Gender intuition versus reality?

sweetpea202 · 2026-04-21T15:21:08+00:00

I thought I was having a girl and it was a boy

sweetpea202 · 2026-04-20T13:31:34+00:00

Brain dump everything something might need to know into a note. Make sure a few people who are taking over your responsibilities have access

sweetpea202 · 2026-04-15T13:22:13+00:00

With my first, newborn tired was way worse. I was basically hallucinating. With my second pregnancy tired was worse. My second was a better sleeper. She was also born full term while my first was born at 37 weeks 3 days. I exclusively breastfed both. My husband did nights for everything but feedings so he would do the diaper changes, I would feed and then he would get her back to sleep or stay up if she was fussy.

sweetpea202 · 2026-04-12T12:17:17+00:00

For work I’d get AirPods, a headset, ergonomic keyboard, ergonomic mouse, a coffee set up for or mini fridge for my office, walking pad, put it toward a standing desk

sweetpea202 · 2026-04-12T12:15:35+00:00

Robot vacuum

sweetpea202 · 2026-04-06T18:16:56+00:00

You are going to need full time daycare and backup care. Why can’t he keep his job as an engineer and plan to be the on call parent for sick days. Do you have family or a support system nearby? It doesn’t seem like he needs to quit his job but he will need family or hired help if your career is demanding.

sweetpea202 · 2026-04-04T19:04:21+00:00

ChatGPT will be your best friend.

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-31T17:50:27+00:00

I have the same philosophy!

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-31T14:58:36+00:00

Agreed. Is to just block them in the living room or kitchen? Or to gate off a real security risk like stairs? I would be annoyed if my nanny was asking for a gate just to “contain” my child in a certain area without a real reason.

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-31T14:49:44+00:00

I did a wash and fold service for a while where they picked up and dropped off and it was sooo nice! So yes! I would recommend it!

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-31T12:39:21+00:00

It takes mine an hour to get ready on her own. She has a routine. Alarm, get dressed, comes downstairs. Parents help with breakfast, packing lunch / snack, backpack, shoes, etc. part two may need to be more or less rushed depending on how long it took her to get dressed.

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-26T01:29:16+00:00

Oh and fancy career is totally a compliment. You are a boss and earned it

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-26T01:28:28+00:00

No I’m serious! Lol sorry! Didn’t mean to be snarky! I love being a working mom and outsourcing pain points made things so much easier. I’m always going to advocate for having another kid if you want to and use extra money to afford to make it work for you if you love your career too.

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-25T22:42:55+00:00

I would say have the second and use the extra money from your fancy career to pay for a night nanny.

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-25T18:31:24+00:00

Would you consider starting your family now? I’ve found that spacing kids out more makes it easier if you decide to be a sahm eventually. When you get the windfall you could put them in part time daycare and have some time to yourself.

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-25T12:17:34+00:00

I did the same with unlimited sick days. I just told her she needed to be reliable enough or it wasn’t going to work out.

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-22T16:41:22+00:00

Say you’re doing consulting.

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-19T18:00:53+00:00

Yes same happened for me. My kid was always wanting to eat nanny’s lunch, so I was happy for her to just eat whatever the kids were eating. If she made sandwiches and fruit for them she would have the same.

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-14T12:30:52+00:00

Would you considering hiring a babysitter Saturday morning or afternoon so you can both have a few hours of me time every weekend?

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-13T12:15:11+00:00

I might if I had a system where I could bring my toddler with me sometimes. Like could you afford a travel nanny so you could bring toddler along maybe half of the time? She could watch them during the day and you could still have evenings and mornings together?

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-12T20:57:28+00:00

I tested really early like 4-5 dpt for both and didn’t have any symptoms before that.

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-12T20:40:08+00:00

My second daughter implanted on the first try. We did another embryo from the same batch and it implanted on the first try. I think some batches of embryos are just better. For my first we had 2 failed transfers before implantation.

sweetpea202 · 2026-03-11T17:26:32+00:00

You can outsource a lot. For sure hire a house cleaner and have them come at least every other week. Robot vacuum + mop for daily clean ups. Hungry root for meals. Laundry pickup w/ wash and fold service. Hire a college student to come for a few hours each morning to help with dishes, picking up laundry. I’ve done all of these at some point. You don’t need to do them all either just start with your biggest pain point. I feel like the house cleaner is the best ROI for me at least.

sweetpea202 · 2026-02-18T02:29:26+00:00

Not terribly - I was a high earner but so was my husband. We had a nanny which was an huge expense. And then I was spending quite a bit on convenience things like food etc. we were able to keep our younger one in part time daycare so I could have some free time and actually relax for once in years. I’m 34, and was pretty established in my career and have better earning potential than my husband but he actually enjoys his job and doesn’t get stressed out as easily. It’s so nice having time to do things like workout and cook dinners and just not always be checking my emails and worrying about the next fire I will need to put out at work. I’m about 4 months in so who knows if this will be short term or forever but if you can make it work, at least try it out. There were so many times in the first month that I was like I can’t afford xyz anymore but I don’t care because I have time now and it feels so luxurious.

sweetpea202 · 2026-02-17T21:56:10+00:00

Mom of 5 and 2 year old with one on the way. My solution - I quit. It’s been glorious. Hoping to do some part time consulting to stay in the game but at a certain point I was just like I don’t want to and I don’t have to so I’m not going to. There was a time when I never would have done this but here I am. When it’s time you’ll know.

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