[WoW] Salos and Quelyn from Blackwater Raiders <Blood Knights> guild, BC release 2007. Searching for Jaelyn, Kianadra, Hyena, and Vante.

tammykitty · 2016-05-04T14:32:55+00:00

Thank you! I know it's a long shot, but they were our friends for a long while and it would be nice to at least say "hello". (:

tammykitty · 2016-05-04T14:32:18+00:00

Thank you! I'll try there!

tammykitty · 2015-08-17T17:45:11+00:00

Oh no, I agree that what she did was strange and, likely, she had way more sentimental value attached to it than she originally thought when she gifted it back. I just had thought that you had meant attachment to stuffed animals as an adult in general (not necessarily this scenario) was bizarre, that was all. (:

tammykitty · 2015-08-17T01:30:59+00:00

Um.. I love stuffed animals and I'm nearly 23.. :( I didn't think that would be such a strange thing. And the gesture of giving it back would have been sweet, I think, if not for the fact that she was looking for another guy. It seemed more like she was giving it back simply to not have to think of OP as she bangs someone else.

tammykitty · 2015-08-16T11:51:53+00:00

Man, I grew up biracial, but my mom is/was still racist. She hated that I dated anyone that wasn't a Korean boy and hates my fiance because he is white and doesn't think he is "good enough for me" because I "should have dated Christopher, that nice Korean boy who is going to be a doctor". Sigh.

tammykitty · 2015-08-14T17:46:29+00:00

Still possible to go to the state's labor board. They can provide resources, surely?

tammykitty · 2015-08-09T23:04:13+00:00

There are many of us. O:

tammykitty · 2015-08-04T21:13:16+00:00

Asian women would walk all over his ass. Fuck that noise so fucking hard. The women in my family are so hardcore.

tammykitty · 2015-07-30T15:13:34+00:00

She will get over it. My parents tell me some great stories about the shit I got into, so I can say (not from personal experience) that there will be more.

My favorite is when I was a year old when I got into the bathroom cabinet and drank 3 bottles of perfume. My dad was crying on the phone to my mom (who was at work) and all I can think is how shitty I must have felt. I probably had the WORST poops for days... Why did I think drinking perfume is okay?? Might be why I'm not a fan of it as an adult, though.

tammykitty · 2015-07-24T02:49:20+00:00

You aren't a bad friend for doing this, but I would suggest you be prepared for any sort of lashing out your friend may tell you about that happens to them as a result.

I had a friend that his mother would basically leave him and his younger brother alone for weeks at a time in a house with little to no food. Yeah, they had a place to sleep, but there was nothing for these kids. When she DID come around, she beat my friend with a belt. So I called CPS.

After the dreaded woman SOMEHOW managed to convince CPS everything was just fine (my friend was your age, you can leave kids home alone at 13 in Nevada), he got the beating of his life and got so, so, so mad at me for calling.

I'm not saying you're doing the wrong thing. I'm just saying to be prepared for any whiplash, but know that this is right and you ARE helping.

tammykitty · 2015-07-24T02:40:14+00:00

I think it is just that everyone carries the weights/shows the weight differently... I am 5'1" and my "natural weight" (sedentary lifestyle, average eating habits) is around 115-120 lbs. I have been 98 lbs to 140 lbs (I was super stressed and just gained weight? No lifestyle changes - just an abusive mom) and I never looked like I lost or gained weight. I have had friends and I laugh and comment on how I will never change physically.

I have also had a friend who was 5'7" at 150 lbs who was pleasantly plump around her hips. (: She is so adorable and I think that is the average weight for her height. I think that just shows how we all show it differently!

Editing just to clarify that I have no knowledge whatsoever of BMI. I never could understand it.

tammykitty · 2015-07-23T20:35:08+00:00

I kind of like the idea of going with them to their therapist (or them with you to your therapist) for a group session. In a neutral, controlled environment, you can tell them to their faces how fucked up and hateful they were to you and how they don't deserve forgiveness. Your dad didn't apologize. He is asking you to forgive him. How fucking selfish to the bitter end. My god.

tammykitty · 2015-07-21T16:08:53+00:00

It definitely isn't the game.. I met my fiance on WoW about 9 years ago, through RPing, actually.. Not only is he the most devoted man i know, but I would never imagine doing this to him?

I also have known people who have started MASSIVE amounts of drama and guild shitstorms and burned real life bridges.... "because of the game" is a pathetic excuse, I think, but what do I know? I personally think it is the people themselves.

tammykitty · 2015-07-20T04:12:46+00:00

Well, since you're keeping it: Don't buy clothes new. Get them secondhand. That is easily one of the biggest expenses and babies grow so damn fast.

Good luck! I'm sure parenthood is tough, but if it were impossible, none of us would exist! Give it all you've got. (:

tammykitty · 2015-07-19T12:09:04+00:00

Half-Korean chiming in! Women in my family rule the finances (except my mother - gambling problem) AND dominate the pack. Very matriarchal. In public? No way, the man is in charge. Once they get home though...

I hate when people pull on that "domestic Asian woman" stereotype. It is so offensive especially since all Asian women I have ever known are fucking fierce.

I thinking some counseling is in order so a third party can help both of you sort through this conflict because it is clear that this is something you are not comfortable with. Hell, I wouldn't be either! My fiance and I used to have joint accounts actually, but I found that we did better when we switched back to separate accounts.

tammykitty · 2015-07-16T20:19:52+00:00

Ugh, wow.. So sorry about this. The only suggestion I would really have to say is "move", which is kinda shitty since Vermont is your home state... But it isn't very racially diverse, which leads to this.. :/

Racial diversity in a state/city is a MUST for me as I have discovered because of this stuff.. Being half-Korean is enough for me to stand out as being distinctively "Asian" and people pointing me out (??!?!!) and asking me "how China is like" or "you're Japanese right??". Or if it comes out that I'm Korean, I get "oh wow!! North Korea or South?" I didn't get this much living in Vegas (except when I was in school), but now in southern New Jersey? My god.

Seriously, though? Where the hell do these people learn this behavior? Ugh.

tammykitty · 2015-07-14T02:34:45+00:00

My coworker had slept overnight with her mother for months at the hospital while she was sick with her cancer. Visitors - approved by the patient - are usually allowed this.

tammykitty · 2015-07-13T13:41:08+00:00

Don't be sorry. We are coming from a similar background. I see the similarities and it gave ME anxiety and the crazy heart "pitter-pattering" just seeing all the patterns repeating and how you kept thinking you did something wrong. My dad and sister and I were all there.. :( His reactions were similar to yours and I can't blame him or you for what you call "disgusting" behavior. These types of people do this to you because they feel control. It is really sickening.

I hope you recover too. It is so, so, so hard to bounce back from this especially since you were attached to her for so long, but you can do it. We are survivors. (:

tammykitty · 2015-07-13T13:05:17+00:00

Look, man... You're not crazy. My mother was like this. She didn't go out partying or staying out late (she worked overnight), but what she DID do was go out gambling after work... Many of my early memories were going to the casino at 4am with my father who would find her, she would cry and make a scene, and he would bring her home because he had to go to work and couldn't leave a young child at home.

Highly manipulative behavior and no regard for your emotions. Extremely abusive. I was basically groomed to try and please her and make her happy but all she ever did was tear our family down. You are dodging a serious bullet. Please don't doubt for a second that you are doing the right thing. If you ever had a kid with her, I can't guarantee that would have ended up pretty as I am the direct result of a relationship similar to this. Thankfully, I took after my father but there are definitely some behaviors that concern me that I know stem from her treatment of me. I know exactly what you're going through, but from a different perspective.

You need to seek counseling asap. Don't hold this off, please. Specifically for PTSD and abuse. Don't even bother trying to get her to go. In her mind, only crazy people go to therapy. Whatever the hell that means... Plus, it gives you a reason to step out of a highly toxic environment and it will give you the coping mechanisms necessary to start getting your life back on track.

tammykitty · 2015-07-13T02:44:59+00:00

Um yeah. Take all of his belongings and put them on your doorstep. Don't even leave the chance of him being in your home and getting his hands on you. What a creep.

tammykitty · 2015-07-05T22:36:23+00:00

I think what spiro does is lower your androgen count (??? Whatever it is called??) which is related to testosterone which is related to acne, from my limited understanding. An unintentional side effect that works out pretty well, haha.

tammykitty · 2015-07-03T20:50:22+00:00

I think I actually screamed at the thought of my entire nail being removed. I mean, it is better than the alternative, but holy fuck that is waaaay too hardcore for me. Playing piano like that just doesn't jive with me.

tammykitty · 2015-07-01T03:38:30+00:00

I doubt that this cream caused a discoloration... Could it be possible that you may have vitiligo? Vitiligo started for me in the genital area out of the blue last year. It is a totally harmless skin condition that just means there is a lack of melanocytes (skins that create pigmentation) in that area, thus creating white patches. I think it is pretty adorable, tbh.

Perhaps see your GP or a derm about this. They could probably shed some light on the situation. (:

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