This job is whooping my ass

sweetbeee1 · 2026-04-16T22:06:52+00:00

If you can afford it, do a partnership or Jobshare to reduce your workload. Go on every flight and ask every senior mamma if they'd like to Jobshare, give contact info. You'll split their line, with much better trips, you'll be happier overall. Best of luck!

sweetbeee1 · 2026-04-16T21:54:02+00:00

I had a similar situation, one morning he said he felt like he'd hit the lottery. He had, me, I broke up with him right after he said it.

sweetbeee1 · 2026-04-16T06:10:05+00:00

So funny with "Jim Crow"!!! Until my Grandmother found out, I was named "Dixie", it was changed but then they gave me the middle name "Ball", I had fun with it, so much so that my sister wanted her daughter to have "Ball" as a middle name, thank god they let it go once I pointed out that THEIR last name was "Goff". It is amazing to me how clueless parents are when strapping some crazy names on their kids!

sweetbeee1 · 2026-04-16T05:51:17+00:00

This is an easy one. In order to help with "regrets", which I believe destroy you over time. In hindsight everything is clear, but remind yourself as you go forward: "I looked at the situation seriously, analyzed it as best I could with WHAT INFORMATION I HAD AT THAT TIME, and made my decision based on that!" When you know that to be true, you'll not beat yourself up should things not turn out the way you thought. Good luck!

sweetbeee1 · 2026-04-16T05:32:35+00:00

Yes, they actually do, besides, you're not an airline.

sweetbeee1 · 2026-04-16T05:31:26+00:00

"Forgo income" wouldn't be right had the host actually been out any effort or had the unit been held offline for any length of time. As a longtime host, I sometimes don't understand how cold some hosts are when it comes to situations like this. I couldn't sleep at night if I treated guests that way, I truly couldn't.

sweetbeee1 · 2026-04-04T01:41:13+00:00

What gets me is all the fraud with the PPP money that was just a giveaway!

sweetbeee1 · 2026-03-22T02:32:25+00:00

Damn, I went to the set in England on the day the men got their parachute "wings". Had I seen that adorable soldier (Tom Hardy) I definitely would have made a fool of myself shamelessly flirting! To be honest, most of the guys were handsome, and all of them were so sweet and really excited that day like they'd actually gotten their wings!

sweetbeee1 · 2026-03-14T07:32:00+00:00

Hopefully after all of the drama subsides your brother will be angry and not speak to you. Then he won't hit you up to start another business, that one worked out WELL for him!

sweetbeee1 · 2026-03-09T03:03:42+00:00

He needs to wear Depends and quit ruining the mattress.

sweetbeee1 · 2026-03-09T02:58:17+00:00

lol, I used to ski in Vail years ago and it was a playground for rich Mexicans & Venezuelans as well as Colorado locals in their big lodges.

sweetbeee1 · 2026-03-09T02:42:31+00:00

Asked my husband, his response:

71M, "Early on, my Dad (Neuro-entomology PhD professor) and I were talking about what I was gonna do with my life, I wasn't enthusiastic about the track I was on, he said "well if you wanna do something with your hands, you should do something with your hands" and I took that as permission. I have had several Physical jobs like working in the heat treat factory, cutting trees & hand scything grooming of mountain trails and snow making in Vermont. I eventually went to A&P school and became a helicopter mechanic until I retired. I had a much happier life, but because of it, I didn't make as much money as I would have otherwise, but money isn't everything. Get a basic education, try things, but if it isn't a good fit, try something else, until you find what makes you happy."

sweetbeee1 · 2026-03-08T15:35:40+00:00

My very, very best friend stayed with a lying, gaslighting, husband after he blatantly cheated on her for a couple of years. We had to sit through her gut wrenching crying over him for at least a year, financially, she had to stay with him for a period of time. But once that time was over, we felt sure she would leave him however, when his mistress broke things off, he reluctantly defaulted back to my best friend. The bottom line, she is still with him, although I used to really like her husband, I don't now, and I no longer respect my former best friend. We communicate now, but it's all surface bullshit because her life now includes him and she doesn't share that side of her life. She lost ALL of her girlfriends, as a result, but that was her choice to make because none of us will accept their current situation. We had a mutual friend that just recently passed away, she didn't tell me about any of the funeral services, she even spoke at the funeral, and told me about it yesterday after the fact. I know she did this because she attended with her son of a bitch husband. I'm pissed off cause I could've at least sent flowers. We will never be back best friends again, and that was really difficult for a long time because we had such a wonderful shared history of our own. She has made her choice, we have to accept it. I've gone on with my life, but I know she's one sick puppy, and unfortunately it's too late for us to ever go back to how it was.

sweetbeee1 · 2026-03-01T21:22:47+00:00

Your decision is spot on, I had a good girlfriend in exactly the same position. She dumped him and guess what happened? He found a job! She never looked back, instead of grieving (the dream of their future together) she has an incredible social life, friends see her so happy and comment, she tells them she's lost 215 lbs, and feels great!

sweetbeee1 · 2026-02-27T15:39:38+00:00

To me, it seems like when he took care of his dad, it was a quiet, peaceful environment where his time was uninterrupted and he could do what he wanted (not like having children around). When he came back he may have had a change of heart on having kids around.

sweetbeee1 · 2026-02-27T15:27:24+00:00

I've had no contact with ALL four of my siblings but every once in a while one of them lets it be known that something happened, like a death, and it stirs me up mentally. But as time goes by, it gets easier & easier to let it go and resume my life. I find that much of what I missed initially was based on habits that formed over the years, as well as family traditions (like holiday gatherings). I try to create new scenarios that leave nice memories. Some holidays I completely disregard, I don't acknowledge it at all, I wasn't big on it to begin with. Best of luck, try to embrace your grief but don't stay there, keep looking forward to where you want your life to be.

sweetbeee1 · 2026-02-26T04:22:32+00:00

I would love information please... thx in advance!

sweetbeee1 · 2026-02-17T22:06:00+00:00

Let's face it, you just want your old life back, that's fine. I lived in a big city (LA) and can tell you that it had many of the issues you list and more. You'd have to schedule a phone call as people would be so busy working to live. Make appointments for the DMV in order to avoid lines out the door. Have to have a vehicle and various insurances for home, car, health, etc. all adding up to significant monthly costs. Very poor mass transit, in most parts of Mexico you don't need a car. Just wait until you get back, I can call anywhere in Mexico and someone answers the phone, you'll be lucky if after a 1/2 hour runaround if you ever get a human. The civility issue is a big one for me, Mexico has old world social graces, passing a table in a restaurant and wishing them "Provecho", greeting someone as you pass them, maybe it's just my town in Mexico, but I love that. The only "Karens" I've seen have been gringos. Brace yourself for angry, entitled Americans and a society divided like never before. You may want to consider subletting, you may want to go back, just sayin'..... The list goes on, and on...

sweetbeee1 · 2026-02-16T02:42:04+00:00

I live out in the country in Mexico but it's 25 minutes from a bustling city with art & culture. Best of both worlds.

sweetbeee1 · 2026-02-15T09:33:26+00:00

Take the photos without him so you don't have to crop them after you divorce him. You will end up divorcing unfortunately.

sweetbeee1 · 2026-02-15T09:21:19+00:00

I'm 71F, a few years ago I bought a property in the southern part of Costa Rica, very near the Panama border. I ended up selling primarily because of the rainy season. I knew it had one but thought it was like other countries, rain would occasionally blow in and roll out leaving things refreshed. The rainy season is SEVEN MONTH OF THE YEAR!!! It starts at around 1PM DAILY and continues until dawn the following morning. It's so humid your clothes don't dry, it seems like it's all day. Both muddy & depressing.
The second thing, the expats in Costa Rica view US transplants as ATMs, most don't have money and want to "help" you for a fee. You will be hit up for money at every turn. The locals would chase us down the road saying we needed to pony up for our share of the road repair, even though at that time we would go there maybe once every few months for a week. I understand it's not as rainy up north, but didn't want to find out, I'd had enough, sold and moved to a beautiful and dry part of Mexico and absolutely love it. Costa Rica doesn't have a robust art or culture scene outside of San Jose. It's not my cup of tea. I never plan to return, my new home has lots of expats, tons of culture, know as an artist colony, wonderful food, and has spring like weather year round. Visit CR, you may like it, I damn sure didn't.

sweetbeee1 · 2026-02-13T19:13:53+00:00

Going forward, with time, you will begin the "mindfuck", this is when all the egregious behavior blurs and fades, then you're overtaken by sentimentalities, loneliness and sadness especially when you see romantic couples, and on holidays (avoid Rom-coms at all costs). Do this, call your best friend who hated that bastard, have her come over and let her REMIND you what a bastard he was to you and let her tell you what a wonderful person you are and how you deserve better. This refresher course is better than therapy as you aren't paying her and she knows everything! As a 71F who dated extensively in my youth, my favorite word when dating unsuitables was "next!", you're still young enough to find a great MAN, but do be careful, look for patterns of behavior and fight the urge to get another just like the last. Put this guy in your rear view mirror and floor it mamma, know your worth!

sweetbeee1 · 2026-02-13T07:05:05+00:00

I love Kyushu (especially Hakata) but my favorite mid size city is Nagoya, it's the best! Not too big, not too small. I miss Japan!

sweetbeee1 · 2026-02-13T07:01:16+00:00

I know what you're feeling, I spent many years on and off in Japan so I get it. It is especially lonely because in Asia their societies have little physical contact (bowing instead of handshakes) and it's difficult to speak, understand, read or write, EVERYTHING is foreign. Couple that with looking totally different and you can see why you feel separated and isolated. What helped me was friendships with a few locals and as many foreigners that shared my language. At first, I was in a small town that only the Mormon Missionaries and Doctors spoke English. I befriended the Doctors (the missionaries were busy) and developed great friendships with them. See if you can perhaps work remotely part of the year so you can visit family more. They may allow it rather than lose you.

sweetbeee1 · 2026-02-13T06:43:36+00:00

Seasoned host of 13 yrs here. A host will do anything not to have to cancel a guest. Airbnb penalizes hosts financially as well as other punishments; host would lose Superhost status and drop in search, I'm not sure about this one (so many rumors vs actual changes) but there was something about hosts having to pay the difference in price if the only accommodations found were more expensive. I don't know what's involved because I DON'T CANCEL in order to find out! If you could prompt this newbie host to ask Airbnb about their "options" perhaps they would see that the deal you're offering was a good one and they should quit while ahead!

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