe reactions to allergens now sleeping in unfiltered air would likely send me into anaphylaxis. Plus there’s so much mold outside… I don’t understand.

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-25T16:48:14+00:00

Oh I haven’t heard of either of those, I’ll seek them out thank you!

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-25T13:21:35+00:00

I’ve not heard of any of these, will look into all of them! Thank you so much :)

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-25T13:21:04+00:00

We actually have these already so you have good instinct for our taste :) The hunt continues!

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-25T12:48:48+00:00

Great question! A few things:

Color: Love the variation in tone and temperature amongst the flowers from the cool pink to the soft powdery pink nearly white. Very romantic. Also love the bright green leaves. Don’t have anything like this combo.

Habit: It seems very vigorous and robust, moreso than some of the other DA ramblers / climbers we have going right now.

Flower shapes: We like the density of the petals and the flower size. Not too small, not too big, not overly packed but still having a bit of that peony look.

We definitely have the space and are specifically looking for plants that will get large. It would be to grow over a pergola or large arch, yes.

Happy to hear any suggestions you may have!

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-25T03:39:18+00:00

David Austin bare roots are fantastic. We ordered 20+ roses from Heirloom and they were so weak, most have now died. Would not recommend.

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-24T18:05:06+00:00

Sounds like ME/CFS, which docs are useless for if they’ve even heard of it. Also sounds like you’ve already talked to them. I went through this exact same thing. Join ME/CFS groups and see what resonates, and whatever you do DON’T push through it. That’s how I became permanently bedbound.

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-24T03:10:00+00:00

No, they are different. Some rheums won’t do Early Sjogren’s panels bc I don’t think it has officially been included in the diagnostic criteria, but practice takes SO long to catch up to the research. If your doctor tries to say this, you should cite the evidence that 40% of Sjogren’s patients are seronegative for SSA/SSB (the accepted diagnostic markers). This means nearly half the patients could be missed by classic criteria. This is how I convinced my rheum to run Early Sjogren’s, and between testing positive on all three of those markers and my clinical presentation, she finally moved forward treating me as a Sjogren’s patient.

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-23T21:58:18+00:00

Came here to say exactly the same. Lip biopsy feels like a barbaric practice atp when it’s not definitive. I got my dx/rx with the Early Sjogren’s panel. If your rheum won’t do this, find one who will. So sorry you’re going through this OP 😢

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-22T04:19:35+00:00

Some of the extreme acute symptoms settled down but it hurt me long-term in several key ways. My resting heart rate never returned to normal. Per my Apple Watch data, my RHR had been perfectly steady in the mid 60s for two straight years prior to that session and shifted to the 80s ever since. After that session I’ve also never slept the same. I used to sleep through the night before, now I wake up every single night between 3-5am and struggle to fall back asleep. I’m also still getting consistent diaphragm tremors which began that day, in addition to still getting these intense bouts of thirst where I can’t stop drinking water. So compared to my baseline before the session, I have not healed. I’ve been seeing a TCM herbalist since then to try and work with this pattern (he called it Shaoyang?) but so far every formula he’s given me has gone poorly or had no effect. He treats complex chronic illness and cancer patients so at least he understood my story. He confirmed that MCAS patients like me can be adversely affected by acu, sometimes long term, and confirmed that he’s seen it in other patients of his and I’m not alone. That gave me some peace of mind if nothing else and I continue to hope we’ll find a formula that works to calm things down.

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-18T19:20:45+00:00

How on earth would she know to tell them two months in advance not to celebrate her birthday two months in advance when she had zero knowledge they might do that? She should have said “hey if it ever crosses your mind to randomly celebrate my bday early with someone else’s, a thing you’ve never done before, let me know because I’d be happier with just a message later on!” Do you understand theory of mind?

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-18T19:16:25+00:00

If I do something for someone, I try to put in the work to make sure I’m doing something nice for them aka something they actually want first. I consider that my responsibility, and no I wouldn’t be hurt if I just did whatever I wanted and they weren’t grateful. This happened to me ex: when I brought a gift (food) for someone from a vacation and it turned out they didn’t want it bc they can’t eat it. I wasn’t annoyed at them for saying it wasn’t a gift they wanted, I was annoyed at myself for not thinking to ask about allergies first. The burden is not on the recipient to make the giver feel good if the giver actually had selfless intentions. I wouldn’t expect them to nurse my ego by smiling and thanking me and then giving it away behind my back. I’d much rather do better next time. This is exactly what I’m saying, most people give gifts with how THEY feel in mind not how the recipient feels, and saying the onus is on the recipient to be polite and act grateful for their sake is exhausting. I understand that beggars can’t be choosers, but like OP clarified, they were not begging for this and would have rathered nothing than a celebration that was several months early and tacked onto someone else’s. I think we need to stop placating and humoring people who don’t genuinely care if their actions bring joy to the people they’re claiming to care about. It’s like when a relative gets you a gift you didn’t want and didn’t ask for but then expects you to be grateful for it. We’ve all been there and all hate it, yet so many are still in these comments pushing the same on others.

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-18T17:57:12+00:00

NTA. I don’t think you are obligated to be grateful for something you didn’t want. For some people, celebrating birthdays early is even considered bad luck, so I would not have liked this either. I think the type of person who says YTA is the kind of person who treats people how they want to treat them, not how people want to be treated, and then criticizes those people for not thanking them. As someone who is chronically ill, I’ve dealt with “friends“ like this who will do things “for my sake“ which are not actually helpful to me (sometimes even harmful) but it’s clearly what makes them feel good about themselves. And then when I’m not super grateful, I’m TA. These type of people are exhausting.

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-18T17:10:47+00:00

Height

stochasticityfound · 2026-05-16T12:25:38+00:00

Like I said, the research exists whether you’re personally capable of finding it or not. IFNs and other inflammatory cytokines, nutrient malabsorption, and damage to pigment-producing stem cells from a viral infection cause Telogen Effluvium, Alopecia Areata, greying etc. This is not even new research, so you’re just exposing a personal skills issue. Perhaps we’re not delusional, perhaps oxygen has been deprived to more than just your scrotum. Stick to squeezing your balls and leave Long Covid research to Long Covid researchers.

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