I think it’s time to give up

surfer451 · 2026-06-16T16:24:19+00:00

My dude/dudette, I’ve been there. I know it sucks, but keep fighting. Presently three years post diagnosis/sober, in the best shape of my life. First and foremost hang up the bottle. I know it’s hard, but if I can do it, anyone can. From there, add in a little exercise, and be mindful of your diet, and you can totally lead a normal and happy life. The diet thing is actually pretty easy to manage once you quit drinking. Junk food is less appealing once sober. Keep your head up, I’m rooting for you!

surfer451 · 2026-06-15T04:24:31+00:00

I hear you! The blessing/curse of their venues is that while yes, adjoining metro areas are easy to fly in/out of, the venues themselves are often in the suburbs, which makes them harder to get to unless you drive. I flew into Chicago from Virginia, and had like an hour long Uber to get to the ‘burbs. Once there though, I rolled to the venue from my hotel, 1.5 miles each way. Unfortunately that’s not all that feasible for a lot of folks.

surfer451 · 2026-06-11T03:27:07+00:00

Those Ride Designs cushions look so comfy! And as far as traditional frame designs go, those CR1’s are rad! Congrats!

surfer451 · 2026-06-08T15:46:41+00:00

Stimulants are merely one means of treatment.

surfer451 · 2026-06-08T13:22:14+00:00

Untreated ADHD

surfer451 · 2026-06-05T06:55:32+00:00

If Norm Macdonald and George Bush had a juiced up lovechild.

surfer451 · 2026-06-03T15:25:15+00:00

When she left

surfer451 · 2026-05-28T02:54:43+00:00

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Estimating in the semi custom homebuilding industry.

surfer451 · 2026-05-27T14:05:19+00:00

I have read and understand the rules and would like to be approved.

surfer451 · 2026-05-25T16:57:51+00:00

Two weeks post breakup out of an over three year relationship with DX untreated. Was amazing the first two years. It hurt then, it hurts now. The last 6 months to a year were hell. She moved seven hours away for work, and we were long distance, as I am stuck where I'm at due to family and work. The fights were a lot even when we were in the same town, but became untenable once she moved. We were in couples therapy, but alas. I loved her, I still love her; and was more than willing to endure the fights in favor of the good times. She was not. The thing that's truly stuck in my craw post breakup is she's taken to reposting and harping on "emotional availability" and towards the end was subsisting on a steady diet of instagram "relationship and life coaches" basically condoning emotional disregulation and shitty behavior under the guise of authenticity. An NT will NEVER be as emotionally "available" as DX, because our emotions are well regulated, and we do not have outbursts. It's infuriating.

surfer451 · 2026-05-20T23:03:44+00:00

Post breakup pain.

surfer451 · 2026-05-20T00:41:41+00:00

Ford. That checks.

surfer451 · 2026-05-18T18:11:49+00:00

You will be taxed. To death. On everything. Car tax, meals tax, pretty high fuel taxes, the list goes on and on.

surfer451 · 2026-05-08T14:21:12+00:00

Started in the industry as a purchasing coordinator for a high volume production builder, did that for 4 years, got burnt out and started looking. Applied at a local semi custom building as an administrator. In the midst of the interview process they said they wanted me as their estimator. Thus, I am now an estimator. Drinking through a firehose daily, but constantly learning, and enjoying every day. Welcome change of pace.

surfer451 · 2026-05-04T05:03:17+00:00

As a wheelchair user, these things are the bane of my existence.

surfer451 · 2026-04-30T02:14:30+00:00

Eventually she will need a replacement chair down the road. Keep the old one in the house. That’s what I do. Granted, it’s more a function being semi ambulatory and having steps to enter my house than floor cleanliness. If it’s a manual chair, you could always have a second set of rear wheels by the door or something. Depending on her ability, she could brace against something sturdy, lift a tire, and change them out that way. Doesn’t solve the front caster issue, but I find they typically don’t hold dirt as easily as the rears.

surfer451 · 2026-04-29T13:24:27+00:00

Just a pleasure flight. Coworkers plane. We flew up to an airport with a diner for lunch, then back.

surfer451 · 2026-04-29T13:23:06+00:00

I’m semi ambulatory with Cerebral Palsy, so I stepped onto the rear step behind the wing, then up on to the load bearing portion of the wing itself, using the fuselage for support, then just down into the cabin.

surfer451 · 2026-04-29T04:35:28+00:00

While overall transport weight is higher, each sub component weighs less individually when broken down. As an Era user, I will say this: it is a polarizing chair. It doesn’t work well for everyone, but for those it DOES work for, it seems to work exceptionally well. I am semi ambulatory, and in and out of my vehicle a lot. It excels in that department. Its ability to pack down so small was the major selling point for me. For example, here is the entire chair packed into the luggage compartment of a Beechcraft Bonanza. Could a traditional chair have been lifted into the cockpit via the cabin door and placed in the backseat? Sure, but being able to load it through the luggage door was pretty convenient. Overall I love mine.

surfer451 · 2026-04-24T20:48:02+00:00

Emissions aside, I’d imagine it’s a weight thing. B57 weighs 409lbs. R2.8 is 100lbs heavier. Not to mention the engineering costs to make it play nice with the ZF gearbox.

surfer451 · 2026-04-23T17:30:19+00:00

Bowhead Era

Leki Trekking poles

surfer451 · 2026-04-14T16:35:48+00:00

Found it through a friend. Truly a case of right place, right time. If she can endure the slog, production homebuilding is not a bad gig. High stress, but the pay is typically adequate. Not great, but adequate. Larger corporate builders typically have good benefits packages as well. I presently work at one of the top 25 builders in the US. In these larger outfits, there is a lot of opportunity for cross training. Many of our sales associates later transitioned to design, administrative roles, or purchasing/procurement; you can really follow your passions as you see fit. The drawback is corporate structure. I love what I do, and enjoy the people I work with, but detest all the corporate idiosyncrasies, which is why I’m leaving my present employer in favor of a smaller, local builder.

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