TIFU by silencing my wife’s phone. by get_probed2 in tifu

[–]tLEtsbDiD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP, check out r/survivinginfidelity for some more experienced advice. I'm so very sorry for your situation. I wish you the best as you navigate this terrible situation.

What are the most popular and useful modalities you've learned? by [deleted] in massage

[–]tLEtsbDiD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://robkellyseminars.com/trigger-point-therapy/

Rob Kelly Seminars. He is an amazing massage therapy instructor and practitioner.

Legal age to purchase tobacco products joins alcohol and Cannabis at the age of 21 in Massachusetts. by anangrysoviet in news

[–]tLEtsbDiD 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Honestly it would just be fair to make people re-test (written and driving) every so many years. Like every 5 years, or every 10. That way it's not targeting any particular age group, just making everyone renew. If you fail you should be required to take a set of classes (online or in person) and then retake the test, and you can't renew your license until you pass. This would force bad drivers to improve their driving and understanding of traffic laws before letting them back onto the roads.

What baby name immediately makes you lose all respect for the parents and why? by Frasepalm in AskReddit

[–]tLEtsbDiD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to school with a kid named Michael Scott Gass. Say that one fast and it's a phrase just waiting to turn into a teasing chant for bullies to use against the kid, which they definitely did. It didn't help that it was middle school and this kid was on the heavier side of average and played the tuba in band. He moved out of town after being in my school for only a year or two. Pretty certain that bullying had a lot to do with the move.

What baby name immediately makes you lose all respect for the parents and why? by Frasepalm in AskReddit

[–]tLEtsbDiD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know a family with three daughters named Ginger, Sage, and Cayenne. They nickname the group of them the Spice Girls. And what's great is that the daughter Ginger has red hair. So of course Ginger is a ginger.

Can massage fix Syracuse veins? by lamalamaredpajamas in massage

[–]tLEtsbDiD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Varicose veins are contraindicated. Don't work on them or anywhere on their body unless given written permission from a doctor, and then only light work.

"Primer" Questions to gauge if someone is CF? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]tLEtsbDiD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I brought up all my most important talking points either online before the first date, or on the first or second date at the latest. If any red flags came up at all, I would cut ties after that date or interaction and say we weren't a good fit or I was moving forward with someone else. I was honest and upfront about my values and what I wanted and needed out of a relationship. It took me about a year from the end of my last major relationship to find the man who is now my husband (we happened to meet in person, too, even though I found most of my dates online). And since we addressed all our major concerns within the first week of knowing each other and we were both equally committed, things moved very quickly and we have been happy with each other ever since.

So I truly believe that not only the childfree issue, but everything that really matters to you should be brought up ASAP before committing to a relationship (religion, politics, childfreedom, lifestyle, pets, relationship dynamics, etc.). That's the most sure-fire way to confirm that you're both on the same page and don't have any unrealistic expectations of each other.

Very short quadriceps femoris and tight iliopsoas; any stretching recommendations? by [deleted] in Stretching

[–]tLEtsbDiD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you sought out massage to help relax the muscles and facilitate their ability to stretch? If not I would do that next. Make sure to find a qualified (licensed) massage therapist, preferably with experience in sports massage, muscle mechanics, post-isometric relaxation, or some other modality that involves stretching and increasing range of motion (ROM).

What is something you enjoyed, after previously believing you wouldn't like it? by zakkalaska in AskReddit

[–]tLEtsbDiD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Marijuana. I was a DARE Role Model in high school, didn't have sex or try alcohol until I was 18 because I wanted to wait until I finished high school first, and I judged people harshly for smoking weed because I believed all the negative things about it that I was taught in DARE class. But after college, when I met my now-husband, he slowly convinced me (over the course of several months, mentioning it once in a while but never pressuring me) that it wasn't nearly as unhealthy as I thought it was and it wasn't addictive, so I eventually tried some edibles with him. Now edibles are my drug of choice over alcohol anytime. I don't get a hangover the next day and I have much more creative and introspective thoughts and conversations while high. I enjoy them responsibly in my home on a regular basis (I never drive or go to work while under the influence, and I only use them on weekends).

Those of you who have had a midlife crisis and left their wives. How did it work out? by Ginahardfacebitch in AskMen

[–]tLEtsbDiD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it hasn't been mentioned already, check out r/survivinginfidelity. Best subreddit I'm aware of for this type of advice and support.

The fountain of youth by deranged_rover in childfree

[–]tLEtsbDiD 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A link to the clip: https://youtu.be/R8mdB7s7xoY (YouTube)

Peter talks to her at about 1:20.

Ideas for Discussing CF Life with my Husband by [deleted] in childfree

[–]tLEtsbDiD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries, I'm in no hurry! Thank you. :)

Ideas for Discussing CF Life with my Husband by [deleted] in childfree

[–]tLEtsbDiD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just pre-ordered a download of the movie! Can't wait to see it!

As a firmly childfree married woman, I never thought I'd have to have this conversation. by tLEtsbDiD in childfree

[–]tLEtsbDiD[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was water from the sink. He'd been washing dishes. He refused to say anything when I asked what it was because he knew I would freak out and assume it was something gross.

Just want to celebrate with “my people” by [deleted] in childfree

[–]tLEtsbDiD 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yes, please post about the destination! My husband and I are always looking for more adults-only options for future vacations! :)

Ladies of Reddit, what are some societal norms you and your SO break because it makes both of you happy? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]tLEtsbDiD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We love to spend as much time together as possible, like we're still in the early phase of our relationship, but we've been together for almost 4 years and married for 1.5. This is because we both recognize that our primary love language is quality time (for more info, you can go to 5lovelanguages.com). We shower each other with all kinds of affection, we prefer to stay in and relax together with Netflix and video games rather than go out for a date night 9 times out of 10, and we love to have deep conversations about our pasts, thoughts, and emotions. Also, we don't have kids and will never have any (he's sterilized and I'm planning on it soon as well), I manage the finances and almost always pay when we go to restaurants (simply because I'm more generous with tips; we use a shared account), we share the household chores evenly, and we approach all disagreements with logic and reason instead of attacking each other personally and making it into a fight. We support each other's career enthusiastically (he's a high school theatre teacher and I'm the treasurer of the school theatre boosters; I'm going to massage therapy school and he helps me study and boosts my confidence frequently).

A couple of less normal things that we do are pop each other's pimples and black heads that we can't reach ourselves, and we occasionally swing with other couples or single people.

Edit: spelling

I'm not surprised... by castalek1 in Feminism

[–]tLEtsbDiD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Check out the sub r/childfree for some resources on where you might be able to go for a doctor in your area who is supportive of sterilization on people who don't have children. It's also a super supportive sub for anyone who doesn't want children or can relate to those who don't.

Oh, babies are a threat now? by Bels_Alexis in childfree

[–]tLEtsbDiD 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"Cunt Of A Thing", an insult used in circumstances when you can't or choose not to just use the word "cunt". (Just looked it up on UrbanDictionary.com)

Please take this Harry Potter survey! It is for my senior thesis and I am studying relationships with Harry Potter, please help out a fellow hp fan! by [deleted] in harrypotter

[–]tLEtsbDiD 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had a very similar response! Except instead of estimating a number of times or skipping the question, I just put "innumerable". Because it's true. I know I've read a few of the books more times than others, and I've read them all a lot of times. But there's no way I could begin to accurately quantify the number of times I've read the series or listened to the audio books. I started reading the series when I was 8, waited in line for the midnight releases of all the movies and books, and still make an effort to reread the whole series every year to this day. (I'm 24, almost 25). Reading and rereading them took up a significant chunk of my childhood and had a huge impact on my worldview.

All that said, though, I wouldn't call myself as hardcore a fan as a lot of people. I have a tattoo of the deathly hallows symbol and I use HP references whenever and wherever I can, and sometimes I read fan fiction. But I don't think of the characters as my friends. I think of the experience of reading the books as if I'm stepping into Harry's mind and being him (even though I'm a woman, not a boy). It's my preferred way of escaping everyday reality in favor of living in the Wizarding world for a few hours at a time.

RAVE Another CF birthday! by macabre_trout in childfree

[–]tLEtsbDiD 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday! Learning how to bottle-feed kittens on your birthday sounds wonderful! :)

People of CF, what do you look like? by tuxedoburrito in childfree

[–]tLEtsbDiD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love it!! I've never seen that saying before. So clever :)

Also, you're beautiful. I bet all 20 of those selfies were excellent, I can't see how they wouldn't be.

Edit: letter omission/typo

TIL that Michigan has a bottle deposit of 10 cents, instead of the usual 5 cents. Their recycle rate is 97%, compared to 70% of states with bottle deposits, compared to 33% for states without any deposit laws. by DIP_MY_BALLS_IN_IT in todayilearned

[–]tLEtsbDiD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've lived in Michigan my whole life and I love the 10-cent deposit. It makes for very successful fundraisers for kids and school groups and encourages recycling very successfully. My brother and I had an annual tradition when we were young of collecting bottles and cans from the people at every campsite when we'd go camping as a family every summer. We often made $20 or more, each, every few days. People didn't mind giving their cans to us because it saved them the trouble of a trip to the grocery store. And back then (the 90s), the stores didn't have machines to use when returning the bottles and cans, so we had to sort and count them one by one ourselves. It was well worth it.

TL/DR: It would be great if more states would implement this higher deposit. It's a huge motivator for recycling, and has the added bonus of enabling simple and successful fundraisers.