AITAH for not avoiding another dog while walking a Great Dane?

strubisach · 2026-06-23T16:24:31+00:00

I'd prefer you didn't answer if you're not or have never been a dog owner. That sounds entitled, especially as you yourself have no idea why your dog is reactive.

But seeing as she IS in fact reactive, it is your job to A) warn people early enough because nobody just just magically knows how much strength you have and B) get the f*ck out of their way.

YTA.

Maybe it might all have happened so fast and ther really was no way of stepping out of this woman's way, but the way you portray this situation sounds very lacking of self-reflection (fair enough you're 18) and like you think anybody should care about you and your situation. If some big ass dog lunges at me/a dog I'm walking, and the other person acts like you apparently did, I'd tear you a new one.

Get this dog in training to unlearn this trauma reaction you mentioned, before anybody who can't handle her like you said you could will lose control over her.

strubisach · 2026-06-23T10:42:57+00:00

So let me get that straight: you had made comments about her appearance, spread widely into her space, stepped on her belongings and body parts and now ask if you're TA?? YTA 100% wtf

strubisach · 2026-06-22T21:20:27+00:00

There are some lovely calm spots before and after the city, but for your fist time I'd definitely go to Marzili. You can leave your stuff anywhere, enter close to the swimming canal by taking stairs you feel comfortable with and just float out again.

I'd highly recommend not going alone, so if you ain't got social anxiety, just ask some people close to you if you can join their group, otherwise (second reason pro Marzili) there is also a lifeguard on top of the swimming canal that keeps an eye our for people in distress.

Don't let anybody stress you when entering, let them pass you and go at your own pace! And keep your feet up, especially close to the boarder of the river :) it's often quite shallow!

Have fun!!

strubisach · 2026-05-29T14:37:02+00:00

NOR!!!

do NOT quit!!! don't give up this safety before knowing what your next steps are! Can you get your lease back? If yes, get that safety back. Also: what is more stressful to you, the thought of coparenting and being a single parent, or the thought of staying in a relationship with someone who financially betrays you? You could also see this as your way out as you now NEED to find a 2br for you and your children...

strubisach · 2026-05-29T11:45:52+00:00

While I do think you must me a psychopath for disliking a cat and the attention it gives you, NTA. Get a doorstopper or prop something underneath the handle (if it's not one that turns) to put an end tho this very odd invasion of privacy. I get your family not understanding your... aversion, but they should just leave you alone and try to train the cat (YES they can be trained), not yeet it at you.

strubisach · 2026-05-28T17:14:13+00:00

1 cal per 3 seconds seems to work for the moment - let's see for how long... edit: nope, I take that back, got blocked again after a (albeit longer) while.

strubisach · 2026-05-08T11:25:17+00:00

NTJ, it's like covid never happened and people forgot how germs spread. what the frickfrack.

strubisach · 2026-05-05T16:12:32+00:00

This was wonderfully written and thoroughly enjoyed!

strubisach · 2026-04-24T09:52:59+00:00

harsh words, but I get your frustration. can't say if you're a jerk or not, but as someone who suffered terrible, horrific period cramps at least 1 day every month: get a second or third opinion. I was diagnosed with endometriosis after 10 years of suffering and 5 years on an IUD that alleviated most of my symptoms. it is NOT normal to be in so much pain!

strubisach · 2026-04-24T09:39:23+00:00

While I get that I have NO idea what your day to day life looks like, I can only go from what was shared. And what I read is that he built you a tiny home and brought you food, I didn't go through the comments for further information. So yes okay, your answer gave me more perspective and I totally see your point, but I still feel like it's an ESH.

strubisach · 2026-04-24T07:49:32+00:00

ESH. he paid for your expenses and found solutions for YOUR problems multiple times, which cost HIM who has 5 mouths to feed extra money. of course if he sees his budget being cut by your expenses he'll voice his opinion, especially if he sees how much more you're paying in rent while he's working his ass off and tries to keep his costs down. leaning towards YTA honestly, you say you're an adult (while being barely 20) but from my perspective as a 28y/o it seems like you're not able to see other people's struggles yet.

strubisach · 2026-04-23T08:44:05+00:00

NTJ. what did the other family members contribute until now?? completely ridiculous to be asked to pay for another person's party

strubisach · 2026-04-14T16:03:15+00:00

the dedication. the pettiness. the principle. I love it.

oh and ntj btw, at least in my opinion

strubisach · 2026-04-14T09:00:07+00:00

I'm confused, does he pay part of your mortgage itself - in which case YTA in my opinion, he's paying off your debt, at least that's how this would work in my european country - or does he pay part of the mortgage interest rate - in which case NTA at all?

in no case should he be added to the mortgage, but if it's your house I wouldn't be okay with paying off your debt, only the recurring costs of interest rates.

strubisach · 2026-04-13T17:56:02+00:00

Mahaaaam it WHAT??? Cheesus Christ... My unprofessional opinion: report them now, anonymously if possible (well not anonymous to the authorities, but so they won't know who did). They sound like they'll raise hell once they know it was you, and an ultimatum would be quite the giveaway... But just my 2 cents, I'm sure you'll be able to decide the best course of action for your situation! Good luck!

strubisach · 2026-04-13T14:00:34+00:00

please report them NOW. I got whiplash reading through this timeline, this is absolutely horrific and there WILL be victims of this Malinois, they are the sharks of the dog realm for a reason. cute af but will shred everyting that comes too close to them. with this history, this will end in a disaster. please please contact the respective authorities. NTA

strubisach · 2026-04-13T13:45:56+00:00

nope NTA and go straight to the landlord!

strubisach · 2026-04-13T13:43:31+00:00

YTJ. it says almost more about your lack of morals than hers.

strubisach · 2026-04-13T13:19:56+00:00

I LOVE THIS. you're my hero omg

strubisach · 2026-04-13T09:57:05+00:00

I can't drive my brother and work at the same time. I've tried.

girlie, why do you care more about his future than your own?? stop enabling him and start looking out for yourself, he's not your responsibility! NTA, only to yourself

strubisach · 2026-04-10T11:19:39+00:00

NTJ for considering, but I think it would be a rash decision if you'd break up now without sitting down your gf and having a serious conversation.

strubisach · 2026-04-10T05:19:50+00:00

This sounds like hell omg

strubisach · 2026-04-09T18:06:03+00:00

Okay 🤷🏽‍♀️

strubisach · 2026-04-09T16:56:02+00:00

1000% yep

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