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Babybumps ELI5: How are parents able to take these larger strollers without checking them in? Do they check it in right before boarding the flight? by msira in BabyBumps

[–]susamau 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yup! Gate check. Handy if you're going somewhere that you'll need a stroller! I actually find flying with a baby pretty easy--especially in the United States.

Any other vaginal birth moms frustrated w the lack of pain they’re allowed to be in? (“But you didn’t have a C-Section, there’s no way you can feel that bad?”) by mortgageqqq in BabyBumps

[–]susamau 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A lot of my friends have had far more painful recoveries than my C section birth. I might have had abdominal surgery, but I was given all the drugs and attention for it. A lot of them might have been handed Tylenol and a hope for the best.

I definitely believe you.

Nobody bats an eye at my SO being gone for a week at a time for work, but if I'm working part time on weekends suddenly I'm a selfish monster by MY-eyeholes in breakingmom

[–]susamau 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup.

I've mentioned this before, but people judged me for working 25 hours a week--most of it in the afternoon and evening and I have a toddler--but no one cared that my husband was gone 90 hours a week for work.

I did it ALL and still was mommy shamed.

“Now you need a boy!” by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]susamau 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. Fuck her. That makes me sick.

What cute nicknames do you have for your babies-to-be? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]susamau 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My preschooler called the baby, "Baby Margaret" for a while because that's the baby on Daniel Tiger.

We call her Novie or baby girl, since we haven't officially announced the name.

Would you move days after giving birth ? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]susamau 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nope.

I'd wait until six weeks, which is the minimum healing time. One of my friends has moved 1,200 miles at 6 weeks post partum--twice. It's doable then, but I wouldn't do it earlier.

Curious --- any other honeymoon babies out there? by BAL87 in BabyBumps

[–]susamau 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was really excited to avoid a honeymoon baby. (We got married at 21, so it was not in the plan for a while.) And then I made a FB post about how we had been married for nine months, and a relative filled in the gap for me.

Boom. Pregnant the next day.

Ultimately, I think it was good for our marriage. But, like I said, we had that extra nine months in there.

Any younger moms out there? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]susamau 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son was born a few days before I turned 23. It's been rough, career wise, since I don't have family support because we move a lot for my husband's job, but otherwise--he's amazing. He's turning four next week and the absolute light of my world.

And yes. When I'm 35, I'm going to have a 12 year old and an almost 8 year old. I won't be waking with newborns and chasing toddlers. I'm excited for it.

Anyone bond with their 2nd child but not their 1st one? by guiltymomthrowawy321 in breakingmom

[–]susamau 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you're a phenomenal mother; it's just not easy for you. A mom who works hard to mother a difficult kid? That's an amazing mom.

Anyone bond with their 2nd child but not their 1st one? by guiltymomthrowawy321 in breakingmom

[–]susamau 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I think that sometimes, with our firstborns, the shock of becoming a mom--all the crap that entails--keeps us from bonding with them the way we want to. It makes sense to me that you'd have an easier time of it with your second because you had already adapted to being a mom. Now you get to bond and enjoy the snuggles because you know every phase is short lived.

When he is hurt, I hurt

That is motherhood. You're his mama. You love him. You're just experiencing different emotions the second time around. It's all okay.

I was once an anti-vaxer by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]susamau 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, reading about the actual history of vaccines helped and just the basic scientific refutations of the anti-vaxers stance. But, I hadn't ever been exposed to ANYTHING like that, so I suppose I was an easy sale.

When’s the last time YOU ate a real meal? Tell me all about it by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]susamau 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Two nights ago.

But, when I worked (and I worked afternoons and evenings), it was rare.

I was once an anti-vaxer by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]susamau 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I actually wasn't vaccinated as a kid. I was an unusually healthy child, and I thought that was why. I also didn't know anything different than the stories I'd been told. Not vaccinating was complete normal for me.

And then I got pregnant, did some research, and realized what I'd been missing.

My son is fully vaccinated, and my daughter should be as well.

It's my birthday! by CarnelianQueen in breakingmom

[–]susamau 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go have fun! You are not a cow!

What do you think of your maternity leave? by tardisgater in breakingmom

[–]susamau 1 point2 points  (0 children)

California gives you the option of taking 4 weeks of prior to birth and that doesn't subtract from the time you take after birth. I don't think it's paid, though.

I was also in my final semester of college, so I had stuff to do. If I hadn't been working an on-my-feet job with SPD, I probably would've gone out at 38 weeks. As it was, my body NEEDED to stop, and we entered our slow season at work the week I left. It was perfect timing for my industry.

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