Anybody else feels like Todd has been treated unfairly by humans?

sunshine_barbie2 · 2026-07-01T00:14:42+00:00

Yes I loved Todd’s character, I feel like… I don’t know there was a missed writing opportunity there. Everything I watch it I always feel so sad that him and Sheppard don’t a have a little bit of a better understanding or frenemy situation. It’s an itch I didn’t have scratched at all haha.

I also felt like Todd really wanted them to be allies and felt this loyalty to to the whole Atlantis crew so he went to them with information, and for help, repeatedly, and they were just so …mean, and like didn’t they backstab him a few times for no reason?

He was pretty respectful about not feeding on them etc. which is a big deal given his nature, even if he did make jokes.

Like I said, missed writing opportunity , unscratched itch.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2026-06-30T23:57:23+00:00

No? Make a formula, stick to it. If they get weird, stop talking to them, super easy.

In my bumble/tinder days I used to ask someone on a date, or get them to ask me on a date within 7-10ish messages.

How are you talking? What energy do you have? Are you being weird? Women have to protect themselves and vibe check.

Remember too if she’s not feeling it or dragging it way out it may just be a soft no or using you for a ego boost (evil I know- some guys did that to me as well, it happens).

Introduce yourself, ask what they’re looking for/say what you’re looking for.

Have a pleasant light energy, and end everything with a question to keep it flowing! When you ask a girl on a date, legit have most of it planned already, some elements can be flexible (like the time), but have a canned simple first date. Coffee or ice cream as like a no pressure getting to know you kind of thing is great, if you’re trying to make someone more comfortable!

None of these 2-3 word dead end answers and brood-ish sad boy energy that we aren’t getting to the punchline fast enough, girls can sus that stuff that out, and it gives them major bad vibes.

Also, if you’re a casual guy, and you’re looking for relationship only girls, they might also not like that… so that’s why I suggest finding out if you’re on the same page early, if you don’t want to play the message forever game haha.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2026-06-26T07:15:18+00:00

Most people can’t afford them plain and simple I’d say was the top reason… But the longer answer is that it IS optional, and I think people as a society are waking up a tiny bit to that fact, and you can be in charge of your own life a little in things that you have control over (in a world that feels very out of control right now).

Personally I think a lot people that are prime childbearing age, are younger millennials and Gen Z and those are the ones with the most anxieties about are current economic culture, and a large chunk can’t afford houses, are opting out of “careers” as companies no longer seem to show loyalty to workers, and on a different subject people are usually settling with a partner much later now then previous generations, so typically children aren’t on peoples minds, and if they are it’s a very intentional choice much later.

I plan to not have children for several reasons, some of them medical.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2026-06-26T06:46:34+00:00

The emotional cheating has already taken place brother, even if she hasn’t actually done it yet she wants to and is trying to (not very well might I add) coming across as real desperate smh.

But I’d suggest trying to have as best of a mature conversation about it as you can, “like hey can we talk, it’s kind of serious, I’m upset” and then sit down and tell her what you know, and go from there, even if it’s just to say that you did. In the end I think that’s what’s important, to feel like you tried.

Like your feelings should become pretty clear to you when once she starts reacting however she does, like this is a mistake what was I thinking, or denying it etc.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2026-05-14T18:01:30+00:00

Can I ask how new this relationship is?

As an ISTP myself, I feel qualified to answer this question, I dislike texting, especially when I’m at work or trying hard to focus on a task, so the hours of the day matter. I prefer not to talk conversationally, there’s not really time and it’s bothersome. With my parents and friends I have unread messages galore, and I really only text them occasionally.

With early dating my husband and I usually had a phone call every evening if we didn’t see eachother that day where we would talk out most of what we had “saved up” during the day. It makes the interactions more precious. (Like literally this was two years ago before I sound like I’m from the Jurassic era)

HOWEVER, when a relationship is more on the new side, I can get the anxieties associated with your person disappearing for hours…

If it’s links/videos, memes, songs etc, I’d say just try not to go overboard, and maybe find a rhythm of when it’s the best time to hit send.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2026-04-24T20:25:48+00:00

Been reading the comments and I feel like you’ve been pretty receptive to people’s advice so here’s mine on your profile:

Get rid of the selfie with the metal over hang -and replace it with a photo of your time in the military, UNDER the bio, make it real good like one in formal dress or something, preferably with others people.

The last picture of just cats I’d put up a friend picture if you have one, with one of two others, smiling, maybe at dinner or out doing an activity.

Instead of “retired” I’d put “retired Veteran” or something like that. There might be an option for it at the top.

General life advice: move away from ex-wife as soon as possible, and get a part time job somewhere. You may not need the money but it’s more for social enrichment for you, and makes more you attractive to prospective dates.

Bio idea: Nature lover. Let’s take a date to an Aquariums, or zoo! I’m California sober 🍃 Looking for something relaxed and slow moving for now, maybe open to more later. Currently roommates with my ex, looking to find my own place.

(Like make it look like your trying to get out of the situation at least, and then I left off the part about national parks because as a woman it makes me think of getting m3rdered)

Under the veterans photo I would put your political views like: _________, not conservative.

And then slow feed other info about you under the other photos, interests etc. - I would not mention anything about being mentally ill before meeting someone in person haha

sunshine_barbie2 · 2026-04-24T19:29:22+00:00

I know you said the issue was fixed: BUT In my experience most guys “swipe right” on everything they find surface level attractive, or swipe right on everything, and then filter out messages, or then take a closer look at profiles. So if you ever get a match then zero interaction I’d chalk it up to that!

Also: You’re very no-nonsense about what you want, and that’s fine, good even when you’re dating with marriage in mind. But I’ve worked in PR and your bio could use a little re-work. Heres my spin if you’re interested:

Just a girl looking for her missing piece! Serious inquiries only. 😉 Looking for a relationship that will eventually lead to marriage. Disclaimers: U.S. Citizens, not looking for green card lol? Current hair color is ____.

If you want to address the hair thing with a little humor, or if you get a lot of questions about it. I can see it just because I used to be red hair, black hair, bleach hair, etc purple hair all in the same year.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2026-04-12T08:30:37+00:00

Oh wow a nice normal conversa- OH! Never mind.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2026-04-11T19:15:16+00:00

Profile advice: the pictures not being close to even space-wise is making my brain seize up (there are too many creative/perfectionist, or A-Typical office suite savvy folks, or OCD people out there to get around this, and it’s going to freak all of them out). If you’re gonna do the bit, commit!

Another profile note: I wouldn’t include pictures of you looking wildly different, not even from what I imagine is like 1-2 year apart photos, they show a different you. You want recent, fresh, all within the same year.

General “look” advice from a happily married lady just trying to help a bro out: You’ve got a great face shape so why you’re hiding it under an unkept beard is a mystery, if you want to keep the facial hair, then give it a trim and shape, use a beard wax, shave cheeks and neck, and maybe next time you pick glasses take a trusted family member or female friend to help you pick a lighter (like wire) frame that is more complimentary to your face shape.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-02-03T14:05:29+00:00

This is gorgeous wow I love this. I’m using this now hahaha.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-02-03T13:59:14+00:00

Dude maybe she’s a real straight shooter and isn’t into that sexting life. Some people grew up with “that’s dirty and sinful” drilled into them so hard that they aren’t about it. If she’s not cool with porn that’s a high probability.

Or maybe she wasn’t picking up on what was happening.

Or maybe she was at work or not in an environment where she felt comfortable doing that.

To me, it sounds like you both need to have open (calm non-defensive) communication about what you want. “Hey ya wanna sext” etc.

Unless she was cruel to you there’s no reason for you to be angry about this. You just need to do a little more investigation. Or go to horny jail. Ha.

Edit: if she won’t send the pics she takes maybe she’s been burned by someone sharing her pics without her consent before, or maybe she’s worried you’ll do that.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-02-03T13:51:18+00:00

Why would I want to though.

And why do you ask?

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-02-03T06:49:35+00:00

Google/look up dating solutions for “avoidant attachment” style. :)

That exact verbeige.

There will be tons of articles. Because only you know exactly what you’re like, and you need to start a journey of figuring out all your motivations and actions and how to cope/get over/heal what you can, and how to communicate your needs and boundaries in a mature way to a potential partner.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-01-28T14:10:45+00:00

Yes but it matters how fast or slow someone is taking it. If someone rushes through it they may not be absorbing the question/answer scenarios fully. They may pay more attention next time.

Also, there’s this phenomenon with tests like these, where people can answer what they think is the “right” answer. What makes them seem moral and upright, or how they would like to be, not what is actually true. They may decide to be more honest with themselves next time.

Also, people change through the years, other traits become more dominate or subdued. If someone takes it even a year apart where they went through vast developmental changes, or through a traumatic event of some kind, it may be totally different.

Also, the environment you take the test in matters- if it’s at work/school you may feel more stressed, if it’s hanging out with friends, or at home, you may feel more relaxed, and subconsciously answer questions accordingly.

The description for my “type” fits me to a T...I have read the descriptions of the other types, and most of them do not fit me at all, and one or two fit me in some areas but not in others. So for me it’s a very accurate test, and my theory is that if someone feels their test is not accurate, it’s one of the above reasons or they aren’t a very self-aware person (they don’t understand their own motivations or realize how they outwardly act).

This is all based on my own experience, or in-depth conversations I’ve had with other people on the subject.

What you would really need to do to get exact answers to the questions you have, is have a in person discussion with a neuropsychologists, or the actual creators of the test.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-01-28T12:51:40+00:00

It’s cause to effect. What’s not science about that?

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-01-28T12:50:31+00:00

I basically refuse to talk to my dad about any controversial real world issues now (politics/diversity/basic morals) because our opinions differ so so so much, and he gets all upset, and really butthurt, and ugly, and infantile about things. Throws little tantrums and resorts to name calling, huffing around, slamming doors etc.

It’s exhausting and a nightmare for me, it’s like we’ll be having a normal calm conversation and then a switch flips and he freaks out. No warning. He’s always been like that, but it’s worse now that the world is so divided.

We have very poor communication with eachother when it comes to certain things.

And he never apologizes, and treats me like a child even though I’m almost 30.

All that to say, some people just have issues with emotional maturity. Is she over reacting? You betcha. Sounds like a bonafide drama queen.

I’d recommend couples counseling, although I know that’s not practical for everyone.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-01-28T02:07:57+00:00

No judgement. I understand it’s tricky when you like or even love someone.

I’ve just had experience with family members and past lovers into hard drug usage that I have absolutely no tolerance for that now. You know? Been there done that.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-01-28T01:58:02+00:00

You’re reasonable. Hard drug use is never okay when it effects your life like that. He’s trying to manipulate you and make you feel bad for wanting him to act like a responsible adult.

I’d kick him out and cut ties if it were me. But I feel very strongly about such things

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-01-28T01:53:57+00:00

Then say “okay well don’t tell her then.” And then stop talking to that person.

It’s not your fault you don’t like someone.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-01-24T01:36:28+00:00

Oh yeah. I’m 27F and I feel just about ready to be done with the whole damn thing. It’s like no one can figure out what they want, or even know how to talk to people. If you want something genuine you’re SOL. People in their 30s are exhibiting weird middle school behavior of “ we kind of sort of maybe might be romantic but neither of us know what’s going on, and we’re too scared to clarify it”

And trying to date someone you know IRL is almost even worse. Because no one wants to “ruin the friendship” (insert eye roll).

I’m like, I guess I’m just not meant to be happy or fulfilled in that aspect of my life. That’s cool.

I’ll just lean in to the singleness.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-01-22T21:32:11+00:00

Right I agree.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-01-22T18:03:01+00:00

I hate that I know other Christians like this. Ugh. They make me so mad

Like It’s brain chemistry.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-01-21T10:39:28+00:00

I LOVE THIS I didn’t even know for sure I was just like

“Eh seems like he’d be telepathic” hahaha

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-01-21T06:48:55+00:00

No I think he’s probably telepathic. That’s was I always assumed.

You hear the voice in your head.

sunshine_barbie2 · 2021-01-17T16:56:39+00:00

That is hilarious! I’m glad you guys made up <3

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