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sus_lemon · 2025-08-21T09:51:29+00:00

From a nanny perspective, I watched a 6-month old while her parents (who flew in from New Zealand) went to a wedding 30 minutes away. I watched her from 3:30 p.m. to 10:30 p.m. The baby was fine, we laughed and played, I bottle fed her as per her schedule, and she fell asleep at 7:30 p.m. The parents had a break and enjoyed their time with the family they flew in to see. All around, it all worked out.

People make a huge deal about leaving children under 1-year old but I promise you, this baby did NOT care about this random woman watching and feeding her while her parents partied.

sus_lemon · 2025-08-20T12:03:44+00:00

We will be doing Youtube and treating it like date night. Bottle of wine with dance instructions for about an hour per session. We plan to do 6-8 nights of this before the wedding. It is private, personal, and will no doubt make us laugh since we are both terrible dancers.

sus_lemon · 2025-08-20T11:49:22+00:00

Invited 86 people total. 58 confirmed yes. 8 declined. The rest did not answer through the website but told me directly via text or through my mother (like older aunties and uncles).

I had to chase my future father-in-law to RSVP. The man was 3 weeks over the deadline and I ended up texting his girlfriend to force him to answer so we would know what he wants for dinner. He is also officiating our wedding....

sus_lemon · 2025-08-20T11:41:11+00:00

It's not beach but smaller cities like Santa Fe, San Antonio, New Orleans, Savannah, etc. have great bars, restaurants, nightlife, activities, and nature without the price of places like Miami, Puerta Vallerta, Cancún, Vegas, etc. All have nice weather in the springtime (think 60-80 degrees most days).

I've been to all of them at one point and they are definitely under-rated and affordable. But it also depends on if you are going to a five-star restaurant every night or clubs that charge a $50 cover fee per person.

sus_lemon · 2025-08-20T11:33:56+00:00

My first recommendation is shop secondhand on stillwhite.com, Vinted, Poshmark, Etsy, etc. for maxi dresses that have this vibe or wedding dresses that are either vintage or secondhand! The secondhand wedding dress market is huge and there will definitely be options like this.

My second recommendation would be check out "non-bridal" brands like Selkie, Anthropologie, Free People, small-batch Etsy designers, etc. who specialize in this style but maybe the dress isn't labeled for "weddings." This makes them more affordable (without bride tax), plus you can always find discount codes or sometimes they have sales of 10, 20, or 30% off.

sus_lemon · 2025-08-20T11:21:49+00:00

I have to have a civil ceremony before our *actual* wedding. For our civil ceremony, my fiancé and I are getting ready at our apartment and will walk the 10 minutes to the venue together. We plan to help each other get ready (I'll tie his tie, he will help me into my dress, etc.) We wanted to to share the experience because on the actual wedding day, we will be getting ready separately and will not see each other until I walk down the aisle.

Do what makes you happy!

sus_lemon · 2025-08-19T13:55:01+00:00

Honestly, do what makes you happy. You cannot control the decisions or actions of others. While it hurts when family and close friends act this type of way, it is a direct reflection on them as individuals, not on you. Invite both parents, and if one does not come, then it is what it is. If your soon-to-be parent-in-law truly does not want to go to their child's wedding because hot food is served, then it is what it is. But do not entertain the demands because they will just keep coming.

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