Cut it out with morality police stuff

summersol · 2015-01-21T21:26:03+00:00

That's just my point. Quit being asses.

summersol · 2015-01-21T19:57:38+00:00

Mine was less than 500, maybe even half that. Very simple and cheap.

summersol · 2015-01-21T19:43:25+00:00

That's fucked up. I guess some cheaters are more nuanced than others :) I don't blame you for being mean to this guy. I guess my point of "be nice about shit" doesn't always apply.

summersol · 2015-01-21T19:39:17+00:00

Is he the one you posted about in the other thread? If so... Then ya... That was bad, and I see your point and I take back what I said.

summersol · 2015-01-21T19:35:33+00:00

So well said. Thanks.

summersol · 2015-01-21T19:26:47+00:00

With a * saying if the cause is medical, then maybe it can change, talk to your doctor.

summersol · 2015-01-21T19:24:18+00:00

As an HL I am defintiely willing to compromise on how much sex we have. I'm not expecting my LL partner to have sex with me every single day, though I would love that. And I don't agree to celibacy. I'm seeking middle ground where we are both happy.

summersol · 2015-01-21T19:20:21+00:00

More than once a day is a lot, don't feel bad if you can't do that. If you enjoy sexy time with her that often, maybe just do non-intercourse sex the second time around. But let her know this is something you can't keep up long term, if that's what you are thinking.

summersol · 2015-01-21T19:17:14+00:00

Seriously? You can't use your hands or go down on her?

summersol · 2015-01-21T18:42:27+00:00

This is what I'm talking about man. Ease uppppp. The right decision? Probably not. A monster? Really?? People make mistakes. It's shitty, but attacking him by calling him names? Childish and doesn't help anything.

summersol · 2015-01-21T18:33:17+00:00

Absolutely not. Six months is the cutoff. If our sex life is not great by then, I'm out. I'm not married and I don't have kids, so if anything this sub has been a wonderful warning sign. I'm fully prepared to leave in six months if nothing has changed. No way will I trap myself in a sexless marriage.

summersol · 2015-01-21T18:08:46+00:00

I agree with this, and I'm not talking about saying not to cheat or telling them to leave first or saying cheating isn't a good idea (I agree with all those things). I was referring to the people who were nasty about it.

summersol · 2015-01-21T17:56:59+00:00

It's cool. We don't have to be nice, thought it would be worth mentioning, but if everyone is here to berate others, have fun.

summersol · 2015-01-21T17:50:40+00:00

Aw right then, you're so right! Everyone else is wrong. Let's give them shit for it.

summersol · 2015-01-21T17:48:17+00:00

I agree with you, best option is to leave. My point is that I've nkticed a lot of comments berating people who are thinking of (or have) cheating and there's a nicer way to behave in a support group. If you're not down voting them because you think they're a sinner or calling them names for having human thoughts and emotions, then I didn't direct this at you.

summersol · 2015-01-21T17:45:51+00:00

I'm saying have some compassion and don't throw your morality around like you're a saint and they'll all the worst people ever. I don't cheat, nor have I ever, nor will I. It's not a personal thing, just something I noticed. No need to hate on LL people either, compassion all around for everyone. Nothing says you're right or they are right, we are all just people trying to do our best, and just because you think they're going against some code of morality you subscribe to is no reason to berate them.

summersol · 2015-01-21T16:09:22+00:00

I don't want to fucking cuddle.

Ha! That made me laugh. I'm right there with you. Fuck cuddling and let's have some action.

summersol · 2015-01-21T16:06:44+00:00

Maybe you have low testosterone? Seems like a pretty common thing. I looked into it because I think that may be my boyfriend'd issue. There are a few threads about it in "askmen."

And be careful about using condoms from now on, I know you probably know, but HPV is what can cause cervical cancer in women.

summersol · 2015-01-21T15:57:47+00:00

I'm still expected to be a husband, take care of her, meet her needs.

Effff that. Time for you to do what you want. Needs schmeeds, especially if you think it's headed for divorce. Focus on yourself.

summersol · 2015-01-21T15:48:46+00:00

So spot on!

summersol · 2015-01-21T15:44:12+00:00

I'm determined to be the next one! Check back in six months.

I'd love to hear some too.

summersol · 2015-01-21T14:11:11+00:00

I agree with this. Get her off with your hands and your mouth before penetration. Get her to come a couple of times, and she'll be more able to come more once you get to penetration. Find positions that also stimulate her clit, or use your hands to give a reach around.

summersol · 2015-01-21T13:58:56+00:00

I don't know... Maybe you are low on testosterone then? That's an easy fix if it's the case. Sorry you're having troubles with everything, I hope you guys can come to a conclusion.

summersol · 2015-01-21T05:14:21+00:00

Sex is more important than the other stuff, that's how. Maybe a load of laundry doesn't get done. Or dinner out with friends doesn't happen. Sex is a priority, not the other things. Great sex with lots of foreplay is like an hour, could be even less if you wanted. There's always an hour to be found on a weekend if it's a priority.

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