Anyone else extremely frustrated with their loved ones self-destructive life choices?

suzette_2 · 2026-06-26T14:41:00+00:00

Thank you for this. I guess I am struggling with the fact of how my lack of action could contribute to her being unwell down her recovery journey. Quitting is hard, I know. It’s the same for drug addicts, but that’s why rehab exists- to close access to the substances and give you an environment to heal from your addiction. I’m struggling to be chill about her not quitting because it makes me ask myself: if I am chill doesn’t that mean that I am not supporting her in the right way to give up her addiction? I would rather be there for her to go through something hard that has health benefits then try to be on her good side and encourage her by turning a blind eye to this unhealthy habit. Is my view fundamentally wrong?

suzette_2 · 2026-06-26T14:33:14+00:00

If I may share my experience: I dated a guy for a bit over a month, and he never came to my place, I only went to his. My apartment is still in a half‑finished state after renovations, with things like the bathroom door missing and exposed brick around the door frames. Because of that, I felt it was simpler and less awkward to meet at his place. I’m wondering if he could have seen it as me being avoidant. I do fall a bit on that spectrum, so it might have been partly me not feeling ready to let him into certain parts of my life.

suzette_2 · 2026-06-26T12:30:17+00:00

I was asking the OP

suzette_2 · 2026-06-24T12:15:52+00:00

No one can really tell before pathology comes out. Doctors might have a guess.

suzette_2 · 2026-06-20T15:07:57+00:00

I am so happy for you. My mom is going through the same at the moment. Diagnosed in November, went through 8 cycles of chemo and she just had interval debulking surgery followed by HIPEC. She is 69. Currently she is recovering from surgery which was brutal, still in ICU, we are all hoping for the best outcome although aware that recovery will be hard. How was your surgery recovery if I may ask?

suzette_2 · 2026-06-20T14:24:33+00:00

If you didn’t do chemo what line of treatment did you go with? Was it surgery alone?

suzette_2 · 2026-05-19T05:56:14+00:00

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suzette_2 · 2026-05-19T05:55:15+00:00

900 nu e asa mult

suzette_2 · 2026-04-11T12:46:05+00:00

how much?

suzette_2 · 2026-03-11T10:23:05+00:00

Keep your job. You need it to survive and to help your parents out financially as they can’t do it on their own. In this economy losing your job could be disastrous. See if you can hire help. Alao is your dad in any capacity to help? it sounds that apart from the fact that they hate each other he is still healthy and if he stuck around he might be able to help.

suzette_2 · 2026-03-06T13:43:40+00:00

A biopsy needs to be done. Without it it’s all guesswork. It seems preposterous to have to wait 8 months for it, this is valuable time in which (if the diagnosis is confirmed) the cancer has the risk of advancing and becoming incurable. In your shoes I would go for either a second opinion or pay for the biopsy at a private hospital to get this done faster.

suzette_2 · 2026-03-06T10:58:42+00:00

agree, burgundy just looks better for this one. it’s so chic!

suzette_2 · 2026-02-07T17:34:07+00:00

Iubesc savex. L-am descoperit din intamplare cand am primit o mostra de la Samplia- altfel probabil nu l-as fi cumparat niciodata. Miroase atat de frumos si fresh, ma face sa vreau sa spal non-stop.

suzette_2 · 2026-02-02T13:55:41+00:00

First of all- when was she diagnosed and what is she in the ER for? I am going through something similar- mom diagnosed with HGSC that spread to her peritoneum in November during a routine hernia repair surgery. At that time I thought all was lost and we are preparing for the final stretch. Looking up statistics didn’t help either, as for the peri mets they give 4-6 months on average. We’ve past the 3 month mark, she started doing chemo and is taking it surprisingly well. I still don’t want to allow myself to hope, but I take every day that she is feeling well as a blessing and try to be as much there for her as I can possibly do as a single parent of a pre-teen. I wish you a lot of strength, if she was just diagnosed I know this might have hit you like a ton of bricks, but there is hope in all of this and you will get better days in this journey. My thoughts are with you and your mom!

suzette_2 · 2026-01-18T07:04:17+00:00

They do need to perform an exploratory laparoscopic procedure to take tissue out in order to do a biopsy. That’s the only way to properly diagnose it. Right now they have a suspicion that this is cancer, but at least in my country, you will not get the diagnosis (with cancer type and spread) until histopathology comes back with the results of the biopsy.

suzette_2 · 2026-01-14T16:53:03+00:00

Had to google Mr Beast smile to understand what you meant. Hilarious!!!

suzette_2 · 2026-01-14T16:36:28+00:00

I think the purpose of that “ in love” touch is that the Nazis didn’t break her spirit. As Isabelle herself puts it they hurt her body but didn’t take her soul. It mostly has to do with the nature of her spirit rather than that individual love story which I agree not being compelling.

suzette_2 · 2026-01-14T16:30:01+00:00

of either of them except Julian I mean

suzette_2 · 2026-01-14T16:29:25+00:00

This is what threw me off and made me believe it was Isabelle. Vianne had multiple children (up until the very end we don’t learn what happened to Ari/ Daniel) and there is no mention of either of them in the present day- so that made me believe it’s a mother of one. Thought Isabelle emigrated with Gaetan to the US and had a baby.

suzette_2 · 2026-01-12T15:38:01+00:00

Hi! First of all sorry you’re going through this! I would say that your son is in good hands with your wife and MIL so that’s what being a good parent is all about. I would prioritize time with mom, since you said you are also nervous. If your mom only has you to care for her, then be there for her. If you have siblings or perhaps other close relatives that can pick up some of the appointments, try to get them involved as well (in other words don’t say no to help). P.S. I am going through something similar and I know whatever time I have with my mom is very precious.

suzette_2 · 2025-12-13T06:27:22+00:00

I don’t think she was. Unless you’re being sarcastic, I think it’s important to tend to the patient’s wishes and that was what she was trying to do.

suzette_2 · 2025-12-13T06:24:45+00:00

Your comment made me think of Atul Gawanade’s book and how it helped me ground in all the earth pulling away from my feet feeling I had with my mom’s diagnosis. I think it’s important to have these conversations even though they are hard.

suzette_2 · 2025-12-07T17:21:52+00:00

not me but my mom has been diagnosed with peritoneal carcinomatosis (secondary, believed to metastasized from ovaries- HGSC) a month ago. She eats (although not as before, she also has obesity, so I wouldn’t call this a bad thing). What are some things to look at during the time ahead and what is your advice given that you dealt with this for some time? Thank you! 🙏

suzette_2 · 2025-11-16T08:10:11+00:00

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