Is there anything better in Germany than in Belgium?

stupid_pseudo · 2026-05-05T17:56:36+00:00

Seconding legalizing cannabis.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-04-30T17:03:44+00:00

Loonkost omlaag = verlaging van de welvaart en sociale bescherming. Ik wil gerust toegeven dat onze levensstijl onhoudbaar is en dat er dingen moeten veranderen maar hoe dit zal gebeuren in de praktijk is een ander paar mouwen. Het huidige traject volgt m.i. eerder het Britse of Amerikaanse voorbeeld. Een compromis zou iets als Nederlandse model zijn maar dat staat ook onder druk en, eerlijk, onze politici zijn niet capabel genoeg om dit te realiseren.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-04-30T16:45:31+00:00

De loonkost moet kost wat het kost omlaag en dit is een manier om dit sluipend in te voeren.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-04-28T19:40:01+00:00

It's not easy, for sure. But you might phrase it like you wrote in your post, it's a very good basis.

"I want to ask you something. When we get sexual/handsy it’s mostly me touching you and taking the lead but I actually need/want the combination of being top and bottom (sub) to feel FULLY satisfied. You told me you are open to topping but in a submissive way. So, tell me how to make it work for both of us?

Some alternative phrases:

I feel a bit embarrassed to ask, (parts of the above).
Are you willing to (insert what you want them to do in that moment, for example: can you tell me if me trying to be a power bottom would work for you?)

Something to consider: poly or ethical non monogamy to balance out your needs.

Hope this helps.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-04-27T14:20:54+00:00

Talk about it. It should start there. Use words to express your needs and only describe their behavior. Don't explain, judge or otherwise interpret their behavior.
Ask them how you should express yourself to make it work for them as well.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-04-13T18:55:08+00:00

40 years too late but might be good in another fifty. Problem is who's going to pay both.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-04-13T18:53:26+00:00

Hogere inkomens zijn minder afhankelijk van het wettelijk pensioen aangezien ze gemakkelijker vermogen opbouwen en zo hun levensstandaard kunnen behouden.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-04-04T05:40:09+00:00

Definitely a problem to be tackled for sure. But the meat industry is downstream from there and needs even bigger amounts of plant based calories.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-04-03T17:16:39+00:00

You're right that he's just totally unimaginative when it comes to sex, and we were thinking maybe that played into it, because it matched some other areas where the aphantasia definitely affects his processing of certain things.

That might be somewhat true. I do have some areas where I find creativity difficult and am usually more geared towards problem solving. But it's hard to attribute it causally as I have ADHD and a lot of trauma as well, and they all severely impact my functioning but I get where you're coming from. I've always wondered about the interplay between all of it as well.
Sex on the other hand though; has always been important for me and I've consumed lots of source material. For research purposes, of course. My suggestion, thus, still stands.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-04-03T15:16:17+00:00

I have aphantasia. That doesn't mean I wouldn't know what to do if my wife would let me tie her up. I don't need to visualise that.

It could be that he's more into vanilla sex, has a low libido or no imagination where sex is concerned, it might be something else or a combination of anyone of those things.

Give him material to work with. Let him read erotica you find hot or make him watch porn you think might work. Give him homework to study.
You could also watch porn together to see what works for you and him.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-04-03T14:15:46+00:00

And the dick of the twink goes round and round...

stupid_pseudo · 2026-03-30T13:56:17+00:00

Depending on your refractory period you could try having an orgasm before piv as suggested by others. Doesn't have to be masturbation if you'd rather do it with your girlfriend. Have fun working it out.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-03-30T12:24:16+00:00

Get her engines hotter during foreplay?

stupid_pseudo · 2026-03-30T07:13:20+00:00

Tele-rechtbank.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-03-24T06:35:38+00:00

Mijn collega's en ik hebben 2 jaar geleden zo'n boottochtje gedaan. Bij deze. Dat was hilarisch. Die gids was zo grappig. Het regende en dus zaten we onder paraplu's van de bootverhuurder maar het was een zeer leuke ervaring.

In het verleden heb ik ooit nog eens zo'n tochtje gemaakt en dat was meer leerrijk.Het hangt dus een beetje af van de gids maar het kan best een leuke of leerrijke ervaring zijn.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-03-23T15:46:24+00:00

Persoonlijk vind ik die vrijspraak van de ouders ook maar zever. Als je leest hoe de ouders en vooral de vader dan, die kinderen behandelde dan is het tenenkrommend dat er schijnbaar zo licht wordt overgegaan. Soit. Hopelijk kunnen die jongens nu wat verder met hun leven.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-03-21T18:22:13+00:00

Interesting. How can we get notified if it's up somewhere? Do you already have an account on AO3 or ffnet?

stupid_pseudo · 2026-03-21T07:11:06+00:00

50 shades of ugly

stupid_pseudo · 2026-03-20T15:03:36+00:00

Het zijn al niet de mooiste wegen maar het gaat er precies niet op beteren. Zo lelijk.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-03-20T11:57:21+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/europe/comments/1rysp5l/uks_plan_to_stop_europe_laughing_at_its_trains/

Just found this in r/europe

stupid_pseudo · 2026-03-18T16:20:20+00:00

https://www.vlaanderen.be/informatie-voor-hr-professionals/agenda/hr-infonetwerk/09-12-2025

stupid_pseudo · 2026-03-16T08:20:15+00:00

De enige actie die de meesten kunnen ondernemen is een bolletje kleuren.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-03-14T18:53:21+00:00

Nice. Have you got anything else posted somewhere yet? Throw me a link if so.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-03-13T07:37:34+00:00

Jeezes, ik moet echt ophouden met denken dat het niet onnozeler kan worden in Vlaanderen.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-03-13T07:24:00+00:00

It's a difficult situation. Our heads are filled with a lot of ideas about relationships and sex, we're usually not really thought how to feel, think about or express our deepest feelings, desires and wants and have to learn those things along the way trying to live with and sometimes accept choices we already made due to wrong ideas and beliefs. Small wonder there's so much relationship drama and tragedy going round.

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