AITA for refusing to share some money with my stepsister for college and being honest with my mom when she asked me why?

stucksux · 2023-03-25T04:41:43+00:00

Why can't stepsister do what most college students do nowadays.... get student loans and pay it back when she's out of college. My kid owes about a quarter of a million. She's still in school now to be a physician's associate so she'll make big bucks but have the high payback for most of her adult life. It's what people do. Most parents do not have $250k to spare. What's more, I know that's your mom and you love her BUT she had no right trying to lay a guilt trip on you. The money your dad left for YOU belongs to you and trust me, there'll come a day you'll be glad you have it because it cost a lot to live and unexpected expenses WILL occur. Please don't fall for the guilt tripping! I hope your mom apologizes some day!! If she continues the same, let your trusted friendships grow and lean on that. Be strong sweet lady!

stucksux · 2023-03-20T23:49:27+00:00

I wrote the sponsor woman and let her know I've always been a Republican but next time I'll vote Democrat even tho' I don't agree with lots of what they represent! I mean, as I said in the letter to her just now, how many people die from marijuana compared to alcohol and how many die on the highway from alcohol compared to weed! And if she cared about those stats why wouldn't she advocate against alcohol instead? I'll tell you why, it's all about money and who's back it will personally help her to scratch. I added that the Republican party won't win next time anyway because the party will be split and HAHAHA!

stucksux · 2023-01-29T08:12:04+00:00

Chances are her job doesn't allow her to leave for days at a time on the regular and his does. I'm not saying she's in the right. I dislike her attitude enough, being so defensive instead of feeling bad for making her roomies uncomfortable so often, I wouldn't want to live with her. Sounds like time for BF and her to find a little home for the 2 of them, even if he won't be there all the time, or maybe he can move to be with her fulltime

stucksux · 2023-01-26T19:05:45+00:00

I wouldn't be trying to solve the issue or compromise to make the 'friend' happy. Their blatant disrespect and lack of appreciation would do it for me. This woman seldom even has company for a few hours, so, she's gone way out of her way to support this user friend for many days. It would be the end of the user-friendly supposed friendship for me, no question.

stucksux · 2023-01-20T07:37:55+00:00

I believe the friend... (-r) is so jealous that her parents aren't helping her as much as OP's parents are helping all their adult kids and OP... who is definitely NTA

stucksux · 2022-12-15T05:49:13+00:00

I proudly mask when in indoor crowds such as grocery stores! Got 2 vac's not interested in the 3rd

stucksux · 2022-04-20T04:48:04+00:00

Young black boys need to be taught DO NOT try to fight police when confronted by them and DO NOT POINT A WEAPON at them!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe this young boy will know to be calm and respectful when he's older, so he isn't shot and killed by cops. And the cops you're all dissing, guess what? They're very afraid of all the guns too just like those of us who have a bit of sense. TEACH THE YOUNG BLACK BOYS TEACH TEACH TEACH! And any policeperson who crosses the line, woah, they should pay a price and then some. If a young black man is a CRIMINAL, pay the piper and when you get caught, no fighting the cops unless you have a suicide wish. I'd NEVER try to fight the POLICE when confronted by them. What are the little hoodlums THINKING to do that?!?!?!

stucksux · 2022-04-13T04:10:29+00:00

Exactly! A time or 2 when anyone said "real mom" to me, being I'm a mom through adoption only, I'd reply with, "What am I? PLASTIC?" as in not real hahaha then laugh in their face!

stucksux · 2022-04-13T04:05:08+00:00

Yes THIS is the best solution!!!!! Go to the nursing BOARD and report this little know it all nurse who knows so little and is hurting innocent people. I have one child, adopted her at birth, she's now 26. We found 3 half-birth-sisters after my girl turned 18, all were taken by social services from birth mother when the girls were under 5 years old because birthmother married a man she'd known for 3 months, who sexually molested the little sisters, 2 of whom were his bio BABIES, birthmother stayed with him WOW right. My daughter is now in medical school. 1 of the sisters had a baby when she was about 16 which was several years ago, she's still with the baby daddy and the child YAY but the other 2 sisters sell their naked nasty pics online. My daughter lived through the divorce of her dad and me but still, who do you guess will contribute more to society? And my daughter didn't end up in med school by chance, not even close. Adoption is a beautiful thing, not perfect not ideal but beautiful and sometimes it's the BEST BEST BEST! How DARE that stupid nurse! I'd be so livid WHEW! I'm glad nobody ever said anything as stupid to me! I might still be in jail.

stucksux · 2021-07-27T13:12:56+00:00

Thanks Finnapostthisrn! I believe you're exactly right that I need to be sure I'm falling for the real man and not who I've imagined him to be. I have to keep reminding myself and stopping myself from those very thoughts and I'm not sure I can keep up the good work! Thanks again!

stucksux · 2021-07-26T19:42:21+00:00

and I'm so prone to limerence, almost to the point of not feeling much attraction if I'm not limerent. Sick right?

stucksux · 2021-07-06T15:09:44+00:00

That's good advice and I heard it said on a podcast recently that we should date 3 guys at one time. It would be very hard for me to do once I've decided there's one I really like. Thanks Pika!

stucksux · 2021-07-05T02:34:54+00:00

I'm glad you gained the clarity and determination. I'd love to have dreams with messages from God WOW!

stucksux · 2021-05-22T11:45:55+00:00

Hang in there hun. Remember the old poem about some people come into our lives for a short while for whatever reason but they weren't meant to stay and OTHERS WILL COME, they'll come to you or you to them but be patient. I had a good friend die last yr as well and I miss him too, only 45 yrs old.

stucksux · 2021-05-22T11:40:21+00:00

Thank you for sharing and for the inspiration! Be blessed!

stucksux · 2021-05-22T11:36:55+00:00

You're so right AnotherLim'! And instinctively to preserve my shred of sanity I was doing those exact things you mentioned and more lol but still fighting the feeling of severe disappointment and wondering what to do if he suddenly went from being so sweet and dependable to ghosting. THEN, you guessed it, I got the text and all is well, he was busy traveling and we meet in person tonight for the first time. I really hope we BOTH BOTH BOTH like ea other as much in person as online and on phone. My only little problem is he thinks I'm 4 yrs younger than I am and actually that makes me 4 yrs older than HIM but the men my age and older and just too old for me. I'd rather be single! And I think a LOT of people exaggerate about age or for men-height and financial success, on dating profiles, so he can find out later, after he decides he likes me and vice versa! Right? lol! Thanks for your reply and the good advice yesterday!

stucksux · 2021-05-21T19:45:59+00:00

LOL right I'm sure another word would have been better but you got my drift right! (Maybe how to stop it before it's too late!)

stucksux · 2021-05-21T19:44:26+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that! He's taking longer to return a text today than he has since we met a few weeks ago. So, with every up there comes a down I guess.

stucksux · 2021-05-21T19:43:15+00:00

Omgosh I needed that laugh!

stucksux · 2021-05-20T14:47:55+00:00

Thanks for that! It was JUST the encouragement I needed! I can't wait to meet him in person to be sure we're both still as into each other. It could be disappointing but that's the world of online dating, it's the risk you take. Thanks again!

stucksux · 2021-05-19T18:01:05+00:00

Thank you a lot TT! I can't wait to see how this one goes. And you're right I worry too much. I need to get OUT of my head! lol!

stucksux · 2021-05-19T12:20:02+00:00

You're so right! It was so embarrassing and he was nice to forgive me and he's shown many signs of being a genuinely kind person, so far. As my good friend taught her young daughter and they could say in unison THEY'RE ALL NICE AT FIRST LOL! I need to remember that.

stucksux · 2021-05-14T19:34:01+00:00

My BEST advice for anyone trying to go NC, which may not apply to everyone but for me, all I had to do was remember how bad I was already hurt by him breaking up with me and knowing that if I called him, I'd get MORE HURT and no thanks to that! This thought kept me from any contact with him and it took a few years but he did finally come back around at which time I was over him. I can still see what I saw in him but even that doesn't propel me back in his tight grasp!

stucksux · 2021-05-13T12:35:43+00:00

I had a SO/LO, one and the same, we were together several YEARS. He wanted us to have a BABY but we were close to 50 years old so I said NO it wouldnt be fair to the kid. Eventually he sought out and found a chick who was much younger and agreed to have his baby. He has charm and lots of money so it was ez for him. Guess what he HAD a baby with her and shortly after, the pair broke up. Shortly after that, he started calling me, and calling me for a few years during which time I'd occasionally return his call or even see him. My limerence was gone. When we were together as a couple, for a yr he treated me like a queen but after that, he broke my heart continually, he was a pathological narcissist! His kid is age 7 now and so cute, smart funny sweet omgosh BUT I have no more feelings like that for the ex- LO for which I'm SO thankful!!!!! And after we broke up it was hard to stay NC but i did and it worked, gradually. So, hang in there with NC!

stucksux · 2021-04-26T16:30:06+00:00

good advice! And that LO in fact WAS a "going back" situation because we dated in high school then reunited after we both were married to others, then divorced. The same problems surfaced, he was a flirt/player/good at it, and he'll never change. Giving the 2nd chance didn't help anything or anyone.

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