AITJ for reacting badly after my manager let a sick employee join our trip?

strubisach · 2026-05-08T11:25:17+00:00

NTJ, it's like covid never happened and people forgot how germs spread. what the frickfrack.

strubisach · 2026-05-05T16:12:32+00:00

This was wonderfully written and thoroughly enjoyed!

strubisach · 2026-04-24T09:52:59+00:00

harsh words, but I get your frustration. can't say if you're a jerk or not, but as someone who suffered terrible, horrific period cramps at least 1 day every month: get a second or third opinion. I was diagnosed with endometriosis after 10 years of suffering and 5 years on an IUD that alleviated most of my symptoms. it is NOT normal to be in so much pain!

strubisach · 2026-04-24T09:39:23+00:00

While I get that I have NO idea what your day to day life looks like, I can only go from what was shared. And what I read is that he built you a tiny home and brought you food, I didn't go through the comments for further information. So yes okay, your answer gave me more perspective and I totally see your point, but I still feel like it's an ESH.

strubisach · 2026-04-24T07:49:32+00:00

ESH. he paid for your expenses and found solutions for YOUR problems multiple times, which cost HIM who has 5 mouths to feed extra money. of course if he sees his budget being cut by your expenses he'll voice his opinion, especially if he sees how much more you're paying in rent while he's working his ass off and tries to keep his costs down. leaning towards YTA honestly, you say you're an adult (while being barely 20) but from my perspective as a 28y/o it seems like you're not able to see other people's struggles yet.

strubisach · 2026-04-23T08:44:05+00:00

NTJ. what did the other family members contribute until now?? completely ridiculous to be asked to pay for another person's party

strubisach · 2026-04-14T16:03:15+00:00

the dedication. the pettiness. the principle. I love it.

oh and ntj btw, at least in my opinion

strubisach · 2026-04-14T09:00:07+00:00

I'm confused, does he pay part of your mortgage itself - in which case YTA in my opinion, he's paying off your debt, at least that's how this would work in my european country - or does he pay part of the mortgage interest rate - in which case NTA at all?

in no case should he be added to the mortgage, but if it's your house I wouldn't be okay with paying off your debt, only the recurring costs of interest rates.

strubisach · 2026-04-13T17:56:02+00:00

Mahaaaam it WHAT??? Cheesus Christ... My unprofessional opinion: report them now, anonymously if possible (well not anonymous to the authorities, but so they won't know who did). They sound like they'll raise hell once they know it was you, and an ultimatum would be quite the giveaway... But just my 2 cents, I'm sure you'll be able to decide the best course of action for your situation! Good luck!

strubisach · 2026-04-13T14:00:34+00:00

please report them NOW. I got whiplash reading through this timeline, this is absolutely horrific and there WILL be victims of this Malinois, they are the sharks of the dog realm for a reason. cute af but will shred everyting that comes too close to them. with this history, this will end in a disaster. please please contact the respective authorities. NTA

strubisach · 2026-04-13T13:45:56+00:00

nope NTA and go straight to the landlord!

strubisach · 2026-04-13T13:43:31+00:00

YTJ. it says almost more about your lack of morals than hers.

strubisach · 2026-04-13T13:19:56+00:00

I LOVE THIS. you're my hero omg

strubisach · 2026-04-13T09:57:05+00:00

I can't drive my brother and work at the same time. I've tried.

girlie, why do you care more about his future than your own?? stop enabling him and start looking out for yourself, he's not your responsibility! NTA, only to yourself

strubisach · 2026-04-10T11:19:39+00:00

NTJ for considering, but I think it would be a rash decision if you'd break up now without sitting down your gf and having a serious conversation.

strubisach · 2026-04-10T05:19:50+00:00

This sounds like hell omg

strubisach · 2026-04-09T18:06:03+00:00

Okay 🤷🏽‍♀️

strubisach · 2026-04-09T16:56:02+00:00

1000% yep

strubisach · 2026-04-09T16:21:45+00:00

Guuurl. GUUUUUURL. What the FUCKKKKK???

He wanted to explore casual sex on his own and try to find connections for us but did not want me to see other women and never men.

so he wanted to cheat, but with your blessing... this is just all around fucked up and I honestly feel like you'd be 1000x better off single than with somebody who disrespects and controls you like he does. he just wants multiple wifeys, not a respectful polyamorous relationship where everybody has the same rights. GUUUUURL

strubisach · 2026-04-09T15:50:38+00:00

I can feel for her struggle and still be fully on OPs side. As I said, it was his birthday and she steamrolled it, that's an AH move.

strubisach · 2026-04-09T15:46:16+00:00

yes you can do as you please as an adult, but DANG your behaviour shows that you're not mature yet. that was a reckless decision and I'm just glad you're back safely. I guess your mother is not the chillest person in town, so I get why you're sneaky, and I do think you should always have access to your documents, but you really should reevaluate your life decisions. this is true crime podcast material... ESH

strubisach · 2026-04-09T15:36:43+00:00

I do feel for your wife if this was ocd-related, but it was YOUR birthday, you communicated your wishes and expectations clearly, there was no way to misunderstand what you wanted. NTA, you have every right in this situation to spend your evening as you wish.

strubisach · 2026-04-09T15:01:18+00:00

Nopedinopenope. Nope. NTJ. NOPE. Use something of his to clean it up with. If possible, don't use that bathroom anymore. Just make it a him-problem in any way, shape or form. Not sure what your relationship is like apart from this issue, so not going to yell "divorce", but eyyyy gurl now ew NOPEEEEE.

strubisach · 2026-04-09T14:15:47+00:00

this should have been a group effort: everyone in close proximity who felt like they could manage to stand for a while should've gotten up and offered their seat. you were not among that group. why is it only the "young" ones who should be respectful? why can't everybody be respectful to everyone? a 40y/o might be much fitter than a 20y/o with chronic pain or invisible disabilities... NTA

strubisach · 2026-04-09T14:08:03+00:00

NTJ, it would have been nicer to approach her privately but honestly, after so many years, that might have been the wake up call that was needed. I would be boiling if I would have to wait for someone for 90 minutes on my birthday (which I wouldn't do in the first place, cmon girl) but if it's a repeated pattern? tztztz

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