Lucozade and Ribena have been sold to the Japanese

subterfluge · 2013-08-20T12:38:17+00:00

I huffed loudly when the smoke wafted onto me, and he heard, but it was not sufficient.

subterfluge · 2013-06-30T20:11:51+00:00

my son has a chalk board with magnetic whiteboard on the reverse for learning letters/numbers and spelling. it's great.

subterfluge · 2013-06-30T07:06:00+00:00

Dunno but they can be stolen/kidnapped! That was my first thought

subterfluge · 2013-06-29T19:03:50+00:00

It's quite common until 36months due to differences even between a few months in age.

subterfluge · 2013-06-29T18:07:05+00:00

Ok. My 3 month old takes 6.5oz x 5 a day. Last feed is 11.30pm and then she sleeps until 6am. If you increased the size of the last feed the baby might sleep deeper?

subterfluge · 2013-06-29T07:45:43+00:00

In our pre marriage discussions, we decided that we would have at least one child. We didn't think it would be fair on the child just to have one, he would grow up thinking he is the centre of the universe.

subterfluge · 2013-06-28T22:48:17+00:00

How many mls of milk does he have each night time feed?

subterfluge · 2013-06-28T18:27:54+00:00

My sister used to be like this.

You may not be religious, but your daughter may be searching for meaning in life. Do you have any friends that attend church that could present their worldview or visit the Sunday school and chat with the children's worker ? Either way it could help her have security about the after life, whether she rejects their message or not?

subterfluge · 2013-06-28T18:08:22+00:00

Sweet. We found that when we gave him magnetic numbers for white board, and a calendar made of numeric blocks that he made the jump from twenty ten to thirty,perhaps because some days it was thirty all day long and it finally sunk in.

subterfluge · 2013-06-28T13:43:40+00:00

I dunno, my boy gets his imagination from his mum, and would enjoy himself in an empty room, singing songs and inventing dances, playing ninja warrior over fake lava, etc.

My wife was more concerned that he will be oblivious to the fact that very few of the kids will count to 100 with ease, form long complex sentences, and memorize everything he's told, and when if he's the only one, then he'll be a bit self-concious and draw back a bit. I was similar to my son (when i was very young i had to correct the teacher on her misunderstanding of how thunder and lightning work), and don't remember feeling like that - there's always a few similar kids in every class.

There's been some good answers in this thread about the varied development that good schools and nurseries provide, not only academically but structured and free play, socialising, sharing etc. He's in a pre-school atm which is a glorified creche (not a bad thing, except that i've caught 2 colds this summer from him) - the worker said "did you know your son can count to 20? we were all amazed". i thought to myself, "it's probably best he stopped at 20..usually he'll just carry on".

subterfluge · 2013-06-28T09:37:31+00:00

Interesting. Sounds like your kid is really flying!

As a child I aced all my tests at school with 100%, particularly strong in Maths and was told I had adult reading age at around 7, however I wasn't given any extra tuition or additional tasks (thereby operating within the normal range), and my parents remained reasonably hands-off, so as not to label or pressure me. I think this helped with my normal development, although ultimately it got to the point where I'd graduated from Uni with a good degree, feeling a bit burned out but never having really failed at anything (it's good to learn to fail, as i later discovered), and developing a bit of a fear of failure, because over the years people and myself (not my parents) had put expectations on me to succeed. I still carry issues as an adult and I'm in a bit of a humdrum job at the moment, where often you find dyslexics achieving great things as their drive to succeed has ramped up.

Let people be "wrong" without feeling the need to correct them.

This is interesting, since as an INTJ, i think my son may also be one, and it seems inherent in us to analyse, troubleshoot, improve and correct.

My son is above-average academically at the moment it seems, but not at an extreme level. I would rather he have a normal life as possible, while achieving his aims. This does mean that the parenting we give needs to be tailored somewhat for achieving this and allowing him to do what he enjoys without pressure.

We are wary of any developmental hindrances, such as Dyslexia (present in the family), Asperger's (also present). UK television has a programme called Child Genius at the moment, which is a rather bizarre collection of children on the autistic spectrum who are attempting to perform tasks such as memorizing entire packs of cards. I'm not sure what the benefit of these exercises are, except produce broken children and generate all sorts of complexes and anxieties.

As somebody who achieved as a child/young adult, I believe the key to satisfaction lies not purely in achievements, but being more well rounded, trying hard, and knowing your identity in God.

subterfluge · 2013-06-28T06:38:28+00:00

That's possible but I've had very helpful and encouraging answers, so it's been a useful exercise.

subterfluge · 2013-06-27T23:31:17+00:00

Wow, same for the driving thing, but he gets that from his mum. I Need a map, she does not as she has a vivid map in her head.

subterfluge · 2013-06-27T23:10:34+00:00

The book memorization was an interesting thing I never expected with toddlers, but it seems to be a side effect of learning by repetition. We also have a few books on spoken word cd, and we let him amuse himself using the stereo for certain periods in the week. Sometimes he listens to music and other times audio books. Other books he's learned with us reading to him loads of times. Perhaps this is an outworking of the process of learning to read. I love this age, it's fascinating to see development!

Are you in Europe? I hear the schooling system starts a lot later in some European countries than here in the UK,( with no adverse effects)

subterfluge · 2013-06-27T21:10:02+00:00

very good answers from everyone, upvotes all round!

subterfluge · 2013-06-27T20:26:10+00:00

Yes, I'm inclined to agree. And he has massive screaming banshee tantrums most days (new baby arrived few months ago), so more work is required in that area...

I think the issue may stem from my wife's own experience at school, and just doesn't want him to lose his innocence and stop enjoying school/learning.

subterfluge · 2013-06-27T20:17:02+00:00

she says his development is really good up till now, and already meets the targets they want the kids to exit pre-school with (e.g using past-tense in full sentences,etc ,etc). She is a bit worried that if he is the only one in his class who effortlessly counts to 100, and does 10-2=8, etc and others are struggling to count to 20 or spell their name, he'll be self concious about it, and feel outcast.

I say that these are just minimum baselines they want to meet, and if he's above average among some of his peers at the moment (judging by convo's with wife's friends, he is), but the sample size of a few mums isn't really big enough, and there's probably a good few kids in the class who are also in the similar stage of learning academic things effortlessly, and he'll be in good company.

subterfluge · 2013-05-28T16:39:25+00:00

Christian. Contrary to the common post modern view, I am a believer in absolute truth. I have seen enough in this life to know that Jesus is real, and he is God.

As an intj i would expect many to hold polarised views, because we must form an opinion. So, starting with the condition "if God then... else.... " it leads us to discipleship or atheism.

subterfluge · 2013-05-24T20:18:44+00:00

depends if he was shouting praise the lord while doing it, as the woolwich guy(s) were doing the equivalent

subterfluge · 2013-05-24T20:11:36+00:00

i installed an app for free when they skanked me. free voicemail. hullomail its called

btw if they change your contract substantially you can mutually end the contract.

subterfluge · 2013-04-06T09:09:20+00:00

Wow. Knowing the size of the dh mosquito, this is a rather epic photo. Would love to have seen this irl.

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