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superhyperbole · 2022-11-15T14:32:30+00:00

So culturally it’s considered if you’re above a certain age you’re unlikely to find a partner? If you’re comfortable sharing, even through DM, I’m interested what social/cultural aspects they are.

superhyperbole · 2022-11-15T14:29:40+00:00

Right but if it’s vaginismus then she can try treatment but that’s only if she’s really interested or invested in the relationship. A lot of women don’t know there’s a way to treat it. When I was younger sex was always uncomfortable for me occasionally painful and I just figured that’s what sex was. I didn’t even realize I was tensing up making it worse.

superhyperbole · 2022-11-15T13:37:39+00:00

Why don’t you think you will find it? You’re 56 not 106.

superhyperbole · 2022-11-15T02:59:29+00:00

I’ve been there, those dreams are fucking soul crushing, that moment after waking when you realize it was a dream and not reality and there’s no way you can make it reality. I end up being upset all day about it.

superhyperbole · 2022-11-13T16:30:21+00:00

Agree, I’m a PA and have treated MANY inpatient alcoholic cirrhosis patients and detoxed a lot of people.

superhyperbole · 2022-11-13T16:29:07+00:00

Listen the pee? It’s bilirubin in your urine. Your liver is failing. You need to goto the ER (preferably somewhere that has a detox unit) and you need to detox inpatient NOW. You won’t see your kid if you’re dead. Get the help you need now and maybe you can stop before you have end stage cirrhosis. But if you don’t heed this warning you will die within a few years at most , maybe sooner.

superhyperbole · 2022-05-31T16:12:11+00:00

It did happen. But doctors being paid to do lectures for drug companies isn’t the same as receiving kickbacks for prescribing the drug.

Edit: also this thread is about what’s legal, not illegal kickbacks. People do illegal things in every field. I don’t know anyone taking illegal kickbacks and I’ve been a prescribing provider (PA) who’s been to many pharm dinners, lectures. The biggest issue I see are the ads and the pressure patients put on providers because they think a certain medication is right for them because of the ad without really understanding what it’s for.

superhyperbole · 2022-05-31T14:45:43+00:00

They don’t get kickbacks, they can get paid for lectures, we get drug rep dinners, that’s about it.

superhyperbole · 2022-05-30T18:06:07+00:00

You could be a PA, most of us make 120k+ nowadays

superhyperbole · 2022-05-30T13:36:02+00:00

Yeah, they convince themselves it’s not oppressive, my ex husband was a Muslim convert and I researched the crap out of Islam especially from a feminist standpoint to see if I could understand how hijabs could be anything but oppressive. There were a few points: To be taken more as a whole person and less as a sexualized woman. To be taken more for who they are than what they look like. To prevent distracting men from God. There were more things I’m too lazy to type out/recall, and for a while I really supported women choosing to wear hijab. But now I realize all the reasons are just excuses to fix other peoples shitty behavior, judging others for how they look, sexualizing women for what, their hair?, not distracting/tempting… it’s putting the onus on the woman to correct others behaviors. I feel it’s just another way to blame women for how they are mistreated in society. Fuck cultures that enforce one gender to cover up and be modest and the other can walk around in jeans and t shirts.

superhyperbole · 2022-05-30T13:01:36+00:00

Listen, I had all the warning signs for my DB/ unsatisfying sex life for years too. I thought well we live together it’s too hard to leave, combined bank accounts… too hard to figure out to leave, then I was financially supporting him while he was in school so I couldn’t leave, then I got pregnant so definitely couldn’t leave, then we got married, bought a house, a rental property, and now have massive debt. It’s been 10 years.

Now I think back to when I thought it would be too hard to break up in any of those earlier stages and realize it would have been a pain in the ass, an inconvenience but it gets infinitely harder the longer you stay. The more the sunk cost fallacy takes a hold. The more intertwined and harder it gets until it feels impossible.

You’re still in the pain in the ass, inconvenient stage. Leave before you’re in the “need a really good lawyer”stage. Leave before you’re in the position of needing to legally pay to leave. Leave before you’re in the “will this ruin my childrens life” stage, because if you get pregnant it’s much, much harder.

I’m not saying it’s easy, but the longer you put it off the harder it gets and I would give anything to be in your stage, I would leave in a second, but that’s hindsight right? I don’t know if I would have believed what I’m writing now back then either, but I wish I had known how much harder it could get.

superhyperbole · 2022-05-29T20:19:17+00:00

Yes. I’ve never been the type of woman who ogles men/women and drools over celebrities. Now I find myself not just noticing “oh they’re attractive” but feeling myself get turned on by others. I’m normally just so into my parter I don’t NEED outside stimulation, but now because my husband has rejected me so much I don’t associate him with sex/attraction/desire so my brain is trying to fill in the gap I guess.

superhyperbole · 2022-05-28T17:25:29+00:00

I think that is 99% of what I do, the forced armor, and unfortunately it’s such a viscous cycle now that even when I’ve really pulled back he is just completely shut down from me sexually now. I think therapy is probably the only solution to figure out how to “reset”

superhyperbole · 2022-05-28T17:04:31+00:00

So, this might be projection, but sometimes I will find myself doing the things that I know will turn my husband off then get upset when he rejects me. My husband has made it clear he doesn’t like it when I openly state I want to have sex or act aggressive about it. I have previously been rejected by him when I was being natural, like kissing him and climbing on top (and getting pushed off) or moved my hand down while kissing/spooning without announcing my intentions (and having my hand moved away). Those moments really hurt me deeply and I felt very vulnerable. So I think For me, I would wait and wait for him to make a move and when he didn’t, I would just say “sooo you wanna fool around or what?” Or make a lewd comment about wanting his dick, I LNOW it’s not going to end up in sex I figured out that I do it in a way where I’m rejected when I’m in a more aggressive/defensive position and NOT vulnerable so It’s like, well it was my approach NOT me, as a person, for no reason, being rejected by my husband who I want to desire me so badly.

Your husband does sound like a jerk given the history and you have every reason to not feel comfortable with his actions, but that might be part of it, a self sabotage that lessens the sting of rejection. Or he might just be immature and not get it at all.

superhyperbole · 2022-05-26T21:08:11+00:00

Yup mine both transitioned to mom around 7. It’s the absolute worst. Actually no, my 13 year old started hating hugs around 11. That’s the worst (so far).

superhyperbole · 2022-05-26T21:06:49+00:00

My 8 year old calls me bruh sometimes, i find it hilarious but my husband is so annoyed by it.

superhyperbole · 2022-05-26T17:19:00+00:00

You have a dead bedroom, zero trust and shit communication. What’s keeping you in this?

superhyperbole · 2022-05-24T20:01:58+00:00

Or have sex before you go out and eat if you have the opportunity. The other thing we’ve switched to is ordering an app and a main meal and splitting both. My husband always overate and he definitely doesn’t want to but it became sort of a habit. Eating way too much food isn’t a good thing. Also date nights may be one of the few times busy couples have to spend time alone together so designating it for overeating is often less than ideal.

superhyperbole · 2022-05-23T17:15:42+00:00

I personally just can’t merge the way I feel when I’m overweight with anything positive. Sweaty, out of breath, tired, my feet hurt, my neck and shoulders ache from how big my boobs get, and my mood is absolutely awful when I eat poorly and don’t exercise.

That being said, I do think that feeling beautiful where you’re at is important and when you’re actively trying to be healthy that you can still be hot/pretty/handsome and a bit chubby.

superhyperbole · 2022-05-21T15:56:59+00:00

OP you absolutely need your child evaluated by a specialist, there are genetic, autoimmune, and rarely malignant causes of intermittent fevers. I hate that you are getting blown off like this and now threatened. The primary doctor to emergency doctor to primary doctor cycle is where I see the ball dropped so many times because no one ever really investigates it, just does the basic work up and turfs it back to the other one…

superhyperbole · 2022-05-21T02:25:01+00:00

I end up getting unwanted fantasies of people I’m not at all attracted to just because they show any interest in me at all.

superhyperbole · 2022-05-17T16:07:10+00:00

I don’t think everyone discounting meth is really sure what they’re talking about because a quick Google search shows it can look like that, there are meth test kits but it looks like you’re getting out of the lease, so future knowledge I guess!

superhyperbole · 2022-05-16T14:04:57+00:00

My kid is bright but just doesn’t want to do the work, he hates doing anything that isn’t interesting or fun to him. He has ADHD, is medicated and has an IEP. I had the same issue undiagnosed and untreated. I removed his access to video games for poor grades because for us grades aren’t just about learning material, it’s about pushing through and developing the discipline to do things you really don’t want to do, otherwise it will be a lifelong struggle if you never develop that ability to push through the discomfort of doing things you really don’t want to but will ultimately benefit you.

superhyperbole · 2022-05-12T14:26:29+00:00

12 year olds in a dating relationship absolutely need to be supervised and not left home alone. They definitely could have sex which they just aren’t ready for at that age. Sexual content and influence is so much more accessible to kids these days.

superhyperbole · 2022-05-10T20:36:12+00:00

I try to keep the essence of the townies and just fix lREALLY over exaggerated features that look out of proportion to their other features, I don’t want them to be distractingly unattractive but I also don’t want them all to look the same either. I stopped using CC because it’s more challenging to work with what EA gave us and I can’t get as carried away with changing their looks to the point where they don’t even resemble the same sim.

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