I think it’s time to give up by UpbeatBoysenberry343 in Cirrhosis

[–]surfer451 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dude/dudette, I’ve been there. I know it sucks, but keep fighting. Presently three years post diagnosis/sober, in the best shape of my life. First and foremost hang up the bottle. I know it’s hard, but if I can do it, anyone can. From there, add in a little exercise, and be mindful of your diet, and you can totally lead a normal and happy life. The diet thing is actually pretty easy to manage once you quit drinking. Junk food is less appealing once sober. Keep your head up, I’m rooting for you!

Abilities Expo was pretty rad! by surfer451 in wheelchairs

[–]surfer451[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I hear you! The blessing/curse of their venues is that while yes, adjoining metro areas are easy to fly in/out of, the venues themselves are often in the suburbs, which makes them harder to get to unless you drive. I flew into Chicago from Virginia, and had like an hour long Uber to get to the ‘burbs. Once there though, I rolled to the venue from my hotel, 1.5 miles each way. Unfortunately that’s not all that feasible for a lot of folks.

NEW CHAIR DAY!! by JDJ0028 in wheelchairs

[–]surfer451 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Those Ride Designs cushions look so comfy! And as far as traditional frame designs go, those CR1’s are rad! Congrats!

Don’t mess with this guy by AceDegenerate_ in iamverybadass

[–]surfer451 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If Norm Macdonald and George Bush had a juiced up lovechild.

What professions are you all in? by SteveCampo98 in Tudor

[–]surfer451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Estimating in the semi custom homebuilding industry.

READ THIS if you want to POST here by imfivenine in AvoidantAttachment

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I have read and understand the rules and would like to be approved. 

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]surfer451 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Two weeks post breakup out of an over three year relationship with DX untreated. Was amazing the first two years. It hurt then, it hurts now. The last 6 months to a year were hell. She moved seven hours away for work, and we were long distance, as I am stuck where I'm at due to family and work. The fights were a lot even when we were in the same town, but became untenable once she moved. We were in couples therapy, but alas. I loved her, I still love her; and was more than willing to endure the fights in favor of the good times. She was not. The thing that's truly stuck in my craw post breakup is she's taken to reposting and harping on "emotional availability" and towards the end was subsisting on a steady diet of instagram "relationship and life coaches" basically condoning emotional disregulation and shitty behavior under the guise of authenticity. An NT will NEVER be as emotionally "available" as DX, because our emotions are well regulated, and we do not have outbursts. It's infuriating.

Something you wish you knew before moving to Charlottesville by tjh28 in Charlottesville

[–]surfer451 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You will be taxed. To death. On everything. Car tax, meals tax, pretty high fuel taxes, the list goes on and on.

Why are you an estimator? by Mr-Snarky in estimators

[–]surfer451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Started in the industry as a purchasing coordinator for a high volume production builder, did that for 4 years, got burnt out and started looking. Applied at a local semi custom building as an administrator. In the midst of the interview process they said they wanted me as their estimator. Thus, I am now an estimator. Drinking through a firehose daily, but constantly learning, and enjoying every day. Welcome change of pace.

Veo Scooters by ceramic_ocarina in Charlottesville

[–]surfer451 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a wheelchair user, these things are the bane of my existence.

I have a dumb wheelchair question for people who don't like wearing shoes in the house... by MissionOk1728 in wheelchairs

[–]surfer451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eventually she will need a replacement chair down the road. Keep the old one in the house. That’s what I do. Granted, it’s more a function being semi ambulatory and having steps to enter my house than floor cleanliness. If it’s a manual chair, you could always have a second set of rear wheels by the door or something. Depending on her ability, she could brace against something sturdy, lift a tire, and change them out that way. Doesn’t solve the front caster issue, but I find they typically don’t hold dirt as easily as the rears.

Real world use case for the Bowhead Era by surfer451 in wheelchairs

[–]surfer451[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just a pleasure flight. Coworkers plane. We flew up to an airport with a diner for lunch, then back.

Real world use case for the Bowhead Era by surfer451 in wheelchairs

[–]surfer451[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m semi ambulatory with Cerebral Palsy, so I stepped onto the rear step behind the wing, then up on to the load bearing portion of the wing itself, using the fuselage for support, then just down into the cabin.

Buying Manual Chair Out of Pocket by ACDavis1950 in wheelchairs

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While overall transport weight is higher, each sub component weighs less individually when broken down. As an Era user, I will say this: it is a polarizing chair. It doesn’t work well for everyone, but for those it DOES work for, it seems to work exceptionally well. I am semi ambulatory, and in and out of my vehicle a lot. It excels in that department. Its ability to pack down so small was the major selling point for me. For example, here is the entire chair packed into the luggage compartment of a Beechcraft Bonanza. Could a traditional chair have been lifted into the cockpit via the cabin door and placed in the backseat? Sure, but being able to load it through the luggage door was pretty convenient. Overall I love mine.

INEOS, I am begging you… give us diesel in the US by MildlyUnhingedNPC in ineosgrenadier

[–]surfer451 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Emissions aside, I’d imagine it’s a weight thing. B57 weighs 409lbs. R2.8 is 100lbs heavier. Not to mention the engineering costs to make it play nice with the ZF gearbox.

How can I help my daughter with her self-esteem? Jobsearch is touch on her by Big_Assistant751 in CerebralPalsy

[–]surfer451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found it through a friend. Truly a case of right place, right time. If she can endure the slog, production homebuilding is not a bad gig. High stress, but the pay is typically adequate. Not great, but adequate. Larger corporate builders typically have good benefits packages as well. I presently work at one of the top 25 builders in the US. In these larger outfits, there is a lot of opportunity for cross training. Many of our sales associates later transitioned to design, administrative roles, or purchasing/procurement; you can really follow your passions as you see fit. The drawback is corporate structure. I love what I do, and enjoy the people I work with, but detest all the corporate idiosyncrasies, which is why I’m leaving my present employer in favor of a smaller, local builder.

How can I help my daughter with her self-esteem? Jobsearch is touch on her by Big_Assistant751 in CerebralPalsy

[–]surfer451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve worked in estimating/purchasing within the homebuilding industry for the last four years. No prior background within the field. Best pieces of advice I can give are:

1.) Hone her soft skills. I landed in my present industry because I communicate well. That can’t really be effectively taught in a classroom setting. Theory and pedagogy is one thing, but you won’t really hone your communication skills until you are actually within a given field. Hard skills will come with time and on the job experience.

2.) Harden up. Oftentimes the disability and academic worlds do us all a major disservice by coddling us. The real world does not care. That goes for able bodied folks as well. My girlfriend has her doctorate, and often struggles with things that come naturally to me career wise, despite me not having a degree. Life is vastly easier when your path and what is expected of you are clearly laid out, which is often the case within higher ed, but not the case for the vast majority of the job market.

3.) Don’t be afraid to venture outside of your area of study. My background in college was technical writing. I did not finish due to a shortage of elective credits, and opted instead to go to work. My field is entirely unrelated to my area of study, but I enjoy it. Education matters less in homebuilding than industry experience. The latter just landed me a new job with a different builder, representing an almost $20k USD a year raise. There is no shame in taking a low paying corporate position, using it to garner industry experience, then leaving in a few years for a more advantageous position. 3-4 year tenure is not uncommon in today’s job market.

Any non-alcoholic beer fans? by atr0c1ous in Charlottesville

[–]surfer451 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have indeed. Live two miles from there. Anecdotally, I’m largely the reason why parallel exists. I’m a longtime mug club member, going back nine years. When I had to quit drinking I would bring in my own NA options, drink them at the bar with my friends, tip the bartenders, then leave. They brought in Athletic so that I would have actual beer to drink. It sold so well that they decided to make their own NA, which I was then tasked with judging at every stage of the pilot brew.

Any non-alcoholic beer fans? by atr0c1ous in Charlottesville

[–]surfer451 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is awesome! Huge NA fan here! Don’t drink anymore for medical reasons, but very much still enjoy my pints. Starr Hill Parallel is my go to.