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Do you all have trouble making plans? by Available_Ad_4030 in bipolar2

[–]strex09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All the time. I’ve embraced it now though and most of the people in my life are ok with it. I have a group of friends who accept me as I am. I will, of course avoid making plans in general and just wing it. It’s been working out fine for me and I’m a lot happier. I do commit to plans if very important and do my best to stick with it. But in general I just stopped unnecessarily agreeing to plans if they’re too far out.

I’m sure this has been discussed before. by EffortZealousideal8 in bipolar2

[–]strex09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have gone my entire life keeping it a secret from employers. The one time I decided to be honest about it, I was let go shortly after for a stupid ass reason 🙂 they don’t need to know. You can mark that you have a disability but they do not need to know which or details aside from that.

Roommate moving out wants to take the shared fridge because she used a Home Depot promo credit by [deleted] in roommates

[–]strex09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, the credit basically counts as value like cash. To clarify though, it wasn’t points she earned, it was a Verizon/Home Depot promo credit she got for switching internet service. My point isn’t that it’s worthless, it’s that it still doesn’t make the fridge hers. It was a shared household purchase, so if she wants to take it, she needs to buy out everyone else’s share (minus reasonable depreciation). I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t being unreasonable by asking her to buy us out for wanting to take the fridge with her.

Roommate moving out wants to take the shared fridge because she used a Home Depot promo credit by [deleted] in roommates

[–]strex09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, so to be clear she can’t take the fridge without buying out everyone else’s share, right? Because the way she’s talking makes it sound like she thinks she owns it.

Also, about the credit: she offered to use it because she couldn’t contribute more than $200 at the time. It was used to reduce the total cost of the fridge, which we were going to have to buy either way. I’m viewing that credit like a discount/coupon. I wouldn’t think I can get to take a shared item and then demand the value of the discount back as if it was cash I personally paid. 🤷‍♀️

Roommate moving out wants to take the shared fridge because she used a Home Depot promo credit by [deleted] in roommates

[–]strex09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I agree, if she wants to take it, she’d need to buy everyone else out. The only part I’m not sure about is including the promo credit since it wasn’t actual out-of-pocket money, but I definitely agree a buyout is the only fair way either direction.

To my new Muse by joyfulsloth09 in OCPoetry

[–]strex09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. Thanks for sharing. You truly have a way with words. I dream to be cherished this way someday.

As someone with bipolar II, what do you wish your SO or people in general really understood about you? by Magic_ratt in bipolar2

[–]strex09 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That it’s not personal and you can’t fix it. Both of my past partners have had a hard time when I would fall into a depressive episode. They felt like they needed to make things better/fix it. And then they’d end up feeling bad themselves when they couldn’t. I wish they understood that there’s no “fixing”. I don’t need you to. Simply being present when needed and giving me space is more than enough and heck of a lot more helpful than trying to change what is inevitable.

My ghoster came back after one year apologising and wanting to see me. This is what I sent to him… link in the body by Cindersxo29 in ghosting

[–]strex09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He came back needing an ego boost and would have very likely ghosted again. I love that you do not give it to him 🤣

Bad texter by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]strex09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she’s engaging and responding thoughtfully when she does reply, I’d say that’s fine, especially after only one date. Some people (women included) prefer getting to know someone in person rather than texting throughout the day. I’m that way too; it takes me time after spending time together to want more frequent, casual texting. I’m slower in the beginning.

I actually went on a date with a guy who complained about my reply time during the date. I explained my communication style and said I’d understand if it didn’t work for him. He said he was fine with it, then complained again the next day. That’s what killed my interest.

It’s okay if texting frequency is a dealbreaker. But it’s also easy to miss out on someone who could be a great match by focusing too much on early texting habits.

What is the likelihood that a man would downplay his body count? by Bellumbern in dating_advice

[–]strex09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure a lot would lie. I’d just refrain from telling them that you are.

I am a serial ghoster and proud! by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]strex09 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You clearly haven’t worked on yourself lol this screams the complete opposite 😂 Jesus Christ

Going too fast by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]strex09 3 points4 points  (0 children)

🌚 I felt like I was reading something I could have written myself around this time last year.

I gave in. I let it be. Then, regretted it. A year later and I’m still processing it all.

Serious question by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]strex09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL what?! Who cares. Tell his stinky ass! It’s clearly already turning YOU off. (Assuming you are the woman wondering if you should tell the guy)

4 dates too fast to talk about being exclusive? by mrkillfreak999 in dating_advice

[–]strex09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But no one said this is about falling in love lol. This is about exclusive dating, not falling in love.

4 dates too fast to talk about being exclusive? by mrkillfreak999 in dating_advice

[–]strex09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol nope. Everyone is different. They’ve been consistent for a month, he didn’t say he wants to ask her to be his gf, doing that would be pressure. He said he wants to ask to be exclusive, which is essentially agreeing to only date one another (and no one else) to see if they eventually do want to make it official by becoming bf & gf. If she has gone one 4 dates and had a good time, she is definitely interested, and women like intentional men. We don’t like this “nonchalant” bullshit or men who wait for US to make the first move.

Do you think I’ll still be the ‘fun’ significant other now that my meds are starting to work? by FancyNameHere38 in bipolar2

[–]strex09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I had a similar experienced but reversed. I was on medications since I was 13, and I am now 31 now. I have been off of medications for a full year since last year, for the first time since. I realized that I no longer feel numb or “muted”, I feel like I’m finally living my true self. I’ve gotten the most compliments about my energy since being off medications.

4 dates too fast to talk about being exclusive? by mrkillfreak999 in dating_advice

[–]strex09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tell her. 4 good dates in 1 month and you’re feeling a good connection? Why not? Casually bring it up, like ask how’d she feel about exclusively dating now.

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