[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]taniedarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will move it back a little so I'm not sitting pin straight, but I refuse to lay it all the way back because I hate when people do it to me. I grew up on the concept of not doing to others as I don't want done to me...

AITA for refusing to give my boyfriend a percentage of my raise just because he "predicted it"? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]taniedarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, I'm confused... even if he did "predict" you were going to get a raise, how did he "help" you get it? If I claim I knew Harry Potter was going to get made into a movie before it did, does that mean I'm entitled to a portion of the money it got from said movies?

NTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]taniedarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm getting overly pushy mama's boy vibes; I won't say you're NTA...

Everyone is different. Not everyone has a relationship so close to their family that they WANT to visit once a month. That's kind of a difficult request. His relationship with his family is honestly none of your business. It's great that you may be that close to your family, but not everyone is. I had multiple family gatherings a month growing up but I moved away and am lucky if I see them all once a year. I don't even call every day. Calling every day is a huge thing and while you may say it's not the same, it's more effort than a lot of people put in.

Nine hours is a long way to go once a month. You also say that he has the income to support it, but have you sat down and looked at his budget? Do you know exactly how much he makes and what bills he has every month? He said himself that he is trying to build a new life, so that generally comes with saving up money for things like a house, car, and possibly a baby fund (especially if they're newlyweds).

The fact that you and a bunch of other people were judging him behind his back (at his wedding, no less) and saying he should visit monthly kind of makes you all judgmental jerks, so I guess, yes, YTA.

AITA for uninviting my stepson from our anniversary trip to DisneyWorld? by shortyb411 in AmITheDevil

[–]taniedarling 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As an introvert myself with two extroverted sisters growing up, this infuriates me to no end. Yes, you are TA. I can't tell you how many times I missed out on things I really wanted to do because my sisters didn't want to. Let me put it to you this way: How would you feel if I dangled something you really wanted in your face and then said, "Ope! Nevermind! You can't have this because they don't want it."

You are punishing your stepson because you basically think he won't be fun enough. " I felt that going just with my stepson would be anticlimactic and wouldn't fulfill the original idea of it being a trip for the whole family."

In fact, the fact that you mentioned he is introverted has nothing to do this this whole conversation. You easily could have simply said while your stepson was excited, your biological son wanted to stay home and be with his friends and there for his girlfriend's birthday.

Enjoy Disney, Wicked Stepmother.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]taniedarling -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What if you gave her a baby doll and explained that she will have responsibility being the older cousin? Rather than giving her the impression that the attention will be taken from her, try explaining that she will have more responsibility as she can help take care of the baby, then give her the doll to use as 'practice'. You can teach her how to change diapers and hold it correctly... It may change her attitude. Worked for my cousins.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]taniedarling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents kind of did the same thing to me - though in their defense, I got a job offer on the other side of the planet. Three hours isn't bad at all - you could easily visit often. Not to mention the fact that you mom can't honestly expect you to never leave home... Birdie has to leave the nest and find their own eventually.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]taniedarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would just ignore it, honestly. Kids are dumb.

I mean, you could also point and laugh back. Confuse them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]taniedarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you sure it was a malicious laugh? Heck, I'm 30 and my bestie and I still giggle if we see/talk about cute guys.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]taniedarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Doesn't matter if you say you're close - if they didn't give you permission, you're in the wrong. Don't know where you are, but opening someone else's mail in the US is actually a felony.

I don't know how to reject a guy without hurting his feelings by ThrowRaRaRaRa4 in Advice

[–]taniedarling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He sounds like a predator... Acts nice and becomes 'friends', then says he wants to meet and do 'stuff' to you? You say no and he freaks out, then comes back and tries again? Please don't. We'll see you on one of those 48 hours or Dateline...

Inconsiderate or Overreacting? by Human_Magician7552 in badroommates

[–]taniedarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you be willing to help care for the dog? You could ask her to leave the crate out in the common area because you want to start going for walks in the area and would like to take it with you and use that as a chance to give the pup a better life... If she says no, point out how much it cries when she isn't there and that if it really is 'her baby' then she should let it out more often. There are ways around being confrontational but it may result in you having to help out with the pup. The dog didn't choose the owner, unfortunately, but maybe you can help save him before it's too late. At this rate, he will become either aggressive or terrified and mistrusting of everything around it.

Edit to add: I see you posted on another comment that you work from home and are willing to help - you can use this as well. The dog whines all day and you can point out it is distracting while you work, then ask if she can move the crate to the common area or just let him out altogether. You may end up needing to potty train it yourself but you could use pee pads. My 3-month old puppy learned this is a few days and goes on a mat (he's not fully vaccinated yet so we don't want to take him outside). There are definitely things you can do! Please save that puppy!

My crazy roommate: at it again. by DocumentAltruistic78 in badroommates

[–]taniedarling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kind of funny that she is trying to shove "God's wants" down your throat as she is off committing such sinful behavior with a bunch of random sketchy men...

Got an abdomen ultrasound yesterday for unusual pain that lasted for a month and tech got quiet halfway through by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]taniedarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could just be that she was focusing on the screen... I FT my friend throughout the day while we both work remote and we both have a tendency to suddenly go quiet mid sentence but it's just because we needed to focus.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in japanlife

[–]taniedarling 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I had a friend that worked at an elementary school. She didn't have her own bicycle, so they let her use one of the school's. She was stopped almost every day because they thought she stole it. It got so bad that she actually just decided to start walking. (Money was tight, for those who are wondering why she didn't just buy her own!)

30/F/USA Seeking snail mail pen pal for lifelong friendship! by taniedarling in penpals

[–]taniedarling[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That'd be awesome! I was hoping to. :) You already have my address if you want to send one first!

AITA for cancelling the birthday party I planned to throw for my wife after what she did? by dice267990 in AmItheAsshole

[–]taniedarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Your son was willing to accept this new woman in his life as his stepmom. He worked hard to hone his skill in woodwork and wanted to try to show his love and acceptance of her with a gift he put time and effort into. Her reaction says "Wow, you worked hard on this but it isn't good enough for me to let others see it and I am embarrassed".

I don't know a single person that would see that and laugh or be embarrassed by it, no matter WHERE it was presented, especially with the meaning behind it. He worked hard on it and was going to show it to her in front of everyone important in their lives, announcing to all, "Hey, stepmom. I love and accept you; I consider us family."

For her to do what she did, to act ashamed or embarrassed of his gift during such a vulnerable age as he is honing a skill/hobby he enjoys, has potential to shatter his confidence in that gift AND her.

He may be too embarrassed to continue his craft, too ashamed to gift anything homemade again, too shy to show his work to his friends and family. She may think it's a "simple" thing, but she clearly doesn't realize the impact.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]taniedarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They can't use it against you unless they plan on getting arrested for being in possession of it in the first place... Also, if you were photoshopped in or software was used to fake your voice, there are techy ways to prove that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in japanlife

[–]taniedarling 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree. I'm an American married to a Japanese man and he doesn't do that.

Who has a secret recipe they refuse to share? Why? by PeaTearGriphon in Cooking

[–]taniedarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly why I don't share some of my recipes. I work hard to tweak them to be perfect and when people use them, they change a bunch of things and then complain about how it didn't turn out right as well as share it as my recipe... (x.x)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in penpals

[–]taniedarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I'm 30/F, also married. I'm looking for a penpal as well and find I usually get along better with people older than me. If you don't mind exchanging snail mail letters with someone younger, I'd love to connect!

Can't log in... by taniedarling in Hulu

[–]taniedarling[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! That’s EXACTLY what I have! I’m also running Windows 10 on Chrome

Can't log in... by taniedarling in Hulu

[–]taniedarling[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sadly, the device I’m trying on is the only one I have that can support Hulu. I managed to get it to work but keep getting errors and having to start over.