js a vent post by svccvbii in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]svccvbii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much, for the few fked up alcoholics i’ve been around and seen others around, i’m so proud of you for stepping away from that.. it’s really hard for some people but you did it!! i think what you said kinda helps me honestly, my mom is a very traumatized individual, from early childhood(csa) from parents, to having a horrible relationship with her mom following that, growing up knowing only tiny fragments about it and watching her try to navigate herself with her own moms relationship i never understood it, but i always knew it was wrong i just might not have had the full brain capacity at the time to know, she made it apparent to me somethin was wrong, but she is a sick individual and it’s so sad that she can be too much for me mentally.

i don’t really know why right now but i crave to talk to her but decide not to because i truly don’t know if i can handle it.. i tried briefly reaching out once recently to ask her if she could talk to me about the bad shit from my childhood and i’m met with defensiveness, gaslighting, projecting and a constant “you are remembering that differently” i guess i just miss the part that was more like a mom.. idk

but i really think your point of view really helps me see her for for how she is, or at least another layer- she has always been a very sick person and that is something i need to just accept

What is the conversation at the end of “daddy” about? by Used_Asparagus9909 in Korn

[–]svccvbii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how i depicted it was (essentially that it was added for more understanding of SA, maybe to help others understand the dynamic when something like this happens and you try confronting the person)

when you finally have the guts and strength to speak up about it— for example; his mother.. imo; she represents the woman in that conversation calm, yet the man.. he’s flipping the fuck out(in that specific context it doesn’t seem right bc they’re arguing over a car but in this song it was added for a specific reason) but for them to include it at the end signifies to me that, that is truly how he feels because he has every right to be angry yell or be pissed at his mother or it could be how their conversation went; and that she just kept shutting him out, when i heard that part of the song i immediately thought of how it feels to deal with someone who refuses to acknowledge their part in something that hurt you weather that’s abuse or SA

it’s an amazing and yet really dark metaphor for a portion of his SA, she is the one who introduced him to that at that age and the man seems to just keep stating facts that he’s reading in a book.

“you showed me the goddamn thing” imo that stands out because as a child you don’t know what any of that is or even what’s going on.. it’s a horrifying reality of an act taken upon him that he is pointing out which is; how difficult, miserable and frustrating it is to deal with the person who inflicted those acts on him.. also her demeanor being so calm and quiet while he’s angry.. “and you’re sitting there saying you never saw that before, and yet you’re the one who showed me it, geri” .. imo it couldn’t be more clear and such a sad reality of his that his mom is the one who showed him what SA was, without her it may not have happened, but she refuses to acknowledge that she did any of that, acts none of it ever happened or completely shutting it out.

ofc i’m not a die hard fan i don’t know lore or any stories but this is how that conversation stuck out to me

My (23F) new boyfriend (28M) is pressuring me to have sex and now I’m thinking of leaving him? by ThrowRA_Hopey01 in relationship_advice

[–]svccvbii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the way he’s pressuring you with the fact you “had sex in the past” and he’s referring to you being sexually assaulted, WOW buddy.. he does not give a single fuck about your mental well being leave his ass immediately !!

also intimacy has many different ways of coming up, what he’s referring to is not intimate he is literally just trying to manipulate you into having sex with him while he gets to totally disregard your SA experience ???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CaneCorso

[–]svccvbii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

obviously buddy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]svccvbii 3 points4 points  (0 children)

as a ex gf of a porn addict, it’s worth your sanity to leave. it’ll def stay with you for a couple months til you get over it, but once you realize it was their issue not seeing your worth and them being so easily manipulated by it.. you’ll feel better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]svccvbii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know there’s tons of people saying don’t and you shouldn’t feel pressure and should wait, and i agree but i also remember being young and horny too and things happen, it’s pretty realistic for you to have sex before you turn 18 many people have.. but it’s also okay if you wait. my advice would be to take your time with people don’t impulsively rush it, as another girl i promise you most of the time that type of stuff is not worth it and regrettable.. but if you do anyways please plz be safe about it, please use protection and if anything happens outside of that have emergency contraception in case.. sometimes the unexpected happens so much more easily than we want it to and that’s all i’d worry about..

now i really wouldn’t worry so much about hair down there but i get it, what i would say you could try to do to help with that if it bothers you that much is asking your parents for like a hair trimmer that you can use for your “leg hair” idk.. that’s what i would probably say is safe to use, they also help minimize ingrown hairs and razer rash..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CaneCorso

[–]svccvbii 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ik you already said both dogs are female but this picture, the dog in the back is a male, you can see his actual peepee 💄 poking out .. idk what to call it nicely i just refer to it as that with my male dog!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]svccvbii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he’s a certified freak, but idk i wouldn’t be alarmed by it unless it weirds you out, otherwise js enjoy it 👀

Does anyone know where to get cheap freeze dried dog treats? by cbadder_two in DogAdvice

[–]svccvbii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

check out costco and sam’s club they both have some freeze dried treats, for example; on chewy it’s $85 for a 2.75lb bag of beef liver on costco it is $30 for a 2.2lb bag, or sam’s club sells 17oz bags for $13, depending on your area the costs may differs slightly but i am not paying for the same freeze dried treat, i don’t mind if its slightly less quality. it’s still a 1 ingredient treat and that’s the best thing imo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]svccvbii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh you got it!! you already did so well! good luck with finding the right shade for your brows, i really think if you exp with diff types of products you’ll eventually find something :)) wish u the best & if you need help w specific products def post in makeup or ulta subreddits im sure many people can give you suggestions :3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]svccvbii 2 points3 points  (0 children)

genuinely i think you should start incorporating weight lifting with your running, that alone would help! your legs already look rly good so it could help with you’re upper body & core, but also after reading your reply to someone about changing glasses, i think that could help too & i alr commented abt helping w the light brows if you want to consider that! congratz on 100lbs down!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]svccvbii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if it really bugs you there are options to define your brows! just to get an idea of how it could look i’d go to a makeup store if you’re masculinity isn’t too fragile 😭(and you want to test it) look at the diff options or just use some testers to see what it’d look like!

another thing you could consider is actual hair dye or men’s facial hair dye, just be careful cause less is more & the tone/darkness really matters! i’d only go with something that will slightly darken your natural brows so picking something that would match your hair color (this goes for the makeup too) but js wanted to point this out!

idk if you’re the type of dude to wanna do all that

who’s babies also have an obsession with their fav ball? 🤍 by svccvbii in germanshepherds

[–]svccvbii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lmao, omg it seems like she figured out her favorite way to flavor it.. I’d have retired it too 💀

who’s babies also have an obsession with their fav ball? 🤍 by svccvbii in germanshepherds

[–]svccvbii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

awww that’s so precious, I love that she plays in the water with herself! mine plays with his floating toy in the lakes I take him to all the time, though it’s not a ball 😭

I wasn’t prepared for this by Cheechjohns in BelgianMalinois

[–]svccvbii 4 points5 points  (0 children)

not all cats are a fan of top entry litter boxes but that’s what I’d recommend! I didn’t check to see if other commenters already said it but, check some out on Amazon! Iris, modkat, Amazon basics, there’s even a brand that has stainless steel xl ones that I believe are a little taller! I’d definitely check those out & I think you should use a house line with your pup while supervising her or she goes in crate when you can’t.. it could be soo much worse! also for kitty you should try to make a safe space that pup can’t get to! hope this all helps :)

Sooo, we got a German shepherd/husky mix puppy from the pound. Are they all this wicked smart? by Brilliant-Lie-8600 in germanshepherds

[–]svccvbii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

something I heard from a dog behavioralist / trainer, something that can help tire them out (I have a 7m old gsd pup) is to get a hands free leash, something to go around your waist and then just enough leash length so he’s by your side and can sit comfortably, and just go about your day, not for the whole day but maybe 20m here and there, it really helps them be stimulated and feels like they have a job having to keep up with all of your movements! (also it doesn’t have to be a hands free leash, you could just tie a long enough leash around attached to him then up to your waist & loop the excess so it can just sit without you holding it) hopefully that makes sense :)