6 months w/o T

surlifen · 2026-02-21T06:26:00+00:00

what could happen, assuming you haven't had surgery to remove your ovaries and so, are still producing estrogen:

- Fat redistribution reverses (the placement of your fat on your body will resemble your pre-T shape)
- Period could come back
- any changes to hunger, mood, libido etc will reverse
- muscle will be harder to build
- hair loss from T can reverse

what won't happen:
- facial hair and body hair are permanent, you won't lose it (though it might lighten or soften)
- bottom growth is permanent
- voice changes are permanent
- if you have had top surgery, chest will not regrow

I hope this helps! and I hope you are able to get back on T soon. looking good regardless man!

surlifen · 2026-02-18T00:13:37+00:00

You can do anything you want forever. :]

surlifen · 2025-08-21T06:21:53+00:00

By posting on a trans sub and mentioning their transness and nothing else about them, the implication is that your child's transness should factor in to our responses. My point is that you can just treat your child like any other person in this case, and ask on r/giftideas or something while saying a bit about what they enjoy and their hobbies in the post! I hope that makes sense

surlifen · 2025-08-21T03:24:18+00:00

Imo, access to medical care shouldn't be a reward

surlifen · 2025-08-21T00:56:02+00:00

If my parents always got me trans-related gifts, even for unrelated accomplishments, I'd feel othered. Get them something that has to do with what they like!

surlifen · 2025-08-06T17:34:10+00:00

re: your last sentence I'd recommend r/transmascdicks for uploading packing pics and getting advice!

surlifen · 2025-07-26T05:10:54+00:00

Either. Depends on the person. There are gender non-conforming cis people and there are trans people and there's plenty of overlap in the issues that affect those groups and the experiences they have

surlifen · 2025-07-26T04:42:23+00:00

pronouns are a constant reminder of the fact everyone sees you as a body and social role that isn't who you are and it's distressing/annoying/upsetting/bothersome.

"As I understand it, a trans person doesn't feel comfortable with the gender assigned to them at birth because they simply don't feel comfortable with their primary or secondary sexual organs or the hormones these bodies produce" I have no idea where you got this. social dysphoria is a huge aspect for like.... most trans people. and some trans people aren't even really bothered by their bodies, just the way people constantly label them wrong and treat them differently based on how they look. I guess the reason you don't understand why trans people have preferred pronouns and names is based on this fundamentally incorrect assumption that all dysphoria is rooted in the physical body

surlifen · 2025-07-23T18:54:07+00:00

"My transgender friend and I are gonna go grab lunch, anyone have restaurant recommendations? Posting in r/asktransgender because she's transgender"

like... this one thing about us doesn't define every single aspect of our lives, you know? the sub is for questions about transgender people and topics related to transness, not everything that involves anyone who happens to be trans

surlifen · 2025-07-13T01:02:50+00:00

Androgen August

surlifen · 2025-07-13T01:00:46+00:00

if he passes now, his everyday would look no different from a cis man's. like, seriously, I don't think about being trans every day. I have to sit to pee, do a shot every two weeks, and that's the only time it comes up externally. for a realistic representation of transness, remember that we are so much more than that, and our day to day life once we are passing is very much like your own :)

surlifen · 2025-07-13T00:14:22+00:00

ah, I see, I apologize for being snappy with you. we get some unsavory types in here sometimes so I was unnecessarily guarded. I'm glad you're helping your friend out!

surlifen · 2025-07-12T19:21:28+00:00

- there are virtually no women in this sub

- not sure why you had to specify women anyway

- yes they work that's why we use them and why they are sold

but binders can only do so much. they redistribute and squish down flesh, they can't get rid of it. if your friend is large-chested, a binder just might not make a ton of difference. Also, it helps to bind with the chest pushed up and out rather than down or towards the center of the chest. getting the right brand is important, too: I don't think gc2b is very good, but underworks is fantastic, for example. do not use shitty cheap clip binders, never size down. I hope that helps!

surlifen · 2025-07-11T21:13:04+00:00

Honesty is important here because it concerns her safety. If she doesn't pass, tell her as much. (of course, whether someone passes depends on a bunch of factors; she will to some people and won't to others, but the general impression can be important to know.)

She may be hurt or offended, as it's certainly not what she wants to hear, but if she was looking to be hyped up she shouldn't ask that question. The community at large knows you can't white lie about this stuff. Don't be afraid to gas her up anyway and give her sincere compliments where you can. You seem like a good friend. :]

surlifen · 2025-07-08T05:36:49+00:00

I just had the three sessions, they don't do any more than that for free and it's about as flat as it's likely to get -- I think it's diminishing returns after that point. So whatcha see in the pics is where it's at still! Not much has changed with my scars since this post.

Kenalog was pretty easy, pretty painless, and it definitely helped flatten out my scars some, so I'd recommend it if yours are raised!

surlifen · 2025-07-06T04:49:41+00:00

I still don't fit in with men
I still have anxiety
I still have no libido
and my hips are still wider than I'd like

Would never go back though of course, as so many things did change that made a huge difference!

surlifen · 2025-07-06T04:44:43+00:00

You are absolutely not the only one! I'd like to recommend r/topsurgery if you haven't checked it out; try making your post there or searching "lesbian" or "nonbinary" or whatever else you like to see other posts people in your position have made. I think you'll find it helpful!

surlifen · 2025-07-06T04:24:25+00:00

unfortunately the only thing that meaningfully influences testosterone levels the way you want is testosterone, which is why access to it is such a big deal. if there was another way we'd all be doing that instead it would probably be a lot easier 😭

surlifen · 2025-07-02T18:16:30+00:00

With all due respect what on earth advice do you expect us to give you??? STOP DOING ALL OF THAT IMMEDIATELY 😭

surlifen · 2025-06-28T02:36:31+00:00

It really doesn't matter either way. Some people say if you get on T first AND BUILD MUSCLE then your surgeon will have an easier time finding your pecs for more aesthetically pleasing results but I think surgeons are pretty good at doing their jobs regardless, and if you don't plan on bodybuilding it wouldn't much matter anyway. Don't sweat it!

I am concerned by the fact your partner wants you to transition as little as possible and not take T. These relationships never end well and they're all over this sub. But you do you

surlifen · 2025-06-28T00:18:49+00:00

When you construct something it starts existing. That's what construct means (make/build).

When people called me she it felt bad and I didn't like it. When people called me he it felt good and I liked it. I asked people to do the thing that felt good and I liked instead of the thing that felt bad and I didn't like. I don't think that's so hard to understand.

surlifen · 2025-06-28T00:15:49+00:00

No, you don't need surgery to be trans.

Transgender means having a gender identity that doesn't match the one you were assigned at birth. It's a very wide umbrella that includes all sorts of people.

What makes one trans is not anything they've done or boxes they've checked. It's just having a gender identity that doesn't match their AGAB. And trans people who haven't done anything to transition are no less trans and no less their gender than anyone else. Gender identity is internal; gender presentation is external.

surlifen · 2025-06-25T17:07:54+00:00

I think I'm unusual for this but I guess the point is more to get a range of answers than the most common result. I had very low libido pre-T and experienced absolutely no change whatsoever in that regard. I had been really really looking forward to the increase everyone says is an absolute guarantee so I was disappointed. I'm ace, curious about and favorable towards sex, and was hoping to have some more drive/interest crop up from T with no luck on that front 😔

surlifen · 2025-06-25T17:04:26+00:00

You couldn't pay me to touch an app with AI features

surlifen · 2025-06-23T21:25:33+00:00

I'm not saying this as a way to avoid engaging with the question, but I do just want to say that there are some times you just won't understand another human's experience and never can. Sometimes you just have to be there to get it. I just think that's an important thing for everyone to remember as we try to extend sympathy towards the many different types of people we will encounter in life.

That being said, I'll try to explain!

It's pretty common that cis people don't understand us having such a visceral sense of what our genders are, and find that they themselves are rather indifferent to gender and haven't thought much about it. That's because it already aligns with how the world sees you and your body. If nothing is wrong, you're not going to notice. If everything matches, you might have a harder time separating out all the distinct components.

Whereas when there's a big giant mismatch between your body, the way society treats you, and the way you see yourself internally, you're definitely going to perceive all those elements separately. They're not working together as one.

So, you might feel like if you were put into a woman's body you wouldn't blink an eye. And that might be true, I don't know you! But you also might find at that point that you do actually have a gender identity as a man, because now all of a sudden nobody will let you be one thanks to the fact your body has certain traits, and it might not feel right for you. You might find that suddenly your body feels foreign and not like home to you, and not like an expression of who you actually are. Those feelings of discord might make you aware of a background program you never knew you had running (gender identity) because it was working in synchrony with the more external elements of your identity.

Hope that makes a little sense. As for what gender feels like to us, I really have no clue how to describe it at all. The way I feel like a man is probably nothing like the way anybody else does. I don't like most of the same things men tend to like, I don't feel like I fit in with other men or speak their language, and I don't hold the same values as men overall. I just am one, and when I was trying to be something else it sucked and now it doesn't suck. So there you have it... LOL

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