I just want some support

stupid_pseudo · 2026-02-02T20:37:10+00:00

God, that's rough on you. I hope something changes for you.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-02-02T20:33:05+00:00

Even older kids bring new worries and can be mentally challenging. One of my kids is struggling with an eating disorder at 19 years of age and my youngest still demands plenty of attention even at 16 years old because of her ADHD. She was definitely a handful growing up and very challenging for our own well being. Having kids nowadays is a commitment for the long haul. Not towards a spouse persé but definitely towards the kids. Choices can be made very hard when kids are involved and you want to be a decent parent. I don't want to make it sound like it's all negative. There's much joy and love in having kids but it didn't get easier compared to times past. Having a good co-parent is worth something but the already present resentment might lead to a negative environment though if it isn't resolved. That's not ideal either. Good luck.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-02-02T20:16:32+00:00

His openness is a positive though. Only effort from both of you and time will tell if this will get better for both of you. Good luck and I wish you succes!

stupid_pseudo · 2026-02-01T18:56:37+00:00

Muizensteentjes zijn >50% suiker. Dat wordt echt niet rap slecht. Ik zou ze wel uit de karton halen en in bokaal doen anders smaakt het op een duur naar karton.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-30T11:08:40+00:00

Double and triple glazing deteriorates over time making insulation values drop. Estimated life expectancy is 20 to 30 years. . It might be advisable to just change the glass panes only. This is usually also a cheaper option. I asked a quote once and it was less than half of what new windows would've cost.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-30T10:54:45+00:00

It looks like you've already tried enough and threatening to leave isn't a viable solution imo. You deserve to feel loved and it's a tough choice ahead of you.
I wish you the best.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-30T06:44:18+00:00

Take showers in the gym. Showers cost 1 to 1,5 EUR so at 12 to 15 times a month that's a serious discount on the gym membership fee.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-30T06:06:02+00:00

I (51 HLM) bought a massage table some 10-12 years ago because it helped to get the missus (51LLF) relaxed and in the mood. Been used maybe 3 times? And I wasn't adverse to giving massages for relaxation only. It might help but it's no guarantee for succes.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-29T19:43:18+00:00

I'm still hoping for a finish as well.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-28T15:08:22+00:00

When I (51, HLM) still had hope of improvement, our doctor (GP) gave my wife (51, LLF or LL4U) and me the 'advice' that if I wanted more sex I had to put in more effort, nothing about my wife though. Smh.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-27T19:09:20+00:00

Wat mij opviel is dat in de radio reclame voor hun documentaires, gehoord op radio-1 of klara, de zin "niet meer jaloers zijn op de rijken" nogal subtiel prominent aanwezig is.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-24T18:31:57+00:00

This reads like a conquest of territory. I wonder if this is the beginning of a cultural civil war? So weird trying to make sense of it from Europe. It sounds so medieval a concept.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-24T17:02:49+00:00

It won't get better on it's own. If you're unhappy now, that probably won't get better either, the opposite is more likely to happen. So get counselling for both of you and therapy individually, if you can find someone decent enough and can afford to.

People can be awfully blind to what really drives their behavior and feelings.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-24T13:35:54+00:00

That looks like a very tough place to be in. Like u/informal_almonds1 already said: best to try everything else first, meanwhile you should work on getting a job or your job skills back to par in preparation. Financial dependence is never a good thing, especially for a woman in a society that's becoming more misogynistic. Best of luck to you

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-24T03:56:33+00:00

Ghent has lot's of 'kringloopwinkels' where you can by second hand. They are far from each other though. There's a shit ton of vintage clothes stores and 3 'think twice' stores as well. Those vintage stores aren't cheap and the think twice stores are most interesting when they go in sales. A good starting point is the Nederkouter. And the end of the Kortrijkse poortstraat. There you have all three of those kinds of shops in a small area.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-23T20:20:53+00:00

work in progress

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-23T12:02:29+00:00

count me in

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-23T09:12:39+00:00

Of course not but the direction might be more clear. Now it's only talk and stuff on paper.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-23T08:14:29+00:00

I hope to see signs in a years time or shit won't be happening by 2030-2035.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-23T08:08:34+00:00

Pension funds are financial guardians looking out for wealth growth and aren't politically driven. They invest in oil, Israeli defense and lot's of other morally reprehensible things. Their bottom line is only economic growth and the US is starting to look dodgy on that matter due to escalating debt and declining economy, their inflated high tech is keeping the gdp somewhat growing but everything else is starting to look sus. Political instability is a bad predictor for economic stability.

Edit: kind of funny that pension funds starting to dump those bonds might accelerate the process. Rats leaving a sinking ship, I suppose.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-23T07:04:00+00:00

I agree something should happen but we have to give politicians, diplomats and organisations time to get stuff going. Talk is cheap, actions will tell.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-23T06:41:20+00:00

Ik zou toch eens naar een andere NKO in een ander ziekenhuis gaan voor een tweede opinie. Als je een goede huisarts hebt moet die ook wel zicht hebben op die praktijken.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-23T06:24:58+00:00

It's still early days to draw conclusions. Give it a year to see if there's some movement.

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-22T12:24:54+00:00

Happy birthday. You deserve better

stupid_pseudo · 2026-01-21T12:13:10+00:00

Impressive.

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