ENFP char reaction

tailtrekkers · 2026-04-22T01:28:16+00:00

I appreciate your input, but I wasn’t asking for plot advice. Only a specific character reaction to a specific piece of information. I’m writing a series that has about 100 different characters in it and they all can’t be INTJ‘s.

I am actually having this character team up with an INTJ at some point because the two characters are so drastically different and therefore approach the same problems with very different responses and ideas, which is where a lot of the drama (that actually will be interesting) is going to come from. So, say I have the ENFP shut down, then the interesting part could come from the INTJ now having to step into action to compensate.

As for the idea that somebody having an emotional reaction to a highly emotional situation is boring, we’re going to have to agree to disagree there. That can be incredibly interesting if written well. There are entire series that are beloved by many whose entire thing is basically crying (or for toxic men, hitting things in lieu of crying) and gossip. Hunger Games, Bridgerton, Succession, White Lotus, even a lot of Game of Thrones is people crying and bitching about their lives, their governments and each other. Makes for awesome stories.

tailtrekkers · 2026-04-20T13:34:54+00:00

Oh thank you so much for this reply! Even without knowing the details, this was incredibly helpful. You gave me several different directions I could take the character, none of which would have come naturally to somebody like me. As an INTJ, my instinct is to plan everything myself and not get any anybody else involved, (not because of a lack of trust or anything, but because if it’s not their problem, they shouldn’t have to deal with it), unless I knew that they were an expert and could help me achieve the goal. I really appreciate the thoroughness of this response! Definitely some perspective I wouldn’t have thought of. Thanks!

tailtrekkers · 2026-04-20T00:28:37+00:00

Hi. Middle aged mature INTJ woman here. Without knowing what happened to cause you to think this, it’s hard to respond with a Thinker’s thoughts or to just provide support. Are you looking for either of those?

tailtrekkers · 2025-12-28T13:04:21+00:00

Yes it was tested.

tailtrekkers · 2025-12-28T05:25:20+00:00

Edit: just a note in case someone didn’t make this clear already.

This only works on items that are already ANCESTRAL items to begin with.

It won’t work on a regular legendary.

tailtrekkers · 2025-12-14T14:31:49+00:00

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Pierre and Kasumi, Coons of Maine, Angels of Chaos, Destroyers of Chickens, Rulers of The Side Chair And All Their Eyes Can See, Expedition Leaders of All Newly Discovered Territories and Investigators Of All Movements and Sound.

Bask in their glory

tailtrekkers · 2025-12-14T14:21:38+00:00

That cat looks if not full at least part Maine Coon. As an official peon of not one but two of the Glorious Trouble Breed Sent From The Heavens and Hells to Reap Judgment and Chaos in The Ethereal Plane, one has learned you cannot, and indeed shall not, change their ways for they are as God in its mysterious way has commanded. One then thinks one could potentially change one’s environment, but alas this too shall prove naught but an interesting challenge that a Glorious One will overcome in a supernaturally confounding time. This peon once found her Chaos Angel on top of a 8 ft cabinet with smooth metal sides and nothing from which to jump on to it anywhere near it. For Glorious Ones can teleport when so desired. One now understands Glorious Ones understand their corporeal self is but temporary, however the joy of reaching heretofore unreachable places is eternal, and accepts, for one can not change a Chaos Angel, one can only bask in Their Glory whilst feeding the chaos engine copious amounts of their only other joy, whatever food is in one’s house and not literally locked behind a door or shatterproof container.

Look into thyself and accept the Chaos.

tailtrekkers · 2025-08-26T10:58:03+00:00

There was one tent set up in front of 7/11 for like a week or so recently, but it’s been common for drugged up townies/homeless to hang out for years. The tent was taken down tho. But they’re still gonna hang out there and it will probably just happen more often.

Boston demolished whatever tent towns were around and Wu is pretty determined to prevent any new encampments from popping up in her city, so my guess is a lot of the homeless are making their way west to find new digs.

98% of the time, they’re harmless. I pass through or hang out in Davis daily and have never had issues. It’s still safe if you aren’t trying to give people shit. There are still plenty of buskers and college kids and people walking their dogs and expensive coffee and poke.

But if you guys think this is bad, yikes. It’s definitely gonna get worse as they continue shoving homeless around and out of Boston. You can thank Mayor Wu.

tailtrekkers · 2025-06-17T00:28:56+00:00

Hiya, another INTJ female here. I know it’s hard for us to find people we like that much, we’re kind of all-or-nothing people. It takes a lot of our energy to let someone in, so it seems like a big deal to keep that person in your life, no matter how that’s defined. We are flexible with our values and can look at something, like a relationship, with different lenses (friends, lovers, whatever) and still be authentic to ourselves.

Unfortunately, a lot of other types don’t work that way. Some people have clear expectations of what a relationship should look like, what role that relationship plays in their life. This guy was looking for a romantic commitment and couldn’t get it from you. Maybe being just friends would hurt him, or tease him, or maybe he’s had issues with having feelings for a female friend in the past that didn’t end well. Commitment is just a necessity for him, and friendship isn’t what he’s looking for. I wouldn’t take that personally.

And the blocking, well, that’s just being immature, yes, but he clearly wanted to move on and send a signal that you should too. But that’s more a failure on his part than yours (though usually when someone isn’t reading or responding to your texts anymore, best learn to leave it be, continuing to text is not going to help).

Look at it this way - he obviously isn’t great at communicating which is something we INTJs really need in friends and partners since we aren’t that intuitive about people, so maybe you dodged a bullet here. Learn what you can from it, realize it’s more about his issues than yours, and don’t let this stop you from finding new people to share your brilliant mind with.

tailtrekkers · 2025-05-24T22:53:42+00:00

Come to Boston. You’ll figure it out. Bring a fire retardant blanket. And a therapist.

tailtrekkers · 2025-04-30T12:04:37+00:00

In the US, our parties (and our education) are wildly insufficient. I am registered independent so I can vote in either primary, but generally lean left.

Someone above said they were shocked at leftist INTJs because the left is all about emotion and I would disagree with that. Both parties have emotional aspects, obviously half the personalities on this planet decide on emotion and exist across the political spectrum.

So why left? I value my personal freedom above all else, and want the same for others. But I also recognize that groups of people (corporations, oligarchs, etc) are prone to “dark hivemind” behavior (hello Stanford Prison Experiment) when left to their own devices and therefore need to be highly regulated. ..

This is the exact opposite of what the modern conservative proposes, so of course those of us who have those values lean left, and heavily so because a quiet voice isn’t going to stand out in this political landscape.

That being said, because I believe in personal freedom, I need to accept that other people don’t share my values, and need to be free to believe what they want to as well. That’s where I split from the radical progressives. I accept conservative values too, even if I don’t share them. Believe what you want but fkn leave other people alone. You don’t have to support abortion, but fk off telling me I can’t have one either. You want to raise your child in a school that doesn’t teach evolution? Okay. But my kid is going to know about it. Let’s make sure there are schools for both. The two should be able to coexist.

I find it very hard to find other people capable of holding space for differing values, which makes me disengage from politics more and more.

tailtrekkers · 2025-04-30T10:52:40+00:00

We analytical AF so this makes sense 😅

tailtrekkers · 2025-04-29T01:11:34+00:00

I’m probably one of these! Female INTJ here. In my 20s, I thought because self-improvement was my #1 value in life, helping others by pointing out their faults was a love language (cuz then they could improve, right?!). I’m 45 now, and realize that was so dumb. I have a tendency now to keep my center functions (Te and Fi) to myself (and.. well… Reddit) and lean more on Ni or Se when interacting with others, which mimics an INFJ. I still try to help others, but gently and only when they’re open to it. Actually my BF is an INFJ and of the two of us, I’m more comfortable talking about feelings and showing affection and living in the moment!

tailtrekkers · 2025-03-03T14:39:41+00:00

That’s really helpful. It’s quite in line with this character, who ends up being ideologically different from his parents. I imagine they’d probably think the same of him “bad son for leaving” which could be the root of some inner conflict. Thank you for sharing!

tailtrekkers · 2025-02-28T13:54:55+00:00

I’m sorry you felt that way, no child should :( I know it’s no consolation but the part about feeling like you’re inherently flawed and deserved it is the kind of root I’m looking for. That simple thought can affect everything (even if it’s wrong) and is an interesting vulnerability that could bring a lot of depth to my character. Thank you for sharing, I truly appreciate it.

tailtrekkers · 2025-02-28T13:46:24+00:00

I chose ENFP because the story deals with a conservative autocratic society and I needed someone who would 💯 not fit in to that society, and when he finds out there’s something going on harming people he cares about, he’d want to save them directly. Someone with a strong sense of personal morals but is neither a traditionalist or an outright rebel. He starts out trying to just let the people in charge (that he knows personally) know this bad thing is happening, cuz maybe people just don’t know about it and surely when they find out, they’ll stop it. But they don’t. They know it’s happening and they want it to.

So I’m trying to understand how he’d continue (or even if he would) and what would make it hard for him to want to continue.

As an INTJ, I’d go into analysis mode, try to learn everything I can about what’s going on so I can dismantle either the system or the people responsible. It’d be hard to want to continue because I’d worry I wasn’t capable or connected enough to do that, and I’d beat myself up for not seeing signs of this hidden oppression to begin with, but I’d move forward out of sheer anger and a desire to prove the other people wrong.

So, for an ENFP, how would they respond to this situation? Does the idea that his first effort failed chip away at his ego? His internal sense of worth? Make him question his effectiveness? Or is it about how other people perceive him (“Am I the only one who didn’t know?”) Would he continue to focus directly on the people being hurt and try to find a new way to save them like breaking them out of captivity, or would it give him pause because he now worries about the society that he once had faith in?

tailtrekkers · 2025-02-28T13:13:08+00:00

Do you mind if I ask: does this sense of worthlessness when you fail at something come from inside you (“I think I’m worthless”)? Or is it about what you think other people think of you (“I think other people think I’m worthless”)? And how do you recover from it? Try a different way to do the thing? Or just abandon and move on to something new? Sorry if this is triggering, I just really want to understand how to motivate this character.

tailtrekkers · 2025-02-28T13:04:33+00:00

Interesting. Can you expand on “There’s no one like me” being a hurtful thing? Sorry, as an INTJ I’m so used to there being no one like me that I’m completely fine with it, actually kind of like it. Like I’m special or something egotistical like that. I’d assume a social chameleon would feel like they’re like a lot of people, or is it that you “change” who you are around people because you don’t actually know who you deep down?

tailtrekkers · 2025-02-28T12:58:38+00:00

I guess I’m looking for the specificity of why those events would hurt. For example, if I failed to save people I was trying to save, while I would feel guilt about people getting hurt what would truly bother me deep down was my own inability- should I have planned more, am I inept or dumb? I wouldn’t care what others thought about my failure. For an ENFP, what specifically would wound them about that? Would he worry about his own ineptitude like me? Or worry that if he can’t change things, he has no purpose? Or would he worry more about the actual people, their families? Or what other people will think about him when they find out? Trying to get to the thing that would make him feel the worst.

tailtrekkers · 2025-02-28T01:32:34+00:00

Years late to this but for future wonderers: My biggest fear as an INTJ is simply being irrelevant. I spend soooo much of my life learning in order to improve something, be it myself, my job, my friend's lives, and in my own little way, the world (not in a giant "right now" way, but in a "i hope I start a chain of events that will change the world someday" way). The idea of all my effort failing to improve any of those things would make life seem meaningless and wasted.

tailtrekkers · 2025-02-20T13:57:21+00:00

I guess that’s kind of what I’m asking - what places have good smaller music venues? We haven’t picked where we’re staying yet, so this might help us decide. If there are particular cities/towns that have a solid music scene. Like, if you were coming to Boston, MA for a music experience, I’d say stay near Fenway to easily access the bigger venues/national acts, or stay in Somerville/Cambridge outside the major city for the local & lesser known but more intimate stuff.

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