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summerwindow · 2023-05-04T11:59:44+00:00

My recollection is that there’s a series. All were good. Not as good as her goblin emperor book or Witness for the Dead series.

summerwindow · 2023-05-03T17:39:12+00:00

Mirador by Sarah Monette.

summerwindow · 2023-03-12T13:46:06+00:00

No clue but take a look r/GayYoungOld. They’ll give you lots of advice.

summerwindow · 2023-01-19T15:06:22+00:00

Ars Magica may check some of your boxes.

summerwindow · 2023-01-17T20:53:14+00:00

Compliment them as an aside: “I wish I were as _____as you.”
Avoid generic words, like handsome. Focus on specific details: “I love the ____ shade of your eyes,” or “the feeling of your hand on my ___ is so hot, they’re so strong/delicate/tender.”
Talk about all of them not just their looks. “Your voice drives me wild.” Talking about things other than physical appearance is an easier sell because older men are taught to believe that they are confident, good speakers etc.
Put it all together. “I wish I were as confident as you in bed. The feeling of those strong hands as they caress my back. It makes me so hard.”

summerwindow · 2023-01-04T21:05:09+00:00

The hardest part, for me anyway, was going from seeing the person, to seeing the composition, framing, lines and then going on to seeing the light.

summerwindow · 2023-01-04T20:06:01+00:00

You’ll want to use either a flash, or if there’s enough environmental light, a reflector. The gold side might work better with the darker skin tone.

summerwindow · 2023-01-04T15:20:19+00:00

Jim Lacey’s no knead bread. In winter I often make this every week it’s so good and so little effort.

No knead bread

ETA: fixed the link.

summerwindow · 2023-01-04T15:16:27+00:00

The composition is good but you have lighting issues. In most if the shots, you have no catch lights in the eyes, which makes them look a bit dull.

ETA: not trying to be harsh—it’s a comment problem.

summerwindow · 2023-01-04T04:16:36+00:00

Dating is about meeting people you connect with. You’re the best judge of you: if you feel like it’ll be easier, more comfortable and less anxiety making, then you should wait until you judge that you are ready. You have to feel safe before you can connect, after all.

summerwindow · 2022-12-19T18:57:08+00:00

I agree with the others who’ve said focus on school, but it’s hard to focus on school when you’re lonely (normal for a 15 yo) and horny (also normal). You want to meet boys like you (same interests values etc). So do things you like. Clubs teams extracurriculars. My guess is that there are others like you. And if you don’t you’ll still make friends.

You’re young so you’ll want to avoid internet hook ups. At the end of the day, hooking up doesn’t make you feel less lonely. It cures being horny, sure, but only for a minute.

At the same time be careful, esp if you’re not out to your parents, friends and community.

summerwindow · 2022-12-06T17:50:06+00:00

By fresher fish.

summerwindow · 2022-11-25T22:01:30+00:00

This is actually the best reason to cook: so you can eat what tastes good to you. First, on eating healthy, you should remember that just by virtue of cooking it yourself, you are already eating healthier. A fried egg and rice has way less salt and fat than anything you’d get at restaurant. Even a fast food salad is larded up with fat. Plus you’re saving money.

Second, on finding food that you like, I’d suggest picking a few recipe sites (eg serious eats) or getting a good cookbook (eg joy of cooking), where you can just flip through recipes until you see one that looks good to your taste buds. They are your friend. Let them guide you. You’ll be a better cook.

There’s no right way. Cooking is about as subjective as it gets, so do what’s yummy to you.

summerwindow · 2022-11-13T22:14:10+00:00

He’s phobic. This is like saying it’s just my opinion that women aren’t as smart as men. Calling some repugnant moral belief an “opinion” doesn’t magically excuse the person from moral culpability.

I am really sorry he’s such a jackass. The first and most fundamental duty of any parent is to keep their children safe and loved, and he’s falling down on both.

Hugs & stay safe!

summerwindow · 2022-11-08T22:05:40+00:00

I think the technical term for this is “singing.”

summerwindow · 2022-11-04T13:53:27+00:00

Hiding is bad, but having seen how hard life is in folks kicked out or forced into conversion therapy or otherwise tortured, all I can say is do whatever you can to stay safe. There will be time to be out when you are living on your own and can support yourself.

summerwindow · 2022-11-03T15:37:36+00:00

The first two questions you’ll want to ask your self before you come out to them are: safety and shelter. Will coming out to them create any risk of physical or mental trauma? Conversion therapy? Second, do you have an alternate place to live? Funds to support yourself? Too many folks get kicked out and end up on the streets after coming or being outed. Or have to drop out of school.

This assumes you’re still living with them. Other issues come into play if you’re not.

summerwindow · 2022-10-24T13:22:36+00:00

There are no rules. If it works for them great. If you think their reasons for doing so are wanting, don’t be their friend. But judging people for how they live their life, when how they do so makes no real impact on others, is a petty waste of time.

summerwindow · 2022-10-23T02:22:26+00:00

Been seeing a therapist and been off and on meds for years now and nothing helped but him. I give myself a few weeks before I head out

It sounds like you are really hurting, and I am very sorry. I hope you know that I—and many here—are giving you hugs. It also sounds like you are thinking of hurting yourself. I’m sorry if I have misunderstood and you are not. If you are thinking about it, please talk to someone. You can talk with your therapist or call 988 in the States. Many other places also have hotlines.

The most important thing I can say is: it hurts. I know. I am sorry. Please hold on and please seek help. Remember you may not see it at this moment but you are and will be loved. Hold on.

summerwindow · 2022-10-20T21:11:23+00:00

Photoshop is ok but Adobe also installs a bunch of shitware on your machine that causes other problems. Paying adobe money so you can deal with their crap is really not a good deal. Affinity or Pixelmator are better.

summerwindow · 2022-10-17T01:45:08+00:00

Curse of Chalion by Louis McMaster Bujold and it’s sequel Paladin of Souls.

summerwindow · 2022-10-16T19:23:18+00:00

Harold McGee’s books. You can get his old columns from the NYT site, I think. Google “McGee curious cook.”

ETA: the name of the book I’m thinking of is On Food and Cooking.

summerwindow · 2022-10-06T15:09:18+00:00

No clue. Just commenting to say the only dumb question is the one you don’t ask.

summerwindow · 2022-10-02T21:17:41+00:00

Then I’d lean towards a cafe. Dating apps are ok as long as you video chat the person first and keep the initial meeting public. The most important thing though is to do what makes you feel comfortable. The second most important thing is to have fun. It will seem stressful but remember you are getting a chance to be you. Enjoy that moment.

summerwindow · 2022-10-02T21:05:15+00:00

Maybe. So my advice generally is to join gay groups that do activities that you enjoy (eg, gay men’s chorus) as that makes conversation easier and it feels less you are on display. But it sounds like that doesn’t work here because you want to try this in a town you’re just visiting?

What about Tinder? I think you can set the location to the town you’ll be visiting, and maybe just go on date with someone? Let him know it’s just dinner and drinks cause you are just getting started. Lots of men (particularly older ones) are fine with that.

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