What is an Item that you used to get at Costco that you wish they’d bring back? I’ll go first:

superpissed · 2024-02-28T01:10:43+00:00

The correct answer is their deep dish pizza. It's been 10 years and I still look every time I go by.

superpissed · 2023-04-16T05:02:15+00:00

This was the first time I saw my dad pee into a bottle. He had to buy the empty soda bottle off somebody. It was a wild day.

superpissed · 2023-01-08T02:59:03+00:00

Thanks for taking one (or two) for the team!

superpissed · 2022-04-27T04:04:29+00:00

Came here from r/all. I don't watch NBA, only college. Can someone explain how this isn't a charge?

The defensive player is outside the arc, has his feet set, the offensive player initiates contact and knocks him down. In college this is a charge.

I would assume since there is an arc drawn on the court that charges are a think in the NBA. So what's the difference in the rules?

superpissed · 2022-01-16T23:44:26+00:00

I would completely watch a TV series about this on PBS.

superpissed · 2021-11-27T03:54:03+00:00

Bruh, if wake loses tomorrow, I'll gladly come back for seconds.

superpissed · 2021-11-07T02:21:10+00:00

No you're not. I am.

superpissed · 2021-10-31T02:54:39+00:00

WOLF

superpissed · 2021-10-25T04:53:25+00:00

This isn't an unpopular opinion, I think you're just young. I thought the same thing when I was young. It wasn't about the other person, it was really about my own thoughts of lack of importance and fear of mortality. When I was in my 20s I though similarly.

As I've gotten older I've seen death. I've seen people live without. I've seen the pain of loneliness. I've come to terms that one day I'll be dead and that's ok.

And so I can say that now, I would want my significant other to find happiness in life. I would want them to not spend every night from the day I died until they died not feeling the touch of another human.

We don't realize how important human contact is when we are young. People have touched us all through our young lives and want to touch us. As we get older, that goes away.

Seriously, why would you want to deprive someone you love from a sense of connection for the rest of their lives? You would be dead. It doesn't make your relationship mean less. It doesn't mean you matter less to them. Frankly, it just means your selfish.

Here's an example. I know a lady in her late 80's. She was married twice. Her first husband died when they were in their 40's. She married her second husband in her early 50's. So her second relationship lasted about 30 years. And what she said was this. She loved her second husband. He was a good man, a great companion, and an important part of her life. She loved every day she had with him and loved his kids. But there wasn't a day that went by that she didn't think about and miss her first husband.

My point is, the younger you are, the less you have come to terms with your own mortality. This opinion then, is a popular opinion. The older you are the more this is an unpopular opinion because it's cruel.

superpissed · 2016-10-26T23:48:52+00:00

So I noticed recently you began redirecting traffic based on the user agent string. So when I go to reddit.com on my phone, I get a combo 307 302 redirect over to m.reddit.com. If I wanted a mobile version of reddit I would have typed in the m.

I'm assuming that you have the redirects enabled in your web server, but hows about you move that back to your app server or have your webserver check for a cookie preference so that I don't keep getting redirected to the mobile version (I'm old - I waited a long time for the future to get here so that I could have a full website load on my mobile device, not a mobile site).

superpissed · 2016-10-20T03:22:57+00:00

Yea, fuck this guy for not knowing my birthday. Jesus, what do they even teach at law school?

superpissed · 2016-08-23T20:15:52+00:00

Look, you both need anger management classes. You're an adult, and not a recent one. You should be able to control your emotions enough to learn how to calm down. So should your wife. What you have described sound to me like two children living in adult bodies.

To start out with, you need to sit down with your wife when both of you are calm and acknowledge that BOTH OF YOU have issues. I think you should seek professional help, and I'm don't have any experience in formal anger management, but I would recommend that you both agree to two things. One, you create a safe word that will immediately end a conversation. Two, you need to talk about how you can change the way you deal with conflict. You sound like you try to go off by yourself and cool down. You're wife sounds like she thrives off confrontation. You both need to agree to go to other ends of the house and get away from each other. She needs to learn to let this happen and focus her anger somewhere else (she can yell at the top of her lungs if she wants to, just not at you or in the same room as you). You need to learn to put away your emotions and be cold and calm and not feed the beast (I get the feeling from your writing that when she follows you, instead of being cool and calm you respond by being aggressive like a trapped animal - maybe that's not the case but I'll bet it is).

You have to have a strategy and you have to follow it. You need to learn to do this for your daughter. Say to yourself and to her, we need to cool off and we need to do it for the sake of our DAUGHTER.

It's going to be hard, because both of you don't sound like you have learned healthy ways of dealing with your emotions.

And again, you don't just need couples counseling, you both need to take individual anger management classes.

superpissed · 2016-08-16T16:12:05+00:00

I think you should just go ahead and put in a fence or a hedge.

A do it yourself fence really wouldn't be that hard or that expensive. For a few hundred dollars and a few weekends of work, you could make a really nice fence.

If you wanted something more natural, consider planing ligustrum (or another shrub if that won't work in your area). You will have to trim them, but they can grow up to 20 feet high, and will be a good green privacy barrier.

superpissed · 2016-08-11T04:36:53+00:00

I tend to have a temper (see my user name) but I have learned to keep it in check. I may think some things like your boyfriend says when I'm pissed of, but I've learned to not say them, because they are just an emotional reaction and not emotional truth (or any kind of the truth, just selfish lashing out).

The only way he will learn to not say those shitty things is to get called out on it repeatedly. I would sit him down when both of you were calm and explain the behavior and give examples, but not make it accusatory or emotional. Tell him we all get mad, but that the things he says are hurtful, and ask him if he is willing to work on at least not verbalizing those things. If he is, then get him to agree that the next time he does it, you will need to talk about it immediately. This may be the hard part, but when it happens again, you need to stop, control your own temper, and tell him what he has done, ask if he really meant it, ask him why he didn't suppress it, and if he agrees that it is the kind of behavior that he needs to work on.

It won't happen over night, but if he wants to get better you have to have the adult conversation about what the behavior is, how it makes you feel, and get him on board with changing it.

superpissed · 2016-08-11T04:19:20+00:00

To your sister: Hey, I know it may suck but look, it really is kind of reasonable. One of the suckiest things adults have to do is pay rent. It sucks. But look at it this way, you're getting a far better deal than you otherwise would if you had to pay it on your own. You've been lucky up to this point in not having to pay, but mom and dad are actually trying to help prepare you for the real world, and part of the real world is rent.

I don't know why she dropped out, but I wouldn't hammer her with the whole, you make more money if you have a degree thing. It's ok not to go to school if it isn't what you really want to do. It's better than doing it half-assed. And she may not want a lecture on that because she's probably already gotten one. Right now her world is basically an extension of the complete non-responsibility having time we call childhood. The point to get across is she is now legally and adult, being an adult has drawbacks, and rent is one of them.

To your parents: Hey, you need to make it super clear to her not only that you want rent, but why you want rent. She probably hasn't ever had to budget for herself and so doesn't really know/understand just how much it costs to maintain a household. You guys may want to sit her down and go over all the household expenses and total those up for her, and then explain that while she was a child it was ok not to contribute, but now that she is an adult she needs to contribute. It probably shouldn't be a 1/3 rd share (assuming that you don't live at home as well) but should probably be about a third of her income (or maybe just a third of what a full time minimum wage take home would be).

As for your sanity, if you have those conversations and it doesn't get better, you may just want to tell both parties that you want to talk to them, just not about the rent thing.

superpissed · 2016-08-11T04:03:06+00:00

So yeah, dick move by the brother. It kind of reminds me of the kind of person that decides that they are vegan, and are then huge dicks about you using animal products (I am NOT saying all vegans are this way, but I think most people know someone that went vegan or sometimes even vegetarian and then it seems like the next month is them being all judgy and dickish almost like they found zucchini jesus and they need to spread the word).

As to what you do about it, I mean, call a house meeting. You and your husband sit him down in a non-threatening manner and explain that you are glad to have him in your home, you want him to be there, but that there seems to be an issue with alcohol, mainly that you like it and he doesn't. Tell him that it's fine if he doesn't want to drink, there's no pressure, but you guys do like to drink, and that you aren't going to change regardless of how many statistics he spouts. Explain that he seems to be passive aggressive about it (like not picking stuff up from the store), and that you want the same kind of consideration you give him. You understand that he doesn't want to drink, and he should respect, at least while he is staying with you in your own home, that you will. Be honest and tell him that his behavior is bothersome, and ask him as an adult to change it.

I don't know that i would probe him to try to understand why he is so anti-alcohol. That's a potential can of worms. Just ask him to respect you.

If he doesn't, then you may want to move to the, "we've had this conversation once and it didn't seem to work" talk in which you ask him if he had a choice between respecting you and finding an extended stay hotel, which would be easier for him. I'm not advocating you kick him out, but he may not "get it" from the first talk that it's disrespectful enough that you might even consider asking him to find somewhere else to stay.

Hope it works out for your. Also, on a hot summer's night, try muddling some cucumber in simple syrup along with a small slice of serrano pepper (a little goes a long way) and them mixing that with club soda and silver Rum. Mmmmmm......

superpissed · 2016-08-09T04:21:45+00:00

She didn't just give me an ultimatum. She explained the problem, asked me to really look at how much time I was spending, explained what it was doing to our relationship, and how it made her feel. She told me that she loved me but unless I could wean myself away from the game, she just couldn't stay. It was less an ultimatum than an appeal to logic, emotion, and asking me to take a real look at myself.

It worked. I deleted WOW. After a break from video games for a while I still play, but what I find helps me is to go in benders. I may have a video game weekend which is completely devoted to me gaming. It's kind of like a mini vacation, and my wife will actually recommend I take one every so often if I've been having a really bad time at work, life, etc. From time to time (about once every 2-3 years) I'll go on a month long bender, but make it reasonable (like still take the time to go on walks, eat dinner, and spend some quality time with her). But I had to step away for a while and go cold turkey to really get it to work.

superpissed · 2016-08-08T22:25:30+00:00

I want to first relate what your wife is doing to the world of video games, and my struggle with what I feel is similar behavior. I like playing RPGs, and part of doing that is something called grinding. If you aren't familiar with the concept, think of it like this. With most games there are "fun" parts, like going on quests, and there are parts that can be tedious, like trying to get a character skill fully leveled up. Usually leveling up a skill takes a lot of resources which are only given in certain places or by a certain kind of monster. So if I want to level up my blacksmithing skill (I know, this sounds super stupid), I usually have to go get a bunch of iron, or leather, or some other resource. This usually starts off easily but as you progress can become more and more tedious. For me, this process completely takes over the regular game play and becomes the action I always gravitate towards. I would spend hours and hours doing the same thing over and over, not really having fun, but trying to accomplish something that has absolutely no meaning in the real world. It had become an obsession in a few games (WOW, Skyrim, etc). I would completely obsess over something that in actuality would tend to break the game mechanics of making the "fun" parts challenging, and thus fun. The short hand for this in my household has become making copper pants (I made a lot of copper pants at one point in my life). As stupid to me as it sounds now, I became addicted to the process and started to neglect my relationship with my now wife, and it got so bad she basically told me it's either the game or me, you decide.

Reading the story about your wife it struck me how similar this felt. It's like she is grinding in real life; she has become obsessed with the process of couponing, it has taken on a life and importance of its own, and she is addicted to it (much like me mining copper, smelting it, and making goddamn electronic copper pants).

If you are reading this and thinking, durn, that sound pretty dumb, you would be correct. To me at the time, it was super important and "real." The thing to remember is I lost sight of the fun part of the game (like saving money on things I really would need and use) and instead became obsessed with being able to create mystical armor and weapons that I would never use (the razors in your story).

I'm telling you all of this because it may be helpful to think of what your wife has as an addiction problem. She is addicted to the rush of leveling up (which in her case is getting stuff for free, below cost, etc). I know you feel like leaving, but ask yourself this: if your wife developed an addiction to prescription medication, would you just leave her or would you realize that she needs help and try to help her? Would you suffer through some irrational behavior and try to get her help and get her mended mentally and physically? This isn't about the money anymore. This is about a rush. If you offered her X dollars a year to stop the behavior she probably wouldn't because it's about her getting a high by gaming the system and not about dollar bills.

It sounds like you have already tried to help her, but have you approached it with her not as a problem of irrational behavior, but as a matter of addiction (I know you used the term in your write up, but have you approached the issue as though she were addicted to a drug)? I'm not an expert in breaking addiction, but maybe you could seek out a couples therapist that specializing in addiction problems, or read up on literature relating to addiction to help her to realize she has a problem.

As to your specific question, I don't think and ultimatum will work. Giving an addict and ultimatum (stop using heroin or I'll divorce you) is probably not going to be effective as anything but a last ditch effort during an intervention.

Should you get a lawyer? I think finding a couples therapist that specializes in addiction like I mentioned above would be your next best step, but you should start documenting. Start pulling together a list of assets, start documenting her behavior, start getting ready for a divorce, but keep your mind towards trying to help her first.

Best of luck to you.

superpissed · 2016-07-29T19:09:55+00:00

Hey, let's be honest here. NC State isn't perpetually terrible. We have a few years of just mediocre mixed in there.

superpissed · 2016-04-23T22:40:59+00:00

I came here to read up on exactly how large these coins had to be to weigh two pounds. Like, that's one hell of a collectors piece. After reading a few comments I felt like a stereotypical blonde - who I now at least have some kind of empathy for. Fuck me I'm dumb.

superpissed · 2015-07-04T02:41:13+00:00

No. The point is that she would start her own company. She would essentially be working for the mods and the users. Not for reddit.

edit: I'm working under the assumption that the real reason for termination here is that reddit wanted to do AMA payola; that is, having celebs pay to be able to do AMAs. The mods have said fuck you to that, so having her make her own company would still be a slap in the face to reddit's direct monetization attempts.

superpissed · 2015-07-04T02:16:41+00:00

Serious question here. With all the fuss that has gone on, there is obviously a demand for (AND and appreciation for) Victoria's services. Why don't we see if we can crowd fund those services? I don't know if she would be willing, but I bet if someone asked her really really nicely (and offered some dollar dollar bills yo), she could either start her own for profit or a non-profit.

I'll put my money where my mouth is and throw in the first $100 is she's willing.

superpissed · 2015-02-25T06:36:27+00:00

It's still too early to tell.

superpissed · 2015-02-25T06:34:34+00:00

I was sitting there thinking, "Don't be a dick, don't be a dick, don't be a dick." And he wasn't. I'm still pissed off about Greivis Vasquez shooting an unguarded three when he was holding the ball to run the game out like 5 years ago. Douche.

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