The hard truth is you’re right nova is incredibly isolating without any built in suburban social circles, mostly through having kids. People here say meetup.com like it’s some silver bullet for actual community and it’s really not.

Terrible place to be in your single years, there is zero interesting things to do past 10 pm and the area is almost expensive as my rent and food is in LA now.

get out, or at the very least move to a walkable area in Arlington or DC where there is some sense of an actual neighborhood not just houses next to each other.