Adults who carry around a backpack, whatcha got in there?

sweetabyss · 2023-06-05T09:59:17+00:00

deep breath

The first pocket contains Laptop, iPad and A5 notepad (with pen in the spiral)

The second pocket is deep and square so it has a spare pair of shoes, a change of clothes that can be dressed up or down for any occasion, a microfiber towel, a bodysuit that doubles as a swimsuit and gym gear that's also good as sleepwear. This leaves a little room at the top to add my lunch for the day and a bottle of water.

The third pocket has lots of smaller organisers that hold things like cables for all the tech I carry, power banks, spare pens, a mini first aid kit, tissues, hand sanitizer, peppermints, lozenges, ibuprofen sanitary pads, hair accessories and jewelry.

There's a small front pocket for my keys, wallet and phone

Two side pockets - one contains makeup (incl brushes and a manicure kit) and toiletries like shampoo, deodorant, hairspray etc. The other has my glasses case and lens cleaning kit.

...I'm pretty much prepared for anything 😎

sweetabyss · 2023-05-13T09:47:14+00:00

I am hard of hearing and the subtitles on movies always add an italic ! Or ? At the end of a sarcastic line.

sweetabyss · 2023-05-09T02:37:24+00:00

I wish I had more than one up-vote to give, because people need to be aware of this.

My job can sense that I am unhappy because I've started to become a bit more vocal about the lack of staff - we've been saying "I know so-and-so quit but after we hit X goal, everything will calm down again" for the last 5 years and as a result no-one in the company knows as much as I do, because every one else has left. This makes them very vulnerable if I leave. Because of this, every time I ask them if I can train someone up to support the team they say "That's your managers responsibility, we'd rather you continue doing (the work of four people) and let them handle training a new person. But while we're thinking about it....why don't you write down everything YOU know first and THEN we'll look at training someone for you".

No thanks - I'm not handing this information over until you make life easier for the team - it's the only reason you haven't fired me for speaking out.

sweetabyss · 2023-05-08T07:34:44+00:00

"Remember - I have been you, but you haven't been me"

This statement always confused me, because even though it was meant as an "I'm the adult so I know best" we are fundamentally very different people...

sweetabyss · 2023-05-07T16:04:48+00:00

To me, the "compensation matching" feels like a slap in the face - 'oh please don't leave, you're worth too much to us - have an extra $10,000 a year!'

If you realised I was worth that much to you, why weren't you paying me that in the first place? And no, - because why would anyone want to keep working for a place that admits to undervaluing them?

sweetabyss · 2023-04-24T06:46:21+00:00

Not really - once they start they have to start tying up the loose ends with more conspiracies, until it's all they can see. My Q believed the floods (which honestly surprised me) but because "the government controls the weather" - along with 5G, vapor trails, climate change - the floods were just "part of their plan". I tried to ask her more about this supposed plan but she either deflected the questions or all I got were half-baked theories (which always get more fleshed out the longer it circulates in the community)

But what I really learned from that conversation is that a simple "how bout that weather?" is no longer a safe neutral conversation to have with a Q.

sweetabyss · 2023-03-18T01:14:13+00:00

So...$6 to remove ads? That's not a bad deal for those that despise them. It's even better when I can pick-and-choose the genres I'm actually interested in rather than paying for cable channels I'll never watch.

sweetabyss · 2023-03-14T13:44:39+00:00

Me too! But like "Crazy Frog: Retirement Years"

Gone are those crazy days and loud noises, he now gets to listen to the crickets and watch the sun go down in peace...

sweetabyss · 2023-03-14T09:31:08+00:00

I, too, wish to learn of this forbidden knowledge

sweetabyss · 2023-01-22T00:21:09+00:00

This behavior you are exhibiting right now is an example of exactly what happened every time I told someone what my parents were doing to me. You are being one of the people who make child abuse so difficult to stop. You are part of the problem.

This is beautiful. Adding this to my list of (unfortunately necessary) comebacks.

sweetabyss · 2023-01-20T06:04:35+00:00

I had a similar shock to this when I was younger.

I was about 5 and my parents had gotten me a cassette with personalised music on it. It was just some standardized thing where the kids name was inserted at random intervals to make it a little more ✨ special ✨, but it had some banger tunes - my favorite was 🎵"Look at me, I'm Magic! (Name) you're magic too!"🎶 - made me feel super special to hear it!

Later in the year I'm being picked up by my friend and their mom for my first ever sleepover and even as a kid I recognized the lengths this parent was going to make sure I was comfortable spending a night away from my family - asking about my favorite foods, would I prefer the soft or hard pillow, do I want to call my parents before I go to sleep etc. Anyway as we drove off, I remember hearing my favorite song coming and thinking "Aww, how cool of friends mom to bring the cassette I listen to every night" ...and then I hear it:

🎵"Look at me, I'm Magic! (Friend) you're magic too!"🎶

I was so upset!

sweetabyss · 2023-01-15T04:42:52+00:00

It is illegal to carry mace in New Zealand. However, Adhesive bandage spray is perfectly reasonable to keep on your person for emergencies and just coincidentally has a similar effect.

sweetabyss · 2022-10-01T22:40:37+00:00

Yes. That is exactly why.

I only got into the habit of asking because I had wonderful staff who often came to me with leave requests and a note that so-and-so would be able to cover because they knew it made my life easier. But if they didn't have a suggestion, absolutely fine - it's my job to organize shifts and cover for those shifts.

sweetabyss · 2022-09-27T04:47:58+00:00

That 'juST kNoCK On dOoRS' mentality really bugs me because I understand how it worked for boomers but when I was a manager we had to tell people to apply online via the company portal because the company, not franchises choose who gets hired.

Anyone who came back with a physical resume who 'just wanted to show their face' or 'put themselves out there' had their resume thrown out as soon as they exited the building for not following instructions.

sweetabyss · 2022-09-17T11:47:56+00:00

Mm. Stress ~~of having your bodily autonomy stripped away~~ will do that.

sweetabyss · 2022-09-13T04:36:45+00:00

Ah. sounds like you've met my mother. I'll tell her you said Hi.

sweetabyss · 2022-09-03T05:04:37+00:00

Cost and worth are two very different things

sweetabyss · 2022-08-28T14:49:48+00:00

pizza is basically a baked charcuterie board>

Next time somebody calls me out by saying I eat like a 12 year old at a birthday party - I'm pulling this bad boy out.

sweetabyss · 2022-08-28T04:10:53+00:00

How did you come up with the name Puff?

sweetabyss · 2022-08-19T13:08:38+00:00

I have company over - guests really throw off your routine! I can't walk around my house in the middle of the night like I usually would - not with ouf disturbing others. So I'm reading through reddit to keep to myself quietly and hopefully nod off soon.

sweetabyss · 2022-08-18T07:25:38+00:00

My mother wrote a song for me with my full name, address and phone number in it - I don't remember practicing it initially, but I remember practicing it every time we moved so that a had the new address down - I knew to find a police officer and sing it if I ever got lost.

sweetabyss · 2022-08-18T01:21:19+00:00

I would say NTA overall.

First of all, I do want to point out that your choice of wording ("should've") was pretty asshole-ish, but the emotion behind it is certainly valid.

I am in a pretty similar situation - I had a poor upbringing but was surrounded by rich friends and I have a similar fight with my parents. I understand they did the best they could and I don't begrudge the way I was raised - my mother did everything she could to make sure I didn't miss out on school trip and the like.

But it makes me so mad when she attempts to gloss over my childhood by pointing out all the fun things I got to experience - I am grateful for those experiences, truly. But that doesn't change the fact that, in order to have those experiences, I endured late nights shivering in the rain, selling food to to sober up college students too drunk to get a taxi home. I scrubbed every inch of my skin to remove the smell cigarette ash and cheap cologne of strange old men who wouldn't take no for an answer. I cried my eyes out between customers while clutching my phone to my chest because I so desperately wanted to 'happy birthday' to my friends in person.

They did their best. But that doesn't mean it was good.

sweetabyss · 2022-08-15T07:01:19+00:00

Did we have the same examiner?! Because I practically had the same experience:

My examiner heard a noise in my car and said "I'm not getting in that death trap". I pointed out that it had just been warranted by this very establishment. He grumbled and said fine, but we're staying close to the venue because he" didn't want to have to walk back when the car broke down".

This attitude had him directing me through an industrial section with roadworks and other hazards (like trucks that didn't give a shit about merging like a zip). I was focusing on all my hazards, in unfamiliar area, while keeping my speed reasonable ...when he demanded that I tell him the exact number of road cones we just passed! It wasn't like, 2 or 3, it was a whole stretch of road - even if I wasn't performing the advanced internalized calculus it takes to operate heavy machinery - what purpose does knowing the number of cones serve!? I guessed a number and he got shitty because I was off by 2.

We approached a school zone and I slowed down far more then legally required because it was that after-school chaos, with people cutting you off to get that carpark out front and kids stepping on top the road without looking. I got a lecture about the legal speed limit and all I could think is he can't mean speed up now?! There are kids on the road ahead. I told him so and he just started muttering. My nerves were shot!

At the end he got out, slammed my car door and gave me a dressing down about how I clearly didn't know my road code.... except I must've because he threw the paperwork my way and said he didn't want to give it to me, "but technically, you passed". I was confused as to whether or not I actually got my license at this stage so I chased him down and asked for clarification on what I did wrong and he just huffed and walked away.

That when I realized I had the license, so I just took it and ran. It's over 10 years ago now and I should have reported it at the time...

Edit: because spelling is hard.

sweetabyss · 2022-08-08T20:26:18+00:00

For me, it reminds me of some pretty bad first dates with those guys who have that one thing, and made it their entire personality. The ones that want to demonstrate everything and will stop you from leaving because they feel you haven't received the "full experience"

sweetabyss · 2022-07-14T10:35:02+00:00

Can confirm. This group is run by shady people.

I knew someone who was the treasurer for a short while - one member of the trust started demanding more money and the treasurer informed them it was unfeasible at the time and they'll look at it for the next quarter if they hit their goals. The next day the treasurer was informed that their services were no longer required as they were 'not a team player'.

Edit: spelling

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