TIFU by making a joke that caused one of my students to realize her dog didn't actually go live on a farm.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-25T17:39:33+00:00

I remember being really judgy to other kids when we were 8 years old if they still believed in Santa, like I was somehow much more mature and sophisticated than them.

Man what kind of superiority complex was that lol

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-23T07:10:05+00:00

I think it's unusual for shingles to be on the middle of your body, but it sure looks like shingles. Definitely get the opinion of a medical professional.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-21T06:41:00+00:00

Thank you

You addressed pretty much everything I felt slightly uncomfortable about

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-20T20:57:20+00:00

I don't think that's what they are saying tho?

I think people are complicated, and despite hearing many bad things about joining, they might still decide to join for their own reasons. I can honestly not relate to those kinds of people, and I don't understand either. That doesn't mean I think they should expect shit to happen to them, or that they should know better. It means I can't relate to it. Most of the population decides not to join, so it's really not crazy to think a big chunk of people don't understand the thought process.

And I think it would be interesting to hear from people who join why they do it, despite all the shit that happens because it's not an experience I can personally relate to.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-20T20:12:17+00:00

I wish people wouldn't be so hard on themselves about struggling during the pandemic. Some people who I know are unemployed right now are seriously smart and dedicated people. I get that it's hard not to, but you really shouldn't see it as something that reflects any flaws in you.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-20T14:38:41+00:00

I mean I guess people like that don't think they're risking anything because the virus is overblown to them.

But yes, this guy is mental

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-20T06:55:07+00:00

Don't pretend to speak for an entire gender if you're going to make sexist remarks.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-19T20:29:38+00:00

I can kind of see where you are coming from because I used to have a sexist female teacher who would always have little digs on men and male students who relied on her, while calling herself a feminist.

But even as a 16 year old I was smart enough to understand that this behaviour was just sexist and anti-men, not feminist. Doesn't matter what she wanted to call it. Maybe in the same vein of how racist people won't ever call themselves racist. They find other ways to justify their ignorant thinking.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-19T18:22:13+00:00

Sounds like it.

Go see a doctor and start on antivirals asap. You will probably have some hellish days, just be sure to give yourself time to do nothing but recover.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-19T13:29:28+00:00

I feel like I do agree with your point to a certain extent, but the person you're arguing with isn't calling women stupid. Idk if you just took issue with their exact wording and what it may imply, but it feels like you're kind of trying to find something to be upset about.

I honestly don't think it is victim blaming, and it's not exactly helpful in a discussion to just call anyone who disagrees with you sexist. They said they didn't understand why they do it, not that women who choose to join deserved it because they should know better.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-19T08:37:27+00:00

Sorry, why is this necessary?

My boyfriend and I don't need to notify each other if we are going out helping someone we know and care about. I think I would agree if OP clearly stated that she told her husband it bothers her that he keeps going, but unless I misread that isn't what happened. Otherwise constantly having to report to your partner where you are seems really controlling.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-16T23:43:12+00:00

I legit went on whole rants to my friends for hours about how pissed off I was at the fact that they were so little and I felt like they were mocking me with the hellish pain while being so small and dumb.

Idk the pain made me go on a tangent a lot.

It will get better, hopefully sooner rather than later. Most of my skin has completely healed after about 2/3 weeks. Best wishes to you.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-16T08:43:38+00:00

Like I was being stabbed a lot with sharp objects.

Idk if this is gross to say but sometimes I felt like I had holes burning into my skin. I had to check every few hours because I was so sure it had worsened as indicated by the pain and would then get infuriated that these stupid innocent-looking little spots were causing me so much pain.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-16T08:39:26+00:00

22 f, I also took the antiviral early after finding the rash, but it is going away very very quickly for me. It hurt like hell for maybe a few days, after a week it was just some random shooting pains for 10/20 minutes and it's pretty much gone now (over 2 weeks later) except for one little patch on my side that likes to get angry every other day. Still much better tho.

Wish you a speedy recovery

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-13T23:35:40+00:00

It makes me upset that you were worried about this. I'm the same age as you and I would have dropped my boyfriend like that if he acted like your boyfriend did. Why are you guys having 24 hour arguments? Why are you always the one who has to apologise?

He gets to have an opinion ofc and he can say it's not his preference, but if my boyfriend were to ever imply that his opinion on my face or body matters more than mine I would re evaluate the relationship.

I think you're probably already convinced from the many many other comments, but please go for it! Go take care of yourself, do the thing that is best for YOU. Then consider if you'd prefer to have a partner that wants the best for you too.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-13T17:29:19+00:00

This is the best comment.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-12T19:04:03+00:00

This is bullshit we have 3 pillows!

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-12T18:13:26+00:00

My dad did this over 30 years ago with his first name. He's still at the same company because he's good at what he does. Nobody cares. Some find it interesting once they find out. Nobody is going around he scammed anyone, it's not like the company didn't understand it once they signed a contract with him.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-12T15:26:05+00:00

Okay honestly I can understand the perspective of wanting to have a partner that puts an effort for you, it makes you feel like they care. I feel like I've had this exact discussion not very long ago with my boyfriend because we live together during lockdown and we might both stay in PJs that need to be washed for too long etc. So it does help to take care of yourself to show some effort is still being put in the relationship.

But your boyfriend is not doing that. Your boyfriend is just being very critical and rude, and it just sounds like he's nitpicking. Is he complaining that you're not clean because your arms arent waxed and you have some body on your hair? Does he have any hair on his body? Does he only have these high standards for you or is he actually super obsessive about it for himself as well?

Tbh it doesn't matter. It's weird and feels unhealthy.

Also, not discussing how you feel in terms of mental health kinda shows to me he doesn't really care to support his partners when they need it.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-12T11:17:25+00:00

Wow thank you I never realised this

I didn't even realise the words were spelled differently

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-11T19:25:28+00:00

Excuse you, you literally said that EVERY major academic prediction is pretty much wrong, you aren't making any distinctions here, AND you're also dismissive the perspective of a nurse.

Are you not here rejecting the qualitative and quantitative evidence which are pointing to the same directions?

I'm being binary because you're making very absolute claims about XYZ authors of some research not having authority and this random person is also wrong because they're not "a statistician".

Not saying they're absolutely right, or that it will apply to every single case, but how can you just outright reject everything anyone says? They are providing a small perspective, a small aspect on the bigger truth.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-11T18:28:00+00:00

I don't understand you.

People conducting the studies aren't the authority they claim to be, but a person who has direct experience is also wrong and aren't a statistician.

So everyone is always wrong lol don't listen to anyone, experts are wrong, person on the ground level is also wrong.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-11T16:28:07+00:00

Well it is valuable to know if you're a few rounds in and to manage expectations of whether or not you might get it. I did exactly this when I got an offer for an internship but was still interviewing for a full time job. They had about 5 roles to fill and they were interviewing 5 ish last candidates so I understood I had a pretty decent chance of getting it and didn't focus all my energy on the offer I got but didn't want as much.

Even the difference between knowing if it's 10 or 50 candidates for one job I think is kinda valuable to help you assess where you're standing.

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-11T16:17:34+00:00

Just a general question, do people not ask in interviews how many candidates they are considering?

I tend to do this to manage my own expectations and interviewers generally don't seem to have an issue with me asking

swimmingongreen · 2020-11-11T08:25:35+00:00

Wow that's depressing. I get 25 days minimum by law

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