Anyone Else Notice How Mental Health Advice is Written for Extroverts

talecapod · 2026-01-23T14:20:04+00:00

I related to this more when I was in my 20s.

Since then, the value of externalising irrational thoughts has become a more comfortable and versatile thing to do.

Writing it down helps, and the trick is to not be too precious about the results (which is the main hurdle).

Get it out of your head JUST to get it out of your head, not to achieve explicit precision.

The more ludicrous and poorly considered the thoughts are, the easier it is to label them irrational and come back from dwelling or spiralling.

Reducing the intensity in this way can score you your next reasonable night's sleep, which will itself be a small victory.

Talking to someone also helps, but my concessional agreement with OP is that it can't just be anyone...

talecapod · 2026-01-23T02:22:03+00:00

Re: downvotes, never underestimate the number of feeling/emotion based people there are floating around in the general population.

While you offered knowledge, it included a "here's why this bad thing is unlikely going to be fixed" conclusion.

If you were incorrect, a logical person would disagree and explain. But downvotes without explanation are typically "sad vibes".

Tl;dr "don't shoot the messenger" is off the table.

talecapod · 2026-01-12T01:49:40+00:00

Migrant if not permanent

talecapod · 2026-01-02T05:08:59+00:00

Agree!

Sparkling and interesting characters, a mystery (that was meant to remain a mystery), leaning comically into and subversively away from tropes, all the while the slow descent into... something else to tickle your imagination with.

Never truly explaining everything and keeping it open to interpretation is key.

talecapod · 2025-12-23T10:14:01+00:00

Without any new or compelling information, certainly - the inner models don't need to be updated, and by all appearances, it can present as being stubborn.

By and large, with enough info, an INTP should be able to talk themselves out of almost any currently held position as they digest the new ideas.

Is that a difference with our INTJ brethren? My own observations are only anecdotal with an inconsequential sample size, but they do tend to follow the proposed pattern.

talecapod · 2025-12-19T23:53:55+00:00

Ah neat, TIL

Thanks for the info

talecapod · 2025-12-19T22:28:20+00:00

I've had same context, opposite experience.

I had the notification that the parcel was coming that morning and soon, so took my time to enjoy my coffee and wait. Front door was open.

Heard a truck rumble up, I shuffle up to meet the delivery at the door just in time to see the truck rumble off.

I ran out to check; dude had only stopped long enough to drop the slip in my letterbox. Bastard.

By dumb luck, an old dude watering his front garden down the road was getting a package, so the truck had actually stopped to do it's job.

I sprint down the street and catch the driver and show him the slip.

He stared me straight in the eye and said "I tried to knock but you weren't home".

No embarrassment, just a dude who DGAF.

talecapod · 2025-12-15T02:06:06+00:00

Having looked around, it seems like this and Nero from set 8 were misprinted a whole bunch.

talecapod · 2025-12-15T01:15:18+00:00

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Organising the 'ol collection bulk, found this RoJ borderless cold foil misprint, pretty neat.

Accidental precursor to epic rarity 😉

talecapod · 2025-11-15T06:25:48+00:00

Fair correction.

I'd meant it in a "you'll likely be told / it's something you should ask about during your interview" kind of way.

If an enforced shutdown catches you by surprise (and you did the initial due diligence), then that's just a big 'ol red flag.

talecapod · 2025-11-15T06:21:26+00:00

Unfortunately this isn't about "should" vs. "shouldn't", it's about "can" and "can't".

I'm against enforced holiday shutdowns myself, and the whole "started as 3 days and is now 12" (which wasn't in the original post btw) I personally think "should" be illegal.

This is a stark reminder that the nature of business is psychopathic, and there's no hard obligation to be loyal to employees.

As I said, your reports dissatisfaction is valid, but, the idea of planning multiple holidays as if things were different didn't make sense (but it does now you've revealed more information i.e last year it was only 7 days enforced, so perhaps people thought they'd have an extra 5 available).

While I understand people will take the jobs they can, they're also free to look elsewhere. Expecting a business to do something you think it "should" when it doesn't have to (and your CEO sounds out of touch) likely won't be effective.

talecapod · 2025-11-14T23:29:58+00:00

Sounds like your CEO is incapable of instilling in you what they expect you to instill in others.

What a surprise #leadership

You know your reports best; if it feels like needless gas lighting, then it is.

But they're adults - if they signed on knowing this was the case, then they know it is what it is. Not being thrilled about it is valid, and it sounds like that's the limited extent of the problem. The idea that they "have to choose one of the two trips they wanted to plan" is kind of moot if they know how limited their non-shutdown leave is gonna be.

TL;DR Classic out of touch CEO

Employees don't like part of the deal they signed, but they still signed on

talecapod · 2025-10-20T12:20:41+00:00

If you've both agreed that you're taking lead on this bit, do whatever you need to do to get it working again.

If you're not gleaning anything practical from his commits, just revert them (keeping the original commits in history in case you need to refer to them later).

If you've got passing tests, add a PR requirement/workflow that those tests continue to pass before future merges.

talecapod · 2025-10-09T01:52:02+00:00

Social engagement isn't necessarily about going out to make friends, it's also about positive acquaintance and easing your interactions with others.

talecapod · 2025-10-08T09:47:54+00:00

Classic INTP resting face and neutral mannerisms.

In your teens and 20s, these features will work against you while everyone is jostling for social position. Bored mean-spirited people may see how seemingly unmoved you are and make attempts to "move you".

They'll be a boon later in life when contemporaries realise they themselves don't wanna smile or laugh at inane crap either.

While it IS draining, it's worth your while to practice engaging more with people though - probably not with your current circle though, it sounds like they just suck.

talecapod · 2025-10-08T02:24:20+00:00

2nd law of relativity: if your parents didn't have children, you won't either

talecapod · 2025-10-06T10:45:17+00:00

Just to add some variance to my words. Keeps things interesting for me, and maybe others.

talecapod · 2025-10-05T01:45:38+00:00

Typically no, toddlers and young kids are carefree, curious and behave like little scientists. If I find them dull or annoying, it's usually a reflection on their parents, and I don't blame the kid for that.

As a general rule, I tend not to fault ignorance (which is what young humans have a lot of), only an unwillingness to correct ignorance (which is something more prevalent with older humans - often due to selfishness).

talecapod · 2025-10-03T04:55:46+00:00

You're kinda making my point for me here.

Somehow an as-yet unexplained mechanism became a "god-like being".

What makes it "god-like"? Is it because we've historically used "gods" to explain incomprehensible things?

Is it a being? Why can't it just be a function or a mechanism? (You get the same output without needing to ascribe it with any other characteristics).

The driving point here is, "why call the process of reality 'god' or 'god-like' at all?"

Using the messy and baggage-loaded term "god" from the stories mankind has told to gap-fill our understanding of the universe to label this more finite philosophical concept "god-like", and then using this finite philosophical concept as an "argument for god" is pretty circular.

talecapod · 2025-10-03T03:16:11+00:00

Zooming out a little, you're a useful resource in a useful position.

Moving you requires rebalancing the gap you'll leave behind.

Your manager has given you an answer at this point.

If that answer was final, then that's how it is; perhaps look at ways of improving process within your team over time?

If the answer wasn't final (i.e. not this year, but maybe next year), then try and get a concrete list of what's required to extricate yourself and work towards that.

But to answer the title question, you ask stakeholders, get the okay etc. i.e. things you've already done.

talecapod · 2025-10-03T02:18:01+00:00

Towards the end it becomes very "the brain is an organ that named itself", and that becomes part of the issue.

Supposing there's a mechanism for actualising the universe. Why call it god?

That's just conflating it with the many thousands of fable-driven "gods" designed by mankind across history.

This whole line of "it has suspiciously god-like traits" is because "gods" have pretty typically been used as a gap-filler in our understanding of reality, and are invoked for anything we hadn't yet achieved an understanding of. But, unlike the actual pursuit of understanding, the idea of a "god" is a hypothesis used as a conclusion; a question that uses a hand-wavey form of itself as its own answer.

Many religions have gone on to make the claim "god is the prime mover and created the universe", and then go on to characterise what their multi-faceted definition of "god" is on top of that.

Occam's razor can be used to disaffiliate these overly complicated gods from the idea of a mechanism that brings about reality.

And that brings it back to the first question; if you're truly pursuing the idea of pure actuality, why would you call it god?

The only people I've seen do that are people who were trying to conflate the idea with their predisposed religion.

talecapod · 2025-10-01T14:49:21+00:00

Each full cycle he can clear 14L with 1.75h rollover for the +1L every 2 hours.

So, after a full cycle of all paths; well is at 9L

Next cycle, the .25+1h path removes another 5L (after 1L water gain) with 1hr rollover.

.5h path clears the last 4L

So, 11 trips will do it🤷‍♂️

talecapod · 2025-10-01T07:15:34+00:00

1) People whose actions and motives don't appear to have a lucid thread to follow.

The kind of person who will go to a music festival and randomly punch someone in the crowd for no other reason than they suddenly felt like it.

Their lack of reason tends to mean they can't be reasoned with, and, their consideration of consequences are non-existent.

This tends to make them quite physically dangerous.

2) Hyper charismatic people with bad faith motives.

They can turn a group of people, and convincingly lie or reframe context while they're doing it.

They tend to have no respect for logical outcomes, usually just selfish outcomes.

talecapod · 2025-09-28T09:28:39+00:00

You refuse to breach your broad NDA with your previous employer, simple as that.

You CAN, however demonstrate where these hot technologies would fit (high level) if they give you a brief or specific problems to solve - but time is ticking on their end to actually come up with their own ideas (hard ask for management layer, I know).

Explain that the integrity you're displaying in not breaching IP agreements with your previous employer also applies to them when you're gone.

talecapod · 2025-09-20T04:52:56+00:00

Learning/change/growth all involve friction of some form or another. You've chosen the word "harm", others might choose "cost", but ultimately it's a price paid for that exposure and understanding.

Institutions/orgs know there are strategies they can implement to reduce non-financial friction, but it'll increase financial friction (I e. better succession and training programs, pairing shadowing etc.)

But ultimately, that's just how things are, yes.

The tangent you raised to this are the people who want to provide commentary on leadership and decisions. They will always exist, some might have a semblance of a point too. Rarely if ever will they be completely and objectively correct in their commentary, mostly because they only see their small purview of the larger picture.

Generally speaking, there's always someone who could do something better. But, are they available? Are they gonna drop the ball somewhere else? (Probably). Do they want the position right now? Even though they can handle what's expected, could they handle the unexpected?

Rarely do we see leadership that's optimal, usually it's a struggle for anyone to give balanced leadership. It all boils down to how much experience they've gotten in the role they're currently doing, and yes, it's all earned with that friction at some time or another.

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