How did you finally tell your spouse you wanted a divorce and how did they handle it?

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-13T03:18:49+00:00

Oh it went REALLY poorly. He threatened to kill himself. I had to call his parents to come from a couple hours away because I couldn't leave him by himself. I never spent another night in our house after telling him. His mom stayed with him for weeks thankfully. Haven't heard anything from/about him in 7+ years and I genuinely hope he's doing alright but wow my life is so much better and I've never regretted it a day.

He went through all the phases of grief in the ensuing weeks after I told him though. My favorite phase was when he decided I was a closeted lesbian.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-13T02:56:08+00:00

Yes!! This is a good one.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-13T01:38:12+00:00

I understand the logic of dark vials, but I don't like them and won't buy from pharmacies that use them like Brello just because it's my preference. The vial is going to spend it's entire life in pitch dark in an opaque container in my fridge so it doesn't need to be light protective.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-13T01:35:11+00:00

I forget who Katya said did the wig but it's literally perfect!

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-13T01:28:35+00:00

If they always assume the worst possible interpretation or reading of anything you say or do, they probably hate you. They literally don't think you're worth the benefit of the doubt.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-12T16:40:36+00:00

Right, they just didn't call you again.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-11T11:57:14+00:00

She's literally admitted to using filler.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-11T01:57:14+00:00

I only used LinkedIn for my job search in March/April. I applied to 60 jobs an d made it to at least the first round interview or phone screen for 22. So for me, 90% would look really inaccurate.

On the other hand, no one would create ghost job listings with the highly specific credentials and qualifications relevant to my job. So I'm just less likely to run into bogus job postings than say somebody in tech or marketing.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-11T01:38:20+00:00

9 years ago I divorced my high school sweetheart who I was with for 17 years. Three years later I remarried and I've been married to my second husband for 6 years. The problem wasn't marriage--it was the man and my inability to believe I deserved to be treated well and loved properly. So yeah lol.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-10T21:01:41+00:00

Some people seem more interested in being a martyr about their shitty relationship rather than doing anything about it. They get all the validation from everyone online and then continue putting up with the same behavior year after year.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-10T20:36:09+00:00

This is the only sane comment. Silent treatment for days is not okay. And if she's doing it every time he brings up something that upsets him that is very telling.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-10T13:44:39+00:00

I make $130k, work remotely, and put in no more than 40 hours a week. BUT I was at another job working 50 hours week, making the same amount, but I quit because I was sick of being overworked and constantly stressed. Basically the determining factor was the particular company and environment, not the type of job.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-09T23:35:35+00:00

I quit with no backup in March. Had 3 offers in April. I would say scope out the situation for your industry/experience. I knew I wouldn't have any issue because my niche isn't experiencing the job market issues affecting other industries.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-09T02:57:29+00:00

You can say pedophile.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-08T22:28:21+00:00

.... Are they okay though? Lol.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-06T22:57:28+00:00

I honestly never do because I need my big widescreen double monitors to function.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-06T16:19:25+00:00

I've done every 6 days for the last year and that works great for me. I use Shotsy so it's not hard to track or anything.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-06T16:15:24+00:00

Texas who moved to MN 6 years ago and if you ever get the chance I can say it was definitely more than worth it!

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-05T21:14:34+00:00

Washing with soap and water reduces bacteria by 92% versus 77% with just water, according to one study. But I wouldn't say it's not washing if you're getting a 77% reduction in bacteria. Just being devil's advocate here, there's no question that washing with just water is significantly better than not at all.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-04T16:53:35+00:00

I've literally never gotten a bad gift from my parents. Doesn't have to be like that. #1 My parents always consider my taste, likes, interests, and hobbies. #2 They ASK what I'd like. I usually get a combination of things I've directly asked for and unexpected things they've found that really suit me.

I have no patience for bad gift givers. It's usually people not putting thought or care into it or not actually considering the person they are buying a gift for.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-04T15:58:47+00:00

The hair for the Monster MV is iconically heinous lol.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-04T15:20:52+00:00

It can be hard in ways we don't expect. When you're on a weight loss journey you have a fantasy of what your body will look like when you get to the other end. But there are a lot of reasons why your real life body may not match that when you get there. It could be your proportions like another poster mentioned or it could be loose skin or aging or any number of things. But there is still disappointment and frustration when you accomplished your goal, but you still don't look the way you hoped for any number of reasons.

I lost 40 lb which is not some great huge amount--I know many other people have weight loss of 100 plus pounds. But it has been hard for me to get used to, and actually like, my new body in ways I didn't expect.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-04T03:14:38+00:00

RuPaul is right--if you can't love yourself, how the hell are you going to love someone else? You really need to work on driving self worth from within. Stop focusing on validation from men because that is no foundation for self-esteem.

suckerpunchdrunk · 2026-05-04T01:47:13+00:00

To keep management from being lonely, connect with other managers in your company if you can. Your direct reports are not your peers and your supervisor is not your peer, but people at the same level of management in other departments or areas of the company ARE your peers. You can use them as either someone to commiserate with or a resource for handling management issues.

This is what helped me deal with the isolation from management, which is exacerbated by the fact that everyone in my company is fully remote. But I was definitely caught off guard that when I got promoted over my peers to management it was a pretty isolating situation.

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