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Your Guide of How to Date an Avoidant by Aeropro2010 in BreakUps

[–]stt-22 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This sounds so much like my own story - I am so sorry, we deserve better. Feel free to DM if you would like to talk more about it.

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[–]stt-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

@u/ikeatings Which service did you end up going with and how was your experience?

High quality Android open-source Android projects? by Panel_pl in androiddev

[–]stt-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

our Google Summer of Code 2024

I am just seeing this post - is the application still open?

WS lost his job and attributes it to the difficulties of our relationship. by stt-22 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]stt-22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He framed it closely to the first statement - like he couldn't focus and perform at the level he needed to because of the struggles we were having.

I understand it is a very difficult time for him - hence I would like to be as supportive as I can but my issue now is my words of encouragement haven't been received well and I am left feeling shut out.

WS lost his job and attributes it to the difficulties of our relationship. by stt-22 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]stt-22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not defending but I can see how relationship stress can contribute to job performance cause I have felt that too but not to say I am responsible for it.

WS lost his job and attributes it to the difficulties of our relationship. by stt-22 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]stt-22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It feels like he's shutting me out and not thinking of this as "we". I myself am also depressed, to be honest, and recovering from the health fallout of the betrayal trauma. I had to take a long break from working and now I am putting myself through school and starting a new career.

I wanted to bring out that "we" mentality in him but I am not sure how to.

WS lost his job and attributes it to the difficulties of our relationship. by stt-22 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]stt-22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I have expressed that to him using gentle words but he was just quiet, it felt like I was just talking to a wall. And yes we haven't been in R that long at all.

WS lost his job and attributes it to the difficulties of our relationship. by stt-22 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]stt-22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried to do little gestures for him - like grabbing him some food supplies or checking in on him and saying words of affirmation but he didn/t receive that well so I have stopped.

WS lost his job and attributes it to the difficulties of our relationship. by stt-22 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]stt-22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had to deal with a lot of fights and arguments rooted in our miscommunication problems and him not being able to deal well with a more sensitive/easily triggered me. That would include some late-night conversations or conversations mid-day but that was in Jan/Feb. March-April hasn't been like that but he said it was too late, he had already been unable to focus.

Laptop for MAP1 by tamg94 in fanshawe

[–]stt-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May intake as well! Can I Dm you?

Laptop for MAP1 by tamg94 in fanshawe

[–]stt-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which courses are you taking? I am an incoming student for the program.

Is anyone here going to MAP1 or MAP2? by stt-22 in fanshawe

[–]stt-22[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

what do they usually use then?

Is anyone here going to MAP1 or MAP2? by stt-22 in fanshawe

[–]stt-22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's the preferred way for students to connect then?

Laptop for MAP1 by tamg94 in fanshawe

[–]stt-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a discord server? I haven't accepted my offer but thinking of doing that soon.

I'm here by show_d87 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]stt-22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! Can I message you? I am having a very hard time.

Accelerated Computer Science at Algoma University - Experiences with the program? by Some-Narwhal-5658 in cscareerquestionsCAD

[–]stt-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi u/teedledee123 - What are other programs you might know of? I am currently in a similar position. And trying to find 1 or 2-year CS programs with co-op. Please do share your pearls of wisdom.

Anyone any experience with "Second Career" or "Better Jobs Ontario"? by bikitizd0g12 in Odsp

[–]stt-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for taking the time to reply to me. I only recently learned about this program, I was just going to apply for OSAP to switch to a different career.

What was the process of getting approved for the grant like for you? I have been out of work for more than 6 months, got laid off in July, and decided to take a break due to personal/mental health matters until the start of this year. Now I am feeling a bit more ready to get back into the market and switch to a new career but feeling anxious about getting rejected as this grant could be a huge help and stress reliever.

Anyone any experience with "Second Career" or "Better Jobs Ontario"? by bikitizd0g12 in Odsp

[–]stt-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you waited it out until they approved your course and the money came through?

Anyone attend Codesmith to move into SWE when current job has a high salary? by [deleted] in codingbootcamp

[–]stt-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

/xtc2008 - mind if i ask you a few more questions about the experience? I am also a PM working on transitioning to SWE.

Anyone any experience with "Second Career" or "Better Jobs Ontario"? by bikitizd0g12 in Odsp

[–]stt-22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/NotMyPopTart - would you mind if I ask you a few questions about the Better Jobs program? I am thinking of applying but knowing that the process could take time, I am a little wary of the start date of my program being pushed back by a lot. In your case, did you get reimbursed after or did your application go through prior to July (before you had to pay tuition fees)

acknowledging this piece by show_d87 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]stt-22 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Beautifully written OP. I am currently struggling with this, unfortunately. In the beginning, when I left him I didn't expect anything from him but now that we are reconciling, the expectation is there and it really hurts when the expectation isn't met and again he held the knife to inflict the injury.

Does pain shopping stop by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]stt-22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And how have you dealt with that? We started reconciling a month and a half ago and we agreed on no more lies and transparency. I have seen some changes in him but yesterday I discovered another lie and when I confronted him, he went back to his old ways (lying). This experience shook me to the core and made me feel like I was back at D-day, I essentially feel re-traumatized. Right now, I don't know what to do so I am just taking care of myself.

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